The Secrets To a Successful Marriage

By Toby Sam

Successful marriage is made to all families but not available to all families. This is because you must decode the principles that make marriage successful. The secrets to a successful marriage are not cheap.

Any marriage that is succeeding today are paying prices. The prices are not cheap. It takes those who are diligent and wise to decode them. Inability to decode them will bring frustration, separation and divorce.

We reign by the knowledge we apply. Marriage has secrets that makes it work. The knowledge that makes marriages are universal. Once you know them, you begin to enjoy the blessing of marriage. Our world is filled with failed marriages today because of lack of understanding.

It is lack of understanding disallow couples not to commit to their marriages. Any marriage that lacks commitment will fail eventually. Don’t just be happy that you are married or your title has changed from “Miss to “Mrs.” or “Master” to “Mr.”. There are a lot of responsibilities that are attached to marriage.

Be determined to pursue knowledge and apply them in your life and marriage. I will be showing you some keys that make marriage successful. Once you understand and apply them, your marriage begins to succeed.

Toby Sam

• Language: English
• Publisher: TobySam
• Release date: Jun 25, 2021
• ISBN: 9784837872924

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Dedication

I dedicate this book to my queen, my love, my wife and mother of my children. Thanks for your full supports for me and the children.

Disclaimer

No part of this book should be considered legal or professional advice.

Take everything I say in this book as my opinion and regard it as entertainment.

You are responsible for your action by acting on the thought and views shared in this book.

INTRODUCTION

Successful marriage is made to all families but not available to all families. This is because you must decode the principles that make marriage successful. The secrets to a successful marriage are not cheap.

Any marriage that is succeeding today are paying prices. The prices are not cheap. It takes those who are diligent and wise to decode them. Inability to decode them will bring frustration, separation and divorce.

We reign by the knowledge we apply. Marriage has secrets that makes it work. The knowledge that makes marriages are universal. Once you know them, you begin to enjoy the blessing of marriage. Our world is filled with failed marriages today because of lack of understanding.

It is lack of understanding disallow couples not to commit to their marriages. Any marriage that lacks commitment will fail eventually. Don’t just be happy that you are married or your title has changed from Miss to Mrs. or Master to Mr.". There are a lot of responsibilities that are attached to marriage.

Be determined to pursue knowledge and apply them in your life and marriage. I will be showing you some keys that make marriage successful. Once you understand and apply them, your marriage begins to succeed.

CHAPTER ONE

MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT

Marriage is a covenant commitment with God and your spouse. But we often see husbands working so hard to keep their covenants with God in marriages and never with their partners. It is unbiblical and childish, trying to please God and you refuse to please your partner.

Cheating is unacceptable in marriage. Cheating is a sin. It has become a practice in our world. Many men cheat on their wives. Similarly, some women also cheat on their husbands. This is wickedness and the fear of God is missing out.

Because of the nature of my work as a marriage counsellor, I have addressed many cases. These are few cases:

Scenario 1: 

Two grown up men (man and woman) got married for nine months. During those nine months, the wife gave the husband sex only five times because according to her, the husband could not meet some of her financial demands. The husband had to rape his wife twice because she had been denying him sex. It was a bit forceful. The wife would always wear trouser jean to sleep. Therefore, there was no more sex for the man.

Scenario 2:

There is a couple with three children and are married for eight years. There was a mass retrenchment in the husband's office and for three years he has been without a job. The man tries his best to do little jobs in order to feed his family, however, their financial capacity has not been the same again. She still has no money as the woman has started her business in her old workplace and earns more money when she refused him have sex with her and she said, unemployed and useless man, calling him jobless and irresponsible man.

Their sexual life has been suffering. For more than three years, the wife has been denying her husband sex. She said he would give him sex until he got another job and took his place as the biggest breadwinner in the family. She left the bedroom and now sleeps with her children in the bedroom. He comes back every day at weird times of the night and says all kinds of contemptuous names to her when he meets.

Scenario 3:

A man married a career-freak lady. During the five years of marriage, the woman made a sex list for her husband. They have sex once a month, sometimes every two months because a woman says she's a career person, that she has target to meet. They only have one child. Her husband told her that they should look for another child, but she refuses to say that it will affect her career.

Friends, when I handled these cases, the wives were so insensitive when they were talking. They kept were blaming their husbands for cheating, that the Bible is not happy with adultery. Yet, they held on to their opinion of marriage.

Dear wives, it is anti-marriage to be selfish. Marriage is full of sacrifices, but don't allow the sacrifices of your man be extreme. It is dangerous for a man to make extreme sacrifices; he would lose his strength and ability. Only God can.

This is my marital experience. When we got married, we had little or nothing financially and materially; We were very concerned. I was the only one working there