How to Win when Life is Unfair

By Larné Neuland

Thoughts and emotions are inseparable in our daily lives. This book's innovative "visual thought" concept is a fresh approach to educating thought, understanding and mental discipline. This book has proven to be a simple yet excellent tool for learning how to select and reject your thoughts: the heart of emotional intelligence.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Robin Beck
• Release date: Sep 5, 2018
• ISBN: 9781928234357

Larné Neuland

Larné Neuland has worked for many years in a school environment to foster a positive attitude in kids. She travels to many schools in term time and has achieved an enviable reputation.

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HOW TO WIN

When Life is Unfair

Emotional Intelligence

Larne Neuland

We’ve been given a role in the great scheme of things that we can be and do anything. All the choices are ours and opportunity abounds; the unknown matches the value of life. How much time do we have?

DEDICATION

All the thought, emotion and time which constituted the writing of this book are dedicated to the Creator of thought, emotion and time –Indeed the Founder of LOVE!

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Kima Global Publishers

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Clovelly

South Africa

7975

eISBN 978-1-928234-35-7

Copyright Larné Neuland June 2018

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Foreword

Introduction

Chapter One: Technology, Progress, Computers

Chapter Two: What Happens when we Think?

Chapter Three: Thoughts and their Consequences

Chapter Four: Taking Control of your Mind

Chapter Five: Erasing Destructive Memory Data

Chapter Six: How to Get Rid of Damaging Mental Records

Chapter Seven: Turning the Tables on Negatives

Chapter Eight: Makes you Think

Chapter Nine: How to Grow Emotionally

Chapter Ten: The Inner You

Chapter Eleven: The Power of Love

Chapter Twelve: The Source of Love

Chapter Thirteen: Go for It!

Epilogue

Thought Exercise

Foreword

A short note to thank my readers for the wonderful letters, words of thanks and encouraging reports of lives turned away from the cold.

(Now you know why I have to share this!)

Each time a candle is lit, the grayness of this world is brightened. Every flame of love, no matter how small, becomes part of a joyous glow, the sum of which is enough to dazzle the universe!

Living in fear?

Abused as a child?

Addicted to drugs?

Battling financially?

Hounded by ill health?

Suffering from hurt or loneliness?

Whatever the challenges along your pathway – when it all seems to be meaningless and unfair…

Rise Above!

Learn how to win using Emotional Intelligence.

This book places thought, an ingredient of our inner lives and activator and decoder of our emotions, under the microscope.

It examines the quality of our everyday thoughts and feelings and their corresponding repercussions in our lives.

In a nutshell, my book is an analysis of the thoughts and feelings we have and the subsequent fruits they bear for us.

It is the recipe to become an emotional giant and build a beautiful life!

Take your pain and turn it into power!

Oprah Winfrey

Because my life changed from hopelessness to inner contentment and from continuous battling to one of fulfilled living, I determined to write a book which could be followed and understood and put into practice!

The examples described in this book are all factual incidents, enforcing the truths passed on by the master philosophers.

Do you want to improve the quality of your life? Emotional intelligence, an understanding of your thinking and emotional processes, is the key. Herein are aspects of thought required to change your life from turmoil and despondency into tranquility and peace!

Can you do it on your own? Well, the choice most certainly is yours.

Adopt a positive attitude!

Really? I didn't know positive attitudes were up for adoption. Where and how do I get one?

Change your thinking!

Sure, where did you say the controls were?

Don’t feel bad!

No problem – just show me the delete button.

This book will guide you every step of the way and show you where, when and what the pitfalls are and how to handle them.

It's all in the mind is so true, but why are we not taught more about the mind? Why do we have to learn the hard way, if we are lucky enough to learn at all? Not fair! I have peppered my book with BPOW, (borrowed packages of wisdom), plus a pinch or two of my own spice scattered between the sage quotes of the illustrious philosophers. (I can do that – it’s my book!)

These monumental gems of thought serve as road signs to emotional wisdom and they are the road signs I used as I journeyed through my life.

True realization lies dormant in most people. We're just not properly informed in this area.

So just how ‘emotionally intelligent’ are you?

The good news is that the focus is no longer on IQ. Attention has shifted to EQ, our emotional quotient. Where IQ is usually something we are born with, EQ can be learned. Cool!

History has revealed that many people with great IQs have led miserable lives and considering their intelligence capacity, have been moderate to underachievers.

A great EQ on the other hand, proves to be the secret to a joyous journey where achievement soars above expectation. Emotional Intelligence is the know-how to be in / live in an agreeable emotional state. Hence the enthusiastic endeavor to get hold of this esteemed quality.

So how do we get a grip on our emotions and choose the ones that will fill us with peace and contentment?

Let’s start by settling a fundamental issue.

Which enters your mind first….is it a thought or an emotion?

There is an existing controversy amongst those who know. Some contend that it’s undoubtedly thought first! You think about something and then the related emotion floods your mind. Instinct plays a role, plus the fact that specific events can hijack normal thinking processes, but it’s thought first.

Nope, argue others…..its emotion first and then thought. Something arouses one of our five senses and blam! ..an emotion arrives on the scene and only then do our thoughts begin to ponder these feelings.

The subject is debatable and pretty much new territory in the development of man. My feeling (emotion or thought?) is that they’re pretty closely knit together. While emotion can change your physical status and cause your heart to beat faster – thought is needed to decipher the event for you. Thought on the other hand, requires emotion to actually change your physical status and raise your blood pressure.

Regardless of which of the two components enters the mind first – be it emotion piggy backing thought or vice versa – there is one factor we can all agree on.

We may not be able to choose an emotion - but we certainly can choose a thought.

So THOUGHT is the key.

Understanding, categorizing and selecting our daily thoughts is the secret to growing emotionally. Being in control of and able to choose our thoughts, which in turn summon related emotions, makes our future pretty much putty in our hands.

Armed with the ability to distinguish a thought and the corresponding emotion type and then dismiss or allow the mind visitor at our own discretion, gives us the ability to decide upon and map out a wonderful journey – a happy life!

Most Important!

Consciously choosing thoughts and their interconnected emotions advocates the need for an accurate discernment of each and every thought.