Building Your Marriage on a Solid Rock

By Doris Grant and Rev Femi Morakinyo

Do you aspire to build a successful marriage? How do you break out to build a successful marriage when things aren't quite right? In this book pastor and counsellor Doris Grant, highlights some simple steps for working through marital issues and falling in love all over again. Some of the issues covered include; the challenges of early marriage and how to deal with them; using communication to resolve issues and release tensions; appreciation and acceptance of differences; improving intimacy and how to enjoy sex and resolve sexual problems.
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• Language: English
• Publisher: AuthorHouse UK
• Release date: Feb 3, 2012
• ISBN: 9781467882408

Doris Grant

In 1931 Doris Grant became ill with a severe rheumatic condition which would not respond to orthodox treatment. Only after taking up Dr. Hay’s food combining diet did she find her cure. She was the first emissary in the UK of the Hay Diet, and now in her 90s, the formidable Doris is still healthy with the Hay system. Her groundbreaking book, ‘Food Combining for Life’, written with Jean Joice, has sold over a million copies and has been translated into 15 languages. She lives in Poole, Dorset.

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Contents

Acknowledgement

Foreword

Introduction

Chapter 1

Chapter 2

Chapter 3

Chapter 4

Chapter 5

Chapter 6

Chapter 7

Chapter 8

Chapter 9

Chapter 10

Conclusion

Notes

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT 

This book will not have been possible but for the help and advice of a few people to whom I owe my sincere gratitude. I first began to learn about marriage from the teaching and counselling my dad gave me about marriage. My first thanks therefore goes to my late dad, Bishop Gaduga Gadson, who taught me the importance of love, commitment and respect in marriage, as well as how to accept my husband for who he is and not for who he might become. On a personal note, I would like to show sincere gratitude to my dear husband, Pastor Richard S. Grant, who made building and improving our marriage exciting and meaningful.

I would like to thank my father in Christ, Rev Femi Morakinyo for his excellent encouragement and constant training on counselling married couples. I thank my editor Dr Imose Itua, my supervisors, my dear friends Pastor Oduro and Pastor Joseph Amoah Kwakye, my mother in the lord Dr Josephine Kyambadde and Pastor Yemi Odularu.

Finally, I would like to thank all those who have shared their intimate and marriage struggles with me. Thank you for using your struggles to teach me how precious and unique marriage can be. It has been a privilege and I don’t take any of it for granted.

FOREWORD 

Shakespeare said The path of true love never did run smooth’. Despite our awareness that love can hurt, we keep falling in love. This shows that love can only grow with a few tears and develop in storm.

Love forms the basic foundation upon which marriage can be built.

Many waters cannot quench love, rivers cannot wash it away. If one were to give all wealth of his house for love, it would utterly scorned. (Song of Solomon 8:7)

Solomon, the wisest man, commanded that they brought great stones, costly stones and hewed stones to lay the foundation of the house (1 Kings 5:17).

The stones were hewn by the builders and the stone squarers. They prepared the stones to build the house. The house is talking about the home and home comes from marriage, not a physical structure. Relatively, the scriptures make us see that marriage is not for the immature but the mature man. The key to maturity is emotional maturity, not the maturity of age, loving one another in a self-giving way.

In 1 Kings 6:7, Solomon related that when the house founded in the previous chapters was being built, was made of stones prepared before it was brought thither. so that there was neither hammer, nor axes, nor any tool of iron heard in the house while it was being built. This is talking about noise because the home was built peacefully with no quarrels or fights, and no outbursts of any kind. Stone made ready.

Prophetess Doris is one rare gem. She is an interpreter of dreams, a preacher with a practical approach with testimonies in her private life and marriage. You can trust her to inspire and educate you to higher ground and to help you have a blissful home. The nugget in this book, if applied, can produce great results especially coming from someone like her. She emphasises that marriage can be enjoyed and not just endured if our priorities are placed right. I encourage you to read this book, practice the principles in your daily routine and you will begin to have outstanding success.

Apostle Femi Morakinyo.

Out-Break Revival Ministries International

Worldwide

INTRODUCTION 

The purpose of this book is to share what I have learned about Christian marriages. I wrote this book because I believe in a strong, lasting marriage. There are many aspects of a true marriage that need to be revealed so that Christians will benefit, resulting in highly productive and successful marriages. I believe that the typical teaching of the husband’s and the wife’s respective duties in a marriage relationship is inadequate and falls well below what is necessary to have a successful marriage. Everybody knows that true love is not always easy to get. But God ordained marriage and certainly want us to build our marriage on a solid rock for a secure and a healthy home.

This book is the result of years of counselling, interviews, personal insight and experiences, and the experiences of others.

No one is perfect and that means no marriage is perfect. Marriage is a work in progress that is never complete. It is made up of two individuals who have chosen to be together. As life continues we change and are forced to adjust to changes that occur in our marriage. We can only improve the areas in which we think something is changed or is missing by knowing what has changed or is missing in our marriage. When your expectation is to build your marriage on a solid rock then your motivation goes up and you find yourself doing everything you can to improve and make your marriage work.

Marriage can be beautiful if we acquire the necessary information about it from the right source. That source is the Holy scriptures. I pray that this book will be a blessing to you and result in a successful marriage relationship between you and your spouse, or your future spouse.

CHAPTER 1 

GOD’S PURPOSE FOR MARRIAGE

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My uncle Jimmy always said, ‘Marriage is like a party boat; you step on board when it is exciting and nice and you can decide to get off at any time when the party gets boring’. He was not right. On the contrary, marriage is a lifetime commitment and not a party boat; you are forever committed despite your feelings.

God said, ‘It is not good