Become A Warrior Woman: 9 Rules to sort your shit

By Jen Wilson

Do you want to change your life? Have you let your hopes and dreams fade as you fit into other people’s expectations and plans?  Does the person staring back at you in the mirror need some help to find passion and get motivated?  

The 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit is a no-nonsense approach to being he

• Language: English
• Publisher: Warrior Woman Media
• Release date: Dec 19, 2016
• ISBN: 9780995707016

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BECOME A

WARRIOR

WOMAN

9 Rules to sort your shit

jen wilson

Published in 2016 by Warrior Woman Media

Copyright © Jen Wilson 2016

Jen Wilson has asserted her right to be identified as the author of this Work in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act 1988

ISBN Paperback: 978-0-9957070-0-9

Ebook: 978-0-9957070-1-6

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording or otherwise, without the prior permission of the copyright owner.

A CIP catalogue copy of this book can be

found in the British Library.

Author photograph © Julie Broadfoot

Published with the help of Indie Authors World

Dedication

To my Soulmates

Chapter 1

The Creation Story

I belie ve that the ultimate goal in life for us is to be happy and that is why I have written this book 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit and created an amazing coaching programme for women in the Warrior Woman Project Academy.

There was a time in my life where I felt lost, stuck, and living in Groundhog Day. And when I started working with my coaching clients I discovered that, that is pretty much how they felt too. Or in other words, they felt shit. The fact that you are reading this book suggests you may be in that same place. The good news for you my dear reader is you are not alone.

I have overcome some interesting challenges in my life so far and I am also continually working on the new ones that seem to be thrown my way. These challenges I believe are just to keep us on our toes and keep learning and growing as humans.

The good news for all of us is that we are a lifelong project and that is why my company is the Warrior Woman Project and not just Warrior Woman. Through this book I am going to share with you how to get unstuck, how to understand who you are, how to find ways to love yourself (hopefully more, but for some of you it will be to love yourself), learn that it is okay to be selfish (from the positive meaning of the word) and how to use the 9 Rules to Sort Out Your Shit.

I am Jen Wilson and I am the founder and creator of the Warrior Woman Project.

From this very first chapter I need to request something from you. I want you to take full responsibility for everything you think about while reading this book and every action you take as the consequence of reading it.

Why do I ask you for that sort of commitment?

There are generally 3 types of people who have an opinion around self-help/personal development books / coaching programmes / courses:

There are the ones who think it’s all juju woo woo nonsense and want no part of it (I have a couple of very close friends in this band) and will probably roll their eyes at you when they see you reading it. If you are not this person, ignore them, this is about you and what works for you. If you are this person, maybe read the book anyway with an open mind.

Then there are the ones who buy every book, go on every course, take in all the knowledge and can tell everyone else how to solve their lives worries but never actually take action on it themselves (I also have a couple of very close friends in this band). If you are this person, I hope that something I say inspires you to make even one change in your life. Let’s be honest here; you are looking for something in the reading. If you know someone like this, give them a copy of this book for their collection.

The one’s who read, listen, learn and take action (I also have a couple of close friends in this band too and I am this person) which is where I hope to inspire you to be, you being the Warrior Woman action taker ready to sort your shit.

I am going to take a stab in the dark that it is unlikely you are not No.1 on that list, unless of course you have picked up the book by accident or been given it as a gift (maybe give it a read through anyway, you never know, you might just enjoy it).

To give you a bit of my background and how this all came about, my story starts on 21st September 2010 with this guy (Brian, now a close friend) who came to talk at my college about a thing called NLP (neurolinguistics programming). NLP is what I discovered to be a life changing way of reprogramming our brains so that we deal with the world in a more positive way and it helps you let go the limiting beliefs that can hold us back from allowing ourselves to be the best version of ourselves. Little did I know when I sat in that classroom listening to some stories that something Brian said would change my life so drastically.

Less than 2 weeks after that day at college I sat down and had a life changing conversation with my husband that would end our marriage and have him move back to Australia (his homeland).

In that conversation, everything that I thought was forever was no more. He was homesick and wanted to move back home to Australia and the reason we had moved back to Scotland was because I was homesick in Australia. There was no way to work round it and I am not the kind of person who would allow someone to make them self unhappy just to make me happy. Life and relationships don’t work that way.

My whole life as I thought I knew it was upside down and me, being me, told the world I was ‘fine’, it was the ‘right thing for both of us’. Of course my ‘fine’ was a lie and I held it together by partying my nights away, and spending my days busy with college work, setting up a business with my friend, working out, eating junk food, having beers for breakfast on the days I didn’t need to drive… For about 9 months there was a whole lot of denial, distraction and numbing going on in my world.

My denial that I was anything other than ‘fine’ came to a breaking point, and then there were tears, and lots of them. I even got fed up with my own crying. My head was all over the place, I just wanted to be alone so I didn’t need to talk to anyone, everything was spinning and I couldn’t get a thought straight in my head. That was when I started to get some NLP coaching (with Brian) and gradually put my life back together.

This wasn’t the first time I had been through a significant change in my life, but it was the first time that I really felt that I needed a helping hand to get through it all. Admitting you need someone to help you and asking for it can feel like a massive challenge in itself, especially if you have always been someone who has managed to sort your head out on your own in the past.

About 18 months before my divorce I went through a career change. After spending 13 years in the travel industry I was no longer inspired or motivated and knew that I needed to do something drastic to change it. Life then felt so difficult, I didn’t want to go to work, it was depressing to get up out of bed, some days I really struggled to get through the day without thinking ‘is this really all I have to look forward to for the rest of my life?’

There are many stages in life that those questions come up ‘have I taken the right path?’, ‘is this it?’, ‘am I missing out on something exciting?’, ‘am I too old to make changes?’ The answer to that last question is no, you are not too old and it’s not too late, not until you take your last breath is it too late to make a decision where your happiness is improved.

I didn’t know it at the time, but that talk given by Brian in 2010 and the conversation with my now ex-husband was the birth place of the Warrior Woman Project and now the 9 Rules to Sort Your Shit. I realised that I could help other women who like me felt challenged by making changes in their life but know that it is something we just need to do. The challenges I faced not just through my divorce but also the complete change in career at the ripe age of 30 has helped me understand and shape this programme into something that is easy to follow and through my own experience and the clients I have worked with, it is really effective and adaptable to different situations.

Welcome to your journey.

For me the meaning of Warrior Woman comes from my love of the history of the Vikings where the women stood fearlessly on the front line, strong, confident, believing in themselves and fighting for what they believed in. Since then throughout history there have been many