Tonic for Relationships

By BARNABAS OTOIBHI

Relationships are vital, essential and imperative for the existence, peace and  development of the human race. We are wired to know and relate with God our Creator, Owner cum Controller and also with fellow human beings.

            One of the most heart-rending problems for human beings everywhere is the experience of being alienated from God or being at odds with one another. There is serious conflict between people and God and conflicts between people and others. Some of these relationships have experienced fractures and many others are completely broken down.

            The above familiar scenario is contrary to Divine Will and unhealthy for peaceful co-existence and human development. God wants this situation to experience transformation for the good of all. It is for this reason of positive change, healing, and building of relationships that God has inspired me to write this book, 'Tonic For Relationships'. God's plan for inspiring the writing of this book is to put right the relationships that human beings have damaged, empower them to build and nurture healthy ones.

            The Divine inspiration to write 'Tonic For Relationships' began to flow into me in July 2014 and continued till the packaging was completed in the year 2018.

            The fulcrum upon which all genuine relationships revolve is love. We show love to God by being joyfully obedient to His injunctions and instructions in His daily guidance. Unfortunately, the first human couple called Adam and Eve ignored Divine injunctions and guidance and so lost the close relationship they had with God. But He decided to forgive the human race and heal that relationship, because of His love for us

• Language: English
• Publisher: BARNABAS OTOIBHI
• Release date: Jul 16, 2019
• ISBN: 9781393252092

Book preview

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Copyright ©  2017 Barnabas Otoibhi ............................................................3

Table of Content..............................................................................................4

FOREWORD....................................................................................................6

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT ...............................................................................8

INTRODUCTION...........................................................................................9

Chapter 1: Fulcrum For Relationships....................................................11

Divine Mandate For Fathers

Divine Mandate For Mothers

Divine Mandate For Children

Chapter 2: Transformation Through Love............................................16

Experiencing Transformation

The Characteristics Of Love

Producing Love In Your Heart

Chapter 3: Types Of Love And Relationships........................................23

Four Types Of Love In The Bible

Six Types Of Love

25 Types Of Relationships, Which One Do You Fit In?

Relationships For Teenagers

Chapter 4: Grow In Love.............................................................................47

Growing In Love

Replenishing Depleted Love

Practicing Love

Loving An Unlovable Person

Effects Of Love On Unity/Agreement In Prayer

Chapter 5: The Place Of Mutual Trust In Relationships..............................57

Factors Required For Building Your

Capacity For Trust

Bible Verses That Will, Enhance Your

Capacity To Build Trust

Benefits Of Mutual Trust In Relationships

Chapter 6: Healing Fractured Relationships...............................................64

Factors That Could Cause

A Fracture In Relationships

Reasons Why We Need To Seek

Healing To Fractured Relationships

Remedies For Fractured Relationships

Chapter 7: Walking In Love.............................................................................73

Divine Investments In Our Lives

The Law Of Love

Being A New Creature In Christ

Proof Of Discipleship Of Christ

The Essentials Of Love

Thirteen (13) Ways To Show Love

Twelve (12) Factors That Enhance Love

Chapter 8: Resolving Conflicts In A Family....................................................85

Factors That Could Cause Conflicts

In A Family

Resolving Conflicts In A Family

Steps To Effective Communication

Chapter 9: God Finally Resolves The Conflict ................................................94 

Between Himself And The Human Race

The Conflict Between The Human Race

And The Creator

How God Resolved The Conflict

Your Role In Resolving The Conflict

Between You And God

Divine Amnesty For All

Consequences For Rejecting Divine Amnesty

The Epilogue.......................................................................................104

About The Book And The Author.....................................................109

FOREWORD

R

ELATIONSHIP IS the key to all human endeavors.  God in His infinite majesty decides to have a relationship that will exceed the one He has with the twenty four elders and the four living creatures. He therefore, in unison with the trinity decides to make man in His image for relationship. As pointed earlier, God was the first initiator of relationship and therefore for a relationship to be genuine it must be God–based.

For any relationship to thrive, meaningful, real, genuine and mutually beneficial, it must be based on love. Any relationship that is founded on selfish interest cannot last.

Some people are in a relationship for personal satisfaction, but Ea long-lasting relationship is that, where those who are involved are willing to give. Every relationship goes through some period of testing, trials, offences and sometimes a little disappointment, but it is the relationship that is sacrificial and based on love that makes forgiveness easy.

Relationship is more than materials. Relationship brings money, materials etc. so seek for relationship.

The author has written from the inner recess of his heart. I recommend the book to everyone who desires a real relationship with spouse, parent, children and friends.

Bishop Dr. Sola Ore,

Love Aglow Ministries Int'l,

Festac Town,

Lagos.

Lagos State Chairman, Pentecostal Fellowship of Nigeria,

& CPFN+PFN Bloc of Christian Association of Nigeria.

DEDICATION

T

HIS BOOK 'Tonic For Relationships’ is dedicated to the Almighty God, the Creator, Owner and Controller of the universe. For His glory and the advancement of His kingdom on earth. For the healing of the fractured relationships between all human beings on one hand and God on the other. Amen.

Barnabas Otoibhi.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

M

Y APPRECIATION goes first and foremost to the Almighty God who inspired and helped me to write and present 'Tonic For Relationships.

In addition, I wish to appreciate my beloved wife Evangelist Tessy Otoibhi and all my Godly children for their prayers and encouragement in producing this book.

Furthermore, I appreciate all my fellow Ministers and Brethren in Temple Rebuilders Ministry for their prayer and cooperation.

Finally, my appreciation goes to Bishop Dr. Sola Ore for writing the foreword; Pastor Oluwagbemiga E. Ogunsanya for proofreading this book; and Bro. Olusegun J. & Sis. Olabisi Olukayode for facilitating the printing.

May the LORD bless and reward you all, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ. Amen.

To God be the glory.

Yours in service to God and humanity,

Barnabas Otoibhi.

June 2018. 

INTRODUCTION

R

ELATIONSHIPS ARE vital, essential and imperative for the existence, peace and  development of the human race. We are wired to know and relate with God our Creator, Owner cum Controller and also with fellow human beings.

One of the most heart-rending problems for human beings everywhere is the experience of being alienated from God or being at odds with one another. There is serious conflict between people and God and conflicts between people and others. Some of these relationships have experienced fractures and many others are completely broken down.

The above familiar scenario is contrary to Divine Will and unhealthy for peaceful co-existence and human development. God wants this situation to experience transformation for the good of all. It is for this reason of positive change, healing, and building of relationships that God has inspired me to write this book, 'Tonic For Relationships'. God's plan for inspiring the writing of this book is to put right the relationships that human beings have damaged, empower them to build and nurture healthy ones.

The Divine inspiration to write ‘Tonic For Relationships’ began to flow into me in July 2014 and continued till the packaging was completed in the year 2018.

The fulcrum upon which all genuine relationships revolve is love. We show love to God by being joyfully obedient to His injunctions and instructions in His daily guidance. Unfortunately, the first human couple called Adam and Eve ignored Divine injunctions and guidance and so lost the close relationship they had with God. But He decided to forgive the human race and heal that relationship, because of His love for us

Similarly, God expects us, after accepting His offer of love, to imitate Him by walking in love. (Ephesians 5:1-2). We should walk in love all the days of our lives, because love lubricates relationships and eliminates friction between parties.

Yours in service to God and humanity

seyi1

Barnabas Otoibhi

The Author of the book ‘Tonic For Relationships’,

Barnabas Otoibhi with his lovely wife,

Evangelist Tessy.

Chapter 1

FULCRUM FOR

RELATIONSHIPS