Overcoming Feelings of Guilt and Shame: Walking in the Freedom That Christ Brings
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Dr. Sandra Littles Tyler
Dr. Sandra L. Tyler is a wife, mother and grandmother. She has earned four college degrees, earning her doctorate in Pastoral Care and Counseling from Luther Rice College & Seminary with honors. She has served with her husband in leadership at Loving-kindness Ministries, Inc. for 21 years, She is a former Adjunct Professor of Beulah Heights University and serves as full-time chaplain at Piedmont Columbus Regional hospital in Columbus, Georgia.
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Overcoming Feelings of Guilt and Shame - Dr. Sandra Littles Tyler
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CONTENTS
Acknowledgments
Preface
PART 1: GUILT AND SHAME:
MY STORY OF REDEMPTION
Chapter 1
Chapter 2
Chapter 3
PART 2: PERSPECTIVES ON
GUILT AND SHAME
Chapter 4
Chapter 5
Chapter 6
Chapter 7
Conclusion
The Fountain
Follow-Up Survey on Guilt and Shame
Bibliography
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
I dedicate this book to my spouse, Rev. Earnest J. Tyler III. I am grateful for your support and spiritual leadership. To my children, Keia Medlock, John Dawson, Jr. and Josiah Dawson, I am grateful for your unconditional love throughout my journey of motherhood. I am thankful for my eight grandchildren and great-granddaughter for making me smile. You brighten my world.
I also dedicate this book to the memory of my grandmother, Mrs. Mary F. Adams; to my biological mother, Mrs. Velma Ruth Lankster Jones; and her sister, my adopted mother, Mrs. Susie Maryetta Littles, for your love and care. I am grateful for each of my siblings who inspire me. Thanks to the late Mr. Artie B. & Mr. Willie Charles Littles for their love and devotion. Rev. Carl Lankster, thanks for your godly counsel, and Rev. Richard Lankster, thank you for allowing me to share the Gospel in your church.
I am thankful to Mrs. Eunice Jones for coming to my aid as an infant, and to my hometown friends who view my weekly online Bible study. I want to thank Rev. and Mrs. Willis, for welcoming my family to Columbus, Georgia. I am grateful for Drs. Charles and Gloria Rodgers and their church, who later welcomed my family and provided safety and counsel, training, and ministry opportunities. I am thankful for the Clinical Pastoral Education community, and chaplains who share my passion for pastoral care and counseling.
PREFACE
This book was challenging to write—not because I don’t like writing, but because I had to revisit deeply personal and hidden areas within, and I had to remain there long enough to share an open and honest story that occurred almost three decades ago, when I was in my thirties. It was a dark period of my life, and to be honest, I would be more comfortable never having to relive the memories. But there is freedom in confronting and addressing issues that, though they occurred in the past and lie underneath the surface, tend to