Succeed in the dating market: seduce the woman of your life

By Karri Lemmetty

Did you know that people in a relationship feel happier than others. Prolonged loneliness is even dangerous, according to research! Do you remember how it feels like to experience the fever of falling in love? Maybe you're a young person hoping for your first love to ignite, but you don't have the gasoline and matches. "Succeed in the dating market", the book that will give you the tools to overcome the difficulties, experience the thrill of falling in love and get into the relationship of your dreams. The book reveals the secrets of relationship building, from first contact to the balanced relationship, with examples and easy-to-understand text. We cover topics such as how to approach a woman, how and what to talk about on a date to evoke emotions, how to turn a phone number into a date through text messages and learn the secrets of how to naturally attract women through body language. And while you're at it, we'll help you get your best weapon - your confidence - in shape and order. I know how hard it is to find a good and lasting relationship in today's world. I was once in the same situation. Now, as the proud father of two wonderful children, I can reveal my secrets to you.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Books on Demand
• Release date: May 21, 2021
• ISBN: 9789528044079

Karri Lemmetty

Karri Lemmetty, father of two, engineer. A man who has learned to understand the minds of women and people in general, and to be comfortable in social situations by reading mountains of literature and testing his knowledge with scientific precision.

Book preview

Succeed in the dating market

Succeed in the dating market

1) Foreword

2) Goals

3) Gender roles

4) Playbook

5) Self-confidence

6) Body Language

7) Approach

8) Tests

9) How to create love

10) What to chat on a date

11) Text dating

12) How to Avoid the Biggest Mistakes

13) Final words

Copyright

Succeed in the dating market

-Seduce the woman of your life

Karri Lemmetty

1) Foreword

Each of us can become a charming gentleman in the eyes of women. It doesn’t matter whether you are an executive director, a beginning artist starting out as a cashier in a grocery store, or even a future engineer studying for the first year in university. To be successful with women, or anything else for that matter, you need to have the adequate skills and knowledge on the subject. This book will reveal to you the many secrets and practical experiences needed to be successful with women. Roughly divided, there are two types of men who can be successful with women. There are those who possess these skills naturally or inherently, and those who have acquired them through hard work and study. I myself belong to the latter group.

I am not saying that learning these skills will be easy. That is by no means what it is. Nor am I saying that just by reading this book you will instantly become the number one choice coveted by all women. However, I promise this book will be a quick shortcut past the most common mistakes that normal men make on an unfortunately regular basis when trying to seduce women. In addition, by reading the book, your world of thought about women will settle into its true victorious channel that fascinates women.

The learning process on how to fascinate women can be compared to the learning process of how to ride a bicycle. I bet everyone remembers how difficult it was when they were little. You had to have training wheels on your bike to even keep it upright. At first, your father had to give you a boost to get your bike even moving. Then the training wheels were raised a little at a time. At times, you drove without them for a while until suddenly someday they  disappeared and you drove like a wind along the lands and neighborhoods. Just as the art of cycling has been, these skills with women will be useful for the rest of your life.

However, let’s go back to these so-called children of nature, the guys who instinctively appear flawlessly in the eyes of women. By inherently is a little misleading term because even they learnt these skills from somewhere. No one gets the ability to seduce women from the breast milk. It is likely that these children of nature have succeeded in accumulating skills throughout their lives by imitating their male acquaintances. Considering how the mother and other females around him reacts to men’s behavior, etc. Whether it’s real life, movies or fiction, they have had the ability to pick up things that appeal to women. The problem for them, however, is that they don’t know why things work the way they do. They are used to doing so and often it has paid off. They hardly analyse it or even think about how they are interacting with women. For them this all happens completely naturally. This will inevitably lead to problems. Unless you know what each trick does and why it works, you may not know what you’re doing right or wrong and where you could improve. You’ll probably use the ways you’ve learned randomly until that right option happens to hit the spot. Imagine playing poker. You may have a strong sense and feeling of the right way to play but if you don’t understand the probabilities you will sooner or later lose your money to someone who understands them well.

With this book, you will learn these tricks and know what skill to use in the current situation. Let’s go back to the bike and place the natural child as its rider. They know how to ride, sometimes breaking a little bit of the rules, but when a bike breaks down, they put a finger in their mouth and look amazed. When you read this book, you will have tools to fix the bike in addition to just driving skills. You’ll probably get it in even better shape than it was before it broke up! So congratulate yourself for not being the child of nature in these matters. You have made a wise decision by purchasing this book and deciding to study these things from top to bottom.

Sounds too good and too promising so far to be true? Perhaps now you start thinking of the legendary ads from the shopping channel with their abtronics and aroma nests. Or why would you even believe me? Or the fact that one book can change the direction of your life with women in general? I will now tell you my own short story and the reasons for writing this book.

My life at a young age was very easy with women. I was high on my social status. I was in a popular group of friends during middle school and high school. I played hockey in the winter and baseball in the summer. (By talking about baseball I mean Finnish version of it. You should check it out. It's a very fast and different game if you compare it to the American alternative.) I was in good shape and took good care of myself. I even used alcohol on a very low profile, three or four times per year. Only on special events like the summer solstice and the new year. I have been in various relationships almost all the time since I can remember. My last relationship lasted seven years and ended when I was just about to graduate from the University of Technology. We break up as friends, as the gentleman should do.

What all these relationships had in common was that each partner knew me for a longer period of time through school. They have had time to attach themselves and get to know me in a certain way. After all, being in school at a young age is a big part of the time and life. Thus, affection and trust had often grown over a very long period of time and waited for the right moment to be fulfilled. I knew them before and that's why it was easy to approach them. We already had a connection and it was always fun to joke about the teachers and fellow peers, for example.    

Being on the eve of graduating as a single at the age of 25, I invested the rest of my school time in completing my studies. After graduating and slowly recovering from the separation, the old good and safe school network with its gorgeous women was a life left behind.

As a side note, I recommend taking a moment to get over the divorce. It’s good to think about what went wrong and what to do differently next time. After that, dispose of bad memories and keep the good ones. Heading too fast to a new relationship is usually detrimental for both parties.

It will not always be easy to break up, especially if it has come as a surprise. At the moment of separation, it may seem that the whole world is collapsing. The cause is found in the brain. The brain is the world’s largest drug dealer. In love they inject many hormones that make us float in the clouds. For example, oxytocin, which strengthens a person's confidence and attachment to another person. Suffering from these withdrawal symptoms is an unfortunate part of the divorce process. But don’t worry, when you fall in love again, the medicine cabinet will be open once again.

As the women began to spin in my mind again, I found myself completely glueless in the yard of the singles market. What worked during high school didn’t work anymore. And I didn’t know if the previous tactics would have been even very successful without my good status in the school world. So I walked into the library and borrowed a bunch of literature on psychology and human relations. The beginning was difficult because I had taken exactly one psychology course in high school and completed six worth of it on scale four to ten. The only reason I attended the course, if I remember correctly, was a dream girl who studied one class lower.

After visiting the library, a pile of books lay on my kitchen table. I immediately started to study them with enthusiasm and engineering precision. Results with the opposite sex began to get better little by little. I realized I had previously made huge mistakes with women without even knowing it. Thinking afterwards, it’s pretty weird to think how bad but yet very popular I was in the eyes of women. Perhaps no one else had a better knowledge of it or the trends were very different. Maybe younger girls weren't so nitpicky like some of them are today because of social media. As I studied, my habit was to write accurate notes about different encounters and what could be said differently in that situation or how one should behave to achieve the best possible outcome. Whenever I was preoccupied with something or the situation did not go as planned I went back to the books or consulted with my friends to find the answer to the problem. In this way, I collected one grain of gold from there and another grain from here. These tools and skills are now available to everyone through this book. Most importantly, these skills and knowledge will help you for the rest of your life. Not only when looking for the woman of your dreams but also to keep the relationship fresh and fascinating. Let this book serve you like a treasure map. It tells you how to overcome the challenges that come your way on your journey towards the woman of your dreams. Get up with determination and prepare. The most important voyage of your life is about to begin.

What made me write this book and why do I want to reveal these secrets to others? There are many reasons for this. Following are the most important ones. The spark to write this book ignited when I found my old notes while we were moving to a new detached house. My wife and I needed a bigger house, due to the birth of another child. I was also about to start my paternity leave, so I thought it would be nice to test, if I only had time, during the leave, a writer’s career. At the same time in the media, there was lots of discussion on the low birth rate that negatively affected the balance of population pyramid and future forecasts. Also there were lots of writings on the topic how hard it is nowadays to find a partner and how so many youngsters