Finally I Like Myself
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At a young age, we are programmed for self-doubt by the way people speak to us, act towards us, judge us, compare us. Often we allow the feeling of "I am not good enough" to become "I am not good." Too often we judge ourselves negatively and lose self-confidence. Told through the simple story of his own life and struggles, Mr. Skillin shows you how to move on from self-doubt and make self-confidence the dominant force in your life.
Joseph Skillin
Joseph Skillin's education helped him to understand people and their needs. He spent four years studying post-grad philosophy. He has been motivating people ever since, starting in the slums of Oakland, Ca. in the 1970's. After he moved to Boston, he founded the Center for Motivation and Achievement, teaching motivation techniques to corporate and general audiences. Now retired, he still motivates people through his writings, public speaking engagements and volunteer activities. He can be reached at Joe@skillinmarketing.com
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Finally I Like Myself - Joseph Skillin
PREFACE
While this book is not a typical self-improvement handbook, it offers a lot to learn about self-confidence. It is the story of my own struggles with self-doubt while desperately grasping for that illusive personal calm we find in self-confidence. It took me many years into adulthood before I could say, Finally I like myself.
For all of us, life is a constant wrestling match between self-doubt and self-confidence. I tell my story in the hope that it will help you better understand that wrestling match and come to the point where you declare self-confidence the uncontested winner.
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
Finally, I was able to write this book thanks to several people who have greatly influenced my sense of confidence…..
First, Jesus. The miracle worker, always forgiving and encouraging, always saying I am special and magnificent. The seed of Self-confidence.
To Brené Brown. Her pattern of: I am good enough, I belong, I should be good to myself, I am worthy. Her words have inspired me. She has gathered so many good and important thoughts and expressed them so clearly that they have profoundly influenced my thinking about Self-confidence.
Likewise John Boyle, founder of the Omega Seminar. Over many years, attendees were impressed by the seminar but I was inspired by it! This book is so much a reflection of Omega.
INTRODUCTION
I feel very self-confident these days. Mostly, I appear and act with confidence. My nephew says I radiate it. Some read it as cocky or conceit. Without denying that these two reside in me, I think mostly that my nephew is correct -- what I have and portray is honest confidence, self-confidence. I have trust in myself.
I wasn’t always this way. As a child, although I grew up in a loving family, my childhood dominant feeling was not self-confidence, but self-doubt. Everyone has doubts. As adults, we hold doubts about what we can do, how we present ourselves, what people think of us. We were not born with self-doubt. The philosophers say we start life as a tabula rasa
, a blank page. They state that individuals are born without built-in mental content, and, therefore all knowledge comes from experience or perception. Self-doubt is placed upon us through our early experiences and by what we perceive from them. When Mother gave me a teething ring and then neglected me for what seemed like forever, I may have perceived that I was not as special as I thought I was. An impression, a mark of self-doubt on my tabula rasa. Or when I was four and my dad claimed, You’re a bad boy!
, I ramped up some serious self-doubt. And so it goes. While we were not born with self-doubt, influential people prompted us to have serious doubts about ourselves from a very young age. Soon I’ll tell you some stories about my own experiences and perceptions that had me doubting myself at a very early age.
How I morphed from that self-doubt to self-confidence is the story of this book, my story, the decades of slow progression that eventually turned negative feelings into positive feelings. In some ways my story is ordinary. Thousands of people struggle to overcome self-doubt and live confident, fulfilling lives. So can you.
I’m not a doctor or psychologist. I tell my personal story with the simple hope that my road might inspire just one person, you, to change self-doubt into self-confidence. You put this book in your hands because something in the title clicked with you. Perhaps you doubt yourself too much. Maybe you have that debilitating feeling that you’re not worthy, not good enough. Maybe you look at your friends and feel, I can’t really compete with them. I don’t really belong in this crowd.
Perhaps there is a strong and persistent jealousy that you have carried for years, jealous of a sibling, an old friend, a work associate. Before increasing your self-confidence significantly, you need to admit your self-doubts. You don’t have to understand fully their genesis or why they seem to persist, creeping across your soul like a vine, wrapping you in their persistence. All you need do is admit that they exist. If you can clearly identify them, that is a plus, a good start.
You can change. On your own or with professional help doesn’t matter. For years, I didn’t like myself. Now, finally I like myself. I trust myself. I am comfortable with myself. If I have been able to change, so can you. It took me years. But with support and help and the tools available today, you can change quickly. Gradually, but relatively quickly. You can start to feel better about yourself in one to two months if you work at it. It’s a process, so time and dedication are necessary. If you use the