Oh, You Call Yourself Her Sister?: 12 Ways to Heal Toxic Friendships

By TJ Taylor

Sis. Boo. Hun. Babe. Fave. Bestie. We use these terms quite liberally; even too loosely in some instances, which is fine—until we discover that our "ride or die" friend got off the ride a few stops back. There are so many things in life that we have to dissect, but true friendship shouldn't be one of them. When we cross that fine line between friendship and sisterhood, we should be able cherish that bond and trust that our sister is truly our keeper. Unfortunately, that isn't always the case, and all it takes is one wrong turn to derail the beauty of true sisterhood. Not anymore.

 

Today is the day that I challenge all women to stand up, take a look in the mirror, and fight back against that malignant ugliness that wants to see you and your sister at odds. Let today be the day you commit to doing the work to repair your sisterhood. Shut down the drama and reclaim your friend—your sister. You owe it to yourself and to the ladies who have come to be near and dear to your heart. Sisters fuss, they fight, but in the end, they find a way to put the pieces back together and get back to the beauty of loving one another. Oh, you call yourself her sister? Prove it. Crack this book open, roll up your sleeves, and get ready to put some work in because sisterhood is no walk in the park, but it's so worth the journey!

 

Are you your sister's keeper? If not, you will be by the time you finish this book!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Novel Chick Publications
• Release date: May 9, 2020
• ISBN: 9781393218364

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Oh You

Call Yourself

Her Sister?

12 Ways to

Heal Toxic Friendships

Written by

TJ Taylor

Oh You Call Yourself Her Sister?

12 Ways To Heal Toxic Friendships

Copyright © 2019. TJ Taylor.

Published by Novel Chick Publications

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ISBN: 9781089235354

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Dedication

To everyone who wonders if I’m writing about them. 

I am.

Contents

Contents (cont.)

Acknowledgments

To my favorite soldier, my biggest supporter, Nekoesha, whose love is the perfect verse over the dope beat of my heart.

You are 90% patience and 90% inspiration.

No, you do not sum to 180% - you just multitask.

Why This Book? Why Now?

I

like to consider myself an extroverted introvert; an ambivert, if you will. I enjoy socializing, but I treasure my solitude as it’s when I do my best thinking. One of the recurring topics that is ever-present in my mind is the ups and downs of friendship or, more specifically, sisterhood. I LOVE seeing sisters love on one another, but it breaks my heart to see what appear to be irreparable rifts in sisterhood. It troubles me to see friends part ways because they choose to reside in conflict as opposed to seeking resolution and offering forgiveness.

I chose to pen this book because I’m a firm believer that you cannot passively observe and maintain innocence. If you are not actively contributing to the solution, you are passively supporting the problem, so this book is my effort at helping sisters around the globe get back to the business of loving one another, at being the type of women they will be proud of when they look back on their lives. It is also my first work of nonfiction, so I hope you enjoy!

Be sure to leave me a review,

purchase a copy to share with your sister circle,

and spread the word that TJ Taylor is in the business of

#SupportingSisterhood !

Friends:

Do We Use The Term Too Loosely?

friend (noun): one attached to another by affection or esteem; one that is not hostile; one that favors or promotes something; a favored companion.

Q

uick question - what’s the average tenure of your friendships? How many friends do you have that you’ve had since childhood? Middle or high school? I think it’s safe to say that one of the main reasons friends enter and exit our lives is fairly simple: life. You might move across town and not get to your old neighborhood as much; you might move to another state or country and lose touch simply because it’s challenging to keep friendships alive and well across different time zones. You might even part ways with a friend because one or both of you outgrow each other. Life happens, but if you’re lucky enough to have a childhood friend that makes it to your adulthood, consider yourself blessed. Problem is, what we feel we need as children and adolescents certainly changes once we cross over into adulthood, into true womanhood. The older we get, the more we should evolve as women, gaining tidbits of wisdom at each stop life has planned for us. You probably don’t have the same dietary habits now as you did when you were a kid. Your taste in cuisine changed. Guess what? The same should happen in the friendship department. Your taste should change as you mature and come to know what real friendship looks and feels like.

I think we all have that one friend that we consider our bestie. The one we love like a sister, that knows us just as well as we know ourselves (if not better), the one we entrust our secrets to, the one who’s seen us at our best and worst. We all have that one friend that we expect to be there no matter what type of mayhem we find ourselves in, that one person we can call when we hit rock bottom and don’t have a clue how we’re going to pick ourselves up. If you’re lucky, you might have more than one. Your bestie may still be a part of your life at present, or you may have parted ways with her for one reason or another as you’ve moved