The Eye Within the Soul; 9 Principles of Creating the Life You Desire

By Sinead O' Hare

Are you ready to change and create the life you have always imagined?

If you are ready to change your life, then this is the book for you; it is passionate, compelling, heartfelt. It challenges you to do the work yourself and search for the eye within the soul to find the answers that you need. Sinead talks about life experiences growing up in Northern Ireland and the challenges she had endured in her life. She talks from her personal and professional knowledge as a psychotherapist, and she puts all this together to help you create the life that you desire. By using these secrets of personal and professional success, she will challenge you to be honest with yourself. It will take you through a journey of learning how to stop being a victim of other peoples actions and circumstances, how to love yourself, how to forgive, and how to use other success principles like the law of attraction, visualization, affirmations, and change of how you think about things and much, much more. Its your own personal therapy session.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: May 22, 2017
• ISBN: 9781504379717

Sinead O' Hare

Sinead O' Hare is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker/ Psychotherapist, reiki Practitioner who has used her own life experience growing up in Northern Ireland in the midst of what was called the 'Troubles', the war between the English and the Irish, along with other traumatic life experiences including drugs, death and more and used her life experiences to heal from within and grow and has always known that her higher purpose was to serve others and help others heal from trauma and create amazing lives for them selves from within. Sinead has backpacked through Thailand, Australia and traveled to many other counties. Sinead was born and raised in Northern Ireland and moved to America in her 20's and has pursued her dream of becoming a therapist and Author. Sinead works with victims of crime and forensics with individuals who have mental health issues and addictions who are involved in the criminal justice system. Sineads Mission is to help others achieve inner peace and happiness and create greatness.

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CONTENTS

Introduction

1   You Are Not a Victim

2   Facing the Truth

3   Blaming and Ego

4   How May I Serve You?

5   Acceptance and Forgiveness

6   You Are the Creator of Your Life

7   Visualization

8   Higher Power

9   Love Yourself

Conclusion

You see, my friend, we all have the answers within.

You just have to know how to reach them.

—Sinead O’ Hare

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dedicate this book to my mother Catherine Mcvarnock for always being there for me and supportive of my dreams and aspirations.

INTRODUCTION

Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, either way, you are right.

—Henry Ford

I DECIDED TO write this book because (1) I have had a burning desire to share a story with you all since I was young, (2) I have felt an inner guidance that we will discuss later in the book, and (3) because I know in today’s world so many people have been victims of some form of trauma at some point in their lives. Everyone has gone through difficult times and may have been victimized as a child or an adult, and it may have been out of their control. What usually happens is that most people don’t get the support and help that they need for many reasons; the crime or vic- timization may be kept secret out of fear, shame, and guilt. The trauma that you may have gone through in your lives through childhood or adulthood can be considered some-what normal, until one day, you realize that it wasn’t nor- mal. Therefore, people begin to try and cope and develop coping strategies by themselves without professional or family support. Many of these coping skills end up becom- ing self-destructive and cause problems for you later down the road when you really don’t know any other way to live, and the negative effects of these self-destructive behaviors come to surface.

All of the suggestions discussed in this book are for per- sonal growth and health. Please seek professional help if you feel it is necessary; you are not alone in this journey. I have chosen to write this book in a manner that allows you to feel that I am talking to you. The purpose of this book is not to show how many scientific and big words I know, which may not be that many! But I want you to feel that this is directed at you.

However, this book also serves as purpose for those who feel they have not been through trauma but still deal with the difficult situations and events that life may throw at them. This book will help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

My life has been eventful; I am twenty-nine years old as I begin to write this book, and I feel like by the time I was eighteen, I had experienced many things that someone of my age usually does not experience. I was going down a path that was undesirable; life could have led me in many directions, however I was able to turn it around. At the time I remember it not being easy, but at the same time while I was going through all this stuff I knew deep down in my heart that it served a purpose, and I knew that eve- rything that was happening was going to somehow play a part in my future.

I do not know how I knew this, but it was a feeling I had on the inside; this is what I call The Eye Within The Soul. Throughout my life, I have been able to connect to this inner guidance; you may call this intuition, spirit, God, Higher Power, the universe. For the purpose of this book, I am calling it the Eye Within The Soul." It has helped guide me in life to understand and believe that I and We all have the answers within us to create the life that we want, to make decisions with the power to know that it is the right decision at the time. Sometimes you may ignore The Eye Within The Soul because you don’t want to believe it or you know deep down you are not making the right deci- sion but you choose to anyway.

A prime example of this is in relationships when a part- ner is not treating you right, and you know you deserve more or you block or deny that they may be cheating on you or not treating you how you want to be treated, and you let it go because you don’t want to be without that person, but deep down inside, you know the best decision to make; however, you may not make it. My advice to you in this book is that if you listen to the Eye Within The Soul, you will be guided to greatness because you are following your own life purpose.

As a disclaimer, I want it to be known that anything I discuss with my upbringing is not to offend anyone. I am simply discussing my personal experiences.

I grew up in Northern Ireland (Belfast). I grew up with my sister, who was two years older than me, and my older brother. My mum, who was a single mother, often worked two to three jobs at a time to survive. My dad was originally from Ireland and moved to America when I was three; the whole family moved when I was five, and then my mum, brother, sister, and I came back about nine months after we arrived. My dad continued to live there, and we stayed in Ireland. Ireland will always be my home, and it is part of my heart. It is quite ironic (not really, since I don’t believe in coincidence) that I am living in Florida today. I believe that everything is mapped out for us. So Ireland was my home growing up. In Ireland at the time, there was a lot of violence; we grew up in constant fear. It wasn’t all bad, and things that were happening were kind of seen as the norm at the time. There was the rivalry between the Protestants and Catholics. When you are born, you are born into a divide. Catholics and Protestants were segregated in schools, lived in separate areas, and feared ever going into the opposite side for fear of getting beaten up or killed. There were a lot of killings going on. Protestants, Catholics, children, and adults—it didn’t matter. If one side killed someone, there would be a retaliation attack. So from a young age, you were constantly aware of this fear.

I would have to give myself a different name; we were molded to be careful about whom we talked to and what we said. Whenever my friends and I would go to the city center and anyone ever asked me my name, I would say Lindsey because my name is Sinead, and automatically any- one knows that this an Irish name and therefore a Catholic name. I used Lindsey because of one year when we went on a school trip. I’m not exactly sure how old I was, but I had to be around twelve years old. We went on a trip that was integrated for both Catholics and Protestants, and I became friends with a girl named Lindsey; she had red hair, and I remember the feeling that I had. I remember we got along really well, but I also felt as though I was doing something wrong, like it was forbidden, and I knew that after the trip we would not be able to be friends anymore because she would never come to my neighborhood, and I would never go to hers. And what was this over? It’s not really about religion; some may say it’s about greed, power, and control, but along the road, a lot of families have endured a lot of hurt and pain on both sides. I’m saying all this because it is relevant to overcoming events that have happened in your life and about what really matters.

Every summer there would be riots, always around July 12. There were riots throughout the year also, but it always got worse around the 12th. This would happen because one side wanted to march in another side’s areas. Kids and adults were throwing petrol bombs! One side rioting with the other side, police jeeps, geared-up police with helmets and shields, plastic bullets fired, shotguns, rifles—this was the norm. And it is still happening, not to the same degree, but there are still riots, segregation, hurt, and pain.

I will never forget one summer when my friends and I were in our town playing. I think we must have been around twelve or thirteen years old, and it was a summer day. I remember seeing these men jump on top of a roof of a supermarket (a local one) and come back down with balaclavas on and guns. The next thing we knew, buses were being hijacked and set on fire, police were out, and full- scale riot began: petrol bombs being thrown and plastic bullets being shot. I remember running and hiding as the police jeeps were chasing us; what seemed as the norm back then was unbelievable to me that this happened and, on some level, is still happening all over the world. I could not even imagine myself living through some of the things we saw as kids.

Is this behavior different from any other country and what they are fighting for? Racism? Is it different from rac- ism or what’s going on in Iraq?

I remember growing up, and every morning I would come running down the stairs to watch cartoons (our front door was at the bottom of the stairs), and every time I would run down excited to get the TV first before my brother or sister. As soon as I would get to the bottom, I would scream and jump because I was