Understanding Marriage

By Emeka Mbegbu

No two marriages are the same, but success has a pattern. It is not by accident. It can be taught and learnt. This also applies to success in marriage. This is the purpose of this book. It is a standard textbook for marriage.

Understanding Marriage is a practical guide to a successful marriage. The author, after giving a lot of quotations of great men and women concerning marriage (consisting of the good, the bad, and the ugly), goes ahead to give different definitions of marriage and guidance to courtship, love, and submission. All causes of problems in marriage are fully covered, with frequently asked questions fully answered.

The book is a panacea to those marriages that are hurting, a must-read for intending couples, and a handbook for marriage counsellors.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Partridge Publishing Africa
• Release date: Jun 14, 2016
• ISBN: 9781482863468

Emeka Mbegbu

Paulinus Chukwuemeka Mbegbu is a chartered accountant and a graduate of University of Benin, Benin City. He was a former chief inspector of Universal Trust Bank Plc. (now part of Union Bank of Nigeria Plc.) He is presently the managing partner of Emeka Mbegbu & Co. (Chartered Accountants) based in Lagos. He has attended a lot of training courses both locally and internationally, especially in the area of information technology and forensic audit, and has served as a member of the strategic planning committee of the Chartered Institute of Bankers of Nigeria (CIBN). He is a popular facilitator in such areas as fraud control, bank lending, credit examination, financial analysis, and corporate restructuring. He is called as a teacher (Ephesians 4:11), and his writing ministry manifests through his publications, Understanding Bible Series. He is happily married with four children—two boys and two girls.

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© 2016 by Emeka Mbegbu.

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Contents

Chapter 1 What Is Marriage

Chapter 2 Courtship

Chapter 3 Love And Submission

Chapter 4 Problem Areas In Marriage

Chapter 5 Frequently Asked Questions (Faqs)

Chapter 6 Final Quotes

PREFACE

God instituted marriage. It is the will of God for marriages to work so that his heritage, children, would be brought up in a peaceful, love-filled environment. However, many marriages today are short of the ideal.

Many couples have wrong notions of what marriage is all about. The various notions about marriage, right or wrong, are captured in the various quotations in some parts of this book, whose sources are hereby acknowledged, particularly the Happy Wives Club. Some do not even know how they got into marriage. Instead of looking for a way forward, they are looking for a way out. Marriage is to be enjoyed and not endured, as the popular saying goes.

It is imperative to understand marriage before going into it. Several definitions of marriage have been examined. Then, what is an ideal marriage? From the survey conducted by the author, a marriage is said to be perfect or ideal if, and only if,

1. It starts with God and stays with God.

2. It is blessed with children.

3. It is romantically satisfying and sexually fulfilling.

4. It is generally accepted by the in-laws.

5. It is rich enough to provide for the need, not the greed, of every member of the family

6. There is rich fellowship between the couple.

Is this achievable? That’s the subject of this book. It is a handbook for singles, a must read for marriage counselors and a prescription to those whose marriages are presently hurting.

The Author

Dedicated to my wife

Mrs. Virginia Chinua Mbegbu

QUOTES ON MARRIAGE

Marriage, the family unit, was the original Department of Health, Education and Welfare. Michael Novak

Show me a man who is smiling from ear-to-ear and living a beautiful life, and I’ll show you a man who is grateful for what he has and utterly in love with his wife. Fawn Weaver

There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps. Ronald Reagan

Don’t compare your love story to those you watch in movies. They’re written by screenwriters, yours is written by God. Unknown

To get the full value of joy, you must have someone to divide it with. Mark Twain

No matter how expensive the pillow is, it could never be as comfortable as my husband’s shoulder. Unknown

Being married is like having a color