Marriage, a Mystery!: Achieving Power to Love

By Louise Poiesz

This book is about love. It is a message to both the married and unmarried, as well men and women. Sometimes I ask people who are married for fifteen to twenty to sixty years to share their secret. What made them stay so long together? Marriage is a holy convocation, a place where two unique persons meet in such a way that a divine connection is established. However, there are great differences in how to choose the one to share one’s life with. And sometimes the choice can be a surprise. Still, it is a secret, a mystery. She was made for helping him. He got a task to fulfill—a task for them.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Lulu Publishing Services
• Release date: Feb 27, 2017
• ISBN: 9781483463759

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MARRIAGE,

A MYSTERY!

ACHIEVING POWER TO LOVE

Louise Poiesz

Copyright © 2017 Louise Poiesz.

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Contents

Introduction

Very Good

The Covenant, The Anointing

The Mystery – The Other Half

Man Be As Christ, Woman Be Submittive

Man of Character, Woman of Virtue A Man of Character A Powerfull Man

The Mystery

Still Miserable Alone with the Other

Reasoning Divorce

Marriage Contra Divorce

Dare To Be Married

Prayer

Introduction

There is nothing wrong in being alone, it even has advantages and is to advantage. But there is something in being married that goes beyond understanding; it is actually a mystery.

I never would have thought that I ever should be writing a book, even though many times people said so. Espacially to be writing one that would deal concerning marriage. I simply should not have given that any thought, because would I not be one of the last ones to do so?

But I had that quick thought that certain evening in my spirit. The realisation that since I counselled through the years quite some people dealing with marriage that it would be good to express some issues in a book. The Lord will not speak through people about things you have to do or going to do when you yourself have not heard about it or got a specific inspiration from Him. And so it came to pass that a few weeks later a prophet from the Unites States contacted me for some information. We never met or spoke before and when at a certain moment we started praying on the phone he told me to inform me that the Lord told him He wanted me to write a book. It dwelled as a confirmation but right away the question rosewhereof? Reverent, he said, but the Lord also gives me the subject, can I tell you. His sound was a bit hesitating though also excited. The Lord says, you have to write a book about marriage.

I had to write a book concerning marriage!

It did not come to me as an unexpected surprise but somehow it did come unexpected. I smiled. My Lord, He knows.

The Holy Spirit had already given me the thought and here was the confirmation. And many people had asked, told me or urged me to write a book. Then all experience, research, consoling on marriage. Is it not so that He is so interested in it? Exally did the Prophet, Lord Yeshua Messiah Himself, not already inform me? However, thinking, hearing and doing are three different things. Quickly after that assignment, it started to be a struggle in my daily life. Exally like marriage can be a struggle sometimes.

Something like you know, you have to hold on to and you like to do so, be strong in it, but through one or several reasons it somehow blocks you.

There are this little or bigger issues that are triggering your mind in such a way that you aren’t able to do things better and neither prefers to do so. However, I concluded that the book probably could come one way or the other. After all, I had a sense of marriage having a sixteen-year most difficult marriage that finally completely stranded. In the time facing divorce and for about seven years after, I went through a deep survey when it comes to wedding, marriage, divorce, and life after. It did me see secrets of life in the perspective of husband and wife. The Way to have Mr. and Mrs. Right, beautiful and loving, caring and understanding. The mystery of marriage in which it does not only about know who God is who my spouse is, but as well especially about myself. Because we all have issues, a past, pains, hopes. And we might think we are OK, but the devil is a deceiver and our hearts deceive ourselves. Therefore, unless we dare to deal with ourselves in uprightness and target results as God requests from us, we are able to deal with the other, if we dare face ourselves.

The human heart is the most deceitful of all things, and desperately wicked. Who really knows how bad it is? But I, the Lord, search all hearts and examine secret motives. Give all people their due rewards, according to what their actions deserve.

Jeremiah 17-9:10 KJV

The topic life of marriage became one of my favourite themes to study on and work in. My marriage that had become such a difficult relation made me eager to find Gods guidance, His thoughts and help to see myself clearly in it. As well to change and learn about making decisions. There are always some questions again coming to my mind for which I simply ask the Lord to explain or show it to me.

Very Good

Becoming a two oneness is a desire as well for men as women. There is this desire to find the other half. And with this desire travel many questions, even fear. Fear to commit by marrying not the right one, wrongly, or simply fear to commit. Even when once committed and are having done the vows sometimes the longing is growing to be on one self or a realisation that the time single, or left alone exally was not that bad at all.

In these days, we see more and more people staying single, not because they really wish to be, but there is lack to commit, taking responsibility further than self. Due to the increase of free relationships. It involves lack of love. Towards God and towards others. In the last days, love will grow cold. We see the fact that human openly fall into all kinds of bondage outside marriage implying it is. As well, love grows cold by those being married. And those who by homosexual tendency will try to get marriage with one of the same gender. Or man of forty years old marrying seven year old girl, or marrying an animal. I will not give it much thought since God is very clear about that all, though I have shared the Gospel of Yeshua with a few people with a mindset that such is all fine. Same as also those struggling with transexuality. In the conversations I had with them sharing their struggles, I was experiencing the pain a believer can go through when someone opens up going against the Creators creation. When hearing such and feeling not happy about it is due to the grace of knowing Gods heart. He shows Himself through the Word. Being free by His Spirit to see His Way, but as well the love He has for each person and them to become as He meant it to be. I have seen both homosexual as transsexuals reaching towards Him to become complete as He created it to be.

You shall not lie with a male as one lies with a female; it is an abomination. Also you shall not have intercourse with any animal to be defiled with it, nor shall any woman stand before an animal to mate with it; it is a perversion. 2 Do not defile yourselves by any of these things; for by all these the nations which I am casting out before you have become defiled.

Leviticus18 -22; 24 KJV

These things mean there really can be struggle to get into marriage. To be with the one we desire, as well to keep it as such. This means that singleness is over! Let me say it again singleness is over when once married, and it asks a mature, loving and respectful reproach to the other as to self to become together unique in being who you are self as together. That is the Mystery, the power, the secret.

Therefore what Elohim has joined together, let man not separate.

Mark 10-9 ISR 98

I spoke with several couples having many years of marriage and asked their secret. What was it that made their marriage work – what was their secret?

I am aware I asked those who I believed having a good marriage. Since I also saw people being together and did not sense that oneness or call it marital flow, nor affectional love. Even these days you can hear couples departing after being together for twenty-five, forty years. The newspaper reported not so long ago a divorce of a ninety years old couple. How sad and devastating. Even that makes you think twice. I have seen several times that married people can get agitated when people inform them that they are seeking for a partner. They have a ‘’we are doing it so good mentality’, especially to women. An attitude telling that these single or divorced, widowed should not have a desire for a partner, wishing to get away from being alone. Single men, divorced, widower are more accepted to seek a wife, than a woman longing to have a husband. More understanding is required. Most married people can be quite tough to a single person. Let it be mentioned that the single as a person alone maybe and God forbid, can be a lonesome person. Being married for a few years, or twenty forty still doesn’t say that the couple have an eternal marriage. After all, it is still death does make us, part. Then how after that to move on? I heard several couples saying and was urged by a lady who was married for thirty six years when she knew I was writing this book to tell the readers that there has to be a continues commitment, a daily persistence. The basic is love with a good portion of persistence in it. How will we manage if God Himself Who created man and woman to be together should be ignored in that relation; He Himself saying, this is very good.

And Elohim saw all that He had made, and see, it was very good. And there came to be evening and there came to be morning, the sixth day.

Gen-1-31 ISR 98

However, even when many did succeed in these areas, still marriages broke down. My studies became a journey, which were an adventure to learn about the mystery concerning engagement, being in love, be loved and making love. Added to it, match making, marriage and divorce. And in this all God’s Book with the source of Life was taken, The Bible as the First and Final Word. Research was done because of the need of people to gain more understanding for marriage and mankind. It took place in diverse countries among several cultures.

At a quite young age, I became mother but though still married left alone and thus standing alone for the care to raise two beautiful sweet baby girls. I did not have any intention to be involved with someone new, due to the fact the divorce struggle had a huge impact on thoughts, emotions, arrangements and settling. And most important how to find the way in such a situation with God viewing my marriage at a dark side and still keep the faith that for Him nothing is impossible. How to save this relation in the diverse difficult situations? I did all in m power and love to keep myself committed and submissive to God and the father of my children in marriage. I kept and had love for him and believed it might work out for us, once. ...

The fact of standing alone for such a huge responsibility as raising children as a single parent left in all care is quite a traumatic and confrontational hardship. I longed for my children to have a protective save and stable home. Not wanting children to be involved with stephdads, stephmoms, and all the different family ties that sometimes by the changing of partners happens and does not bring forth real strong relationships due to the different connections. Some children get involved with a whole group of different grandma’s and granddads due because dad and mom start having more than one, sometimes two different relationships. I had a few women living around me having three children from three different men.

From one in particular I know she was so eager to have good family ties that all of the different families came and go on special days. So exally, each child was raised with two other families then the one where the child came forth from. There are the children who don’t even know who their father or even their mother is. This not always due to an indifferent affaire and attitude from the man and woman involved. We know that hardship in life can attack and convect. Think of war, floods, fame.

In my marriage and during the divorce in the good bad and ugly times, I became convicted of Yeshua, the Light of the world that when I finally bowed for the King of Kings, things didn’t become easier, and better right away, even though He surely showed Himself to me being the Light.

The result for me was much more that I got revelations and understanding of Gods great greatness for me and mankind and was groomed in Him to be His Bride.

I want explicitly point out here that it wasn’t due to this marriage and divorce I fled in a religion. An opinion people like to bend that way. Oh, you had trouble, so you needed a way out.

Of course I did, but we all have as long we walk in a lie. All I wanted was the truth and understanding that if there was a Living God and Yeshua was Who they said He was, I wanted to know Him, and also Him to make that clear to me which had to be possible if He was the living God. Since childhood, I see there has been a calling by God on my life. However when my search to Him became at a later stage much more serious, I was warned by my husband that if I ever should become a follower of the Jewish Yeshua I would be left alone, with other words, he would go. We had at that time our first child. That time my mother in law was baptised. What he said seemed unfair to me but also reason enough not to be too much involved with God and Pentecostal Christians who as far as I could understand had the best impacting Biblical life and Biblical comprehence and thus connection to and with God. After all, I went through, I did not end up in a religion but in a relation with the Holy One of Israel as it is meant to be.

YOU HAVE TO WRITE A BOOK!

When I received these prophetic words to write a book about marriage, the book-writing journey started. To write a book concerning marriage, I found it troublesome. Although since the first prophesy it was captured in my spirit and it felt the right thing to do. On the other hand, it appeared that it was hard finding a way to manage my time schedule to write a book. Writing about marriage is a responsibility. Many have trouble in marriage. Many do take the fact having wife, husband, and children for granted. Could this be something to make all aware that especially those who love Him Who instituted the greatness of family life this book was going to be a help? An encouragement to implement for what is meant for greatness to never take that for granted, by the moods, or through indifference.