My Marriage; My Work

By Sunday Anani

My Marriage; My Work: How I Became an Employee in Marriage is not one of the
books on marriage in bookstores. This is actually THE book. There are many books on the subject of marriage that use theory to convey their message but this uses the author's practical stories to give hope to those who fear marriage and who think true
marriage is not possible.

Written by a young author, My Marriage; My Work x-trays marriage from a youthful and experiential perspective. Many young people seek knowledge on marital issues before entering the union but they hardly find real stories from real marriages to satisfy their hunger for knowledge. This book, therefore, seeks to fill this gap by sharing the author's stories that are as practical as possible.
A major feature of this book is bluntness. The truth people need to read about marriage is laid out herein with so much sincerity that singles and couples need to read. It proffers solution to the problem of dearth of open discussions on marriage.
The book starts with the question of whether you should even marry as an individual.
It establishes a firm position that even though people usually have marital challenges, the best is still obtainable if partners are committed to the success of the home.
Pivotal discussions on sex, courtship, family finance, handling in-laws, delayed pregnancy, love language, third-party involvement and so on are thoroughly handled in this book.
As earlier said, this is not one of the books on marriage; it is THE book. Read this!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tebeba Publishers
• Release date: Oct 15, 2020
• ISBN: 9789789852307

Book preview

Olowude

Introduction

Marriage is the oldest company in the world. Established as early as the beginning of the world, marriage remains God�s most important tool for advancing His aim of man�s procreation and much more.

Marriage is a big company of only two primary employees. God is the Owner of the company and the employees are the husband and the wife. I illustrate marriage as a company that began when a man and a woman made application to God to form a new home. Their request was granted and they became employed in the marriage company.

In the conventional world system, employees are expected to work for the growth of the organisation they work for. In the same way, couples in marriages are expected to work for the growth and stability of the family they form. The failure to work for the home is one of the reasons some homes are dysfunctional.

A marriage on its own has no coloration. It only takes on the coloration of those who make it up. That is why it is unarguable that there are no bad marriages. We only have bad couples who make bad marriages.

I see myself as an employee in my marriage and I have to work for it to succeed. I have to work to make it an organisation that God will be proud of. I have to give attention to it the way I give attention to my work as an accountant.

We work for our home when we pray for it, commit to its growth, and provide for it financially, spiritually, emotionally etc. We become true employees of Marriage Company when we forgive our spouse when they offend us. We work for the home by defending it against adultery, intruders and the devil. We are good marriage employees when we don�t desecrate our marital vow or do anything that is against the tenets of marriage as God has founded it.

I became an employee in marriage by doing what I can through God�s grace to make my home a successful one. Will you commit to yours too?

If you want your marriage to work, you must be a worker in that marriage! Are you ready to do the work?

Chapter 1

Should I Even Marry?

In any society you find yourself, marriage is one of the subjects people talk about the most. Whether in a casual discussion with friends or in a formal gathering, marital discussions take a centre stage probably after money. If money is king, probably the bliss of a good home is the queen.

It is also interesting that people say a lot of negative things about marriage which can make you wonder if it is a union you should enter too. This is just as some others have good tales to tell.

The newspapers, radio and television stations, as well as the internet also spread the news of how marriages are breaking. TV programmes, film makers have portrayed marriage in such a manner that the average man is confused on marital issues. The staggering statistics on how marriages break could put the simple-minded in a perturbed mode.  Hardly does a day passes without a divorce case being filed or an actual separation happening somewhere in the world, regardless of whether it is reported in the dailies or not.

It is not uncommon to read of a man who killed his wife during a domestic fisticuff or vice-versa. Or at the least, a colleague at work could have told you about a couple they know, and how they never had peace beyond their honeymoon before the marriage crashed. Different reasons could be responsible for sad incidences like this. More often than not, it could border on childlessness or because they just could not stay together.

On another note, your fears about marriage may be from your parents. Perhaps they didn�t model what you think a good marriage should be. It could also be that your close friend fell into the arms of a wrong man; a man who turned a beast overnight. The possible scenarios are just endless.

Put together, they (among many others) could make you:

Decide not to marry at all.

Question the purpose of marriage.

Think that all marriages are façade.

Hold that there is no true love anywhere.

Form a wrong impression about the institution of marriage. (In some clime like the UK and America, marriage is no longer desirable due to societal value).

Dread marriage if you choose to marry at all.

Yet, whatever conclusion you have right now...

What if you come to believe that for every news of divorce you hear, there are more stable homes (that are not in the news) where peace reigns every single day and that you could indeed have such a home?

What if you come to believe that for every husband/wife that abuses his/her spouse, there are more men/women who adore and cherish their spouses, and that you could indeed be one of them?

What if you come to believe that for every fear you nurse about marriage, there is the King of Peace who is reassuring you that He is still interested in making homes where the couples are committed to living peacefully and lovingly?

What if you come to believe that you can determine the kind of marriage you will be in if you do the right thing, in just the right way and at just the right time, all by God�s grace?

What if you choose to dispel the seed of fear the world plants to discredit the institute of marriage as founded by God?

What if you come to believe that God, who is the author of marriage, is the One to trust and not what the media and men of scorn peddle about?

What if you come to believe that your hope in God for a spouse that will make you have the kind of home your heart