The Power of Can't: And How to Rid It Out of Your Life

By Kennan Cooley

Does success seem impossible to achieve? Take a short journey with the author and find out how she has reversed the burden of the word "can't" and found her "can". Discover the power of "can't" and how to rid it out of your life!

Through personal stories and insights, you will find this book to be inspiring, empowering and informative. You will learn how to see the trials that you endure as more than just setbacks. Your defeats and disappointments will become stepping stones towards victory. Above all, you will enjoy a new way of thinking and find true happiness.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu.com
• Release date: Feb 25, 2017
• ISBN: 9781365682094

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THE POWER OF CAN’T

And How To Rid It Out Of Your Life!

By

Kennan Cooley

Copyright © 2020

All Rights Reserved This book or any portion thereof may not be reproduced or used in any manner whatsoever without the express written permission of the author and publisher except for the use of brief quotations in a book review or scholarly journal.

ISBN: 978-1-387-20861-6

Second Edition 2020

Cover photo by Oasis Productions Inc. 

www.oasisproductionsinc.com 

Dedication

I want to dedicate this book to God first as He is the only reason I have the ability to write by his gifting and something to share by His grace.

I want to thank my kids, Austin & Kory for being mine and loving me. I love you dearly. You inspire me to do more and love endlessly.

To my family and friends – mad love for you! Thanks for your support, critiques, advice and encouragement!

To my readers – thanks for your support and love! May this book bless you and give you the desire to bless others!

This book is intended to help you release your can’t – and find happiness and success through your can! Allow your mind and spirit to receive all this book has to give!

1. THE DEFINITION OF CAN’T

We learn our limitations

Can’t and fear are BFFs

Defining fear in your life

2. MY LIFE HAS BEEN FULL OF CAN’T

I was born into can’t

My skin color says I can’t

I can’t be a wife anymore

I can’t forgive

3. MIRACLES HAPPEN IN THE MIDDLE OF CAN’T

Sell your house on short sale

Jesus came in the middle of a can’t situation

4. THERE IS POWER IN CAN’T

Your will vs. your mind

Don’t chase your can’t

Know your truth

Decide what you can and can’t do

5. RETROACTIVE FORGIVENESS

Evicting bad tenants

The decision of forgiveness

The buck stops here

Emotional constipation

6. TRANSFORM YOUR MIND

Reciprocity

Small is the new big

Living in favor

Reimagine

7. HOW DO I FIND MY CAN

CHAPTER 1

THE DEFINITION OF CAN’T

The word ‘can’t’ makes strong people weak, blinds people who can see, saddens happy people, turns brave people into cowards, robs a genius of their brilliance, causes rich people to think poorly, and limits the achievements of that great person living inside us all.

-Robert Kiyosaki

What does the word can’t mean to you?

The definition of can't is:

The negative of can; an auxiliary verb expressing incapacity, inability, withholding permission, etc.; can not.

With that definition in mind, as yourself: Are you withholding permission from your own success?

The definition withholding permission stands out for me because often we can't complete or fulfill something in our lives without permission. Often we want look for permission from external sources to define our dreams and goals for our lives instead of looking within. Our first training for our permission came when we were young. Our parents, siblings, teachers and environment showed us our limits. Some of us were raised with strict and limiting environments while others were raised in open and free environments. Most people were raised somewhere in the middle of those two extremes. However you were raised, you were given some limitations on your life.

Every limitation is not bad. Some restrictions were meant to protect and provide safety for us. If our parents never told us that the stove was hot, we would have to discover a potentially dangerous situation without their guidance.

However when limits restrict permission from allowing our personal character, traits and gifts to manifest, we need to re-examine them.

Our parents may have a fear of being in large crowds and decide to keep us in the house or avoid large events. Perhaps our parents have experienced real losses and failures. As a result, they make decisions that keep us from going down the same path.

In essence, our parents can be our first introduction to our belief in the word can’t.

When you think of the word can’t you automatically get a negative vibe from the words. The word prepares your mind for the remaining parts of the sentence that will most likely be bad news. Your ensuing reaction to the word is inevitably the opposite of what would bring you joy.

Imagine you are a child and you walk into the kitchen. You see a huge plate full of cookies calling your name! You feel the urge to satisfy your desires with no restrictions. Then you hear:

Sarah you CAN’T have those cookies before dinner. They will ruin your appetite!

Now your joy has turned to sorrow. Those cookies were once a symbol of joy and happiness. After your strict limits set by your mom, those cookies now have cant written all over them. Now those cookies represent a moment where you can’t fulfill your desires.

I gave you a very simple example of how our life experiences can shape our view of our potential and steal our joy.

The power in the word can’t is life altering.

"Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates