A Little Brother's Journey... the Hero Within: How to Face Your Fears

By Dr. Darren R.J. LaLonde

I was around ten years old, sleeping in the back seat of my moms car, parked during evenings at the Detroit River. I looked out the window at the stars, as I feared morning until by exhaustion I would fall asleep. I often woke up having wet my pants from my very real and imagined fears. By day, my mom would look for work and wash clothes while I hung out with the old black guys that would spend their day fishing in the Detroit River. I thought I was the only one who grew up in fear, in a world of abuse, until at thirteen I finally met my half-brother at a professional boxing match. He was in sitting next to our dad. Donny looked at me from inside the ring, trying to figure out who I was as the fight announcer was making his formal introductions. All we had shared at this point was the same biological father. Little did we know...

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Jun 19, 2012
• ISBN: 9781452551876

Dr. Darren R.J. LaLonde

Dr. Darren R.J. LaLonde, DC is a chiropractic doctor not aligned with any particular religion or tradition. He writes as a formal professional athlete and is now a holistic healthcare professional. The message is simple, profound, and passionate: beyond fear and anger, there is a hero in us all, the hero within. From Victoria, British Columbia, he now resides and has a holistic health care clinic in Hollywood, California.

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A Little Brother’s Journey…

The Hero Within

How to Face Your Fears

Dr. Darren R.J. LaLonde, DC

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FRONT COVER: IN PICTURE; DAVE WOLF HOIST W.B.C. WORLD LIGHT-HEAVYWEIGHT CHAMPION DONNY GOLDENBOY LALONDE, DARREN LALONDE, BOBBY CASSIDY BOTTOM RIGHT

BACK COVER: IN PICTURE FROM LEFT; GEREMY, DONNY GOLDENBOY LALONDE, DARREN GUNNER LALONDE AND FORMER WORLD CHAMPION EDDIE MUSTAFA MUHAMMAD

Too many of us have survived child abuse, been neglected as children, and as a result we have been forced to overcome hurt, fear and anger in our lives without proper parental guidance. As adults, many of us remain lost in the life-time pursuit of the self- worth, stolen from us as children. Yet bravely continue searching for the path back to truly loving ourselves. Here Darren LaLonde, shares the life’s experiences and the training program with his coaches tips developed from the relationships in his life with superheroes, from all walks of life. Including the experiences he shared with his brother Donny to overcome fear often standing in the way of fulfilling our life’s purpose.

As many children fight to reclaim the love absent in life from the very beginning. The challenging rounds in Donny’s life occurred not only the boxing ring, but transcended into his development from a boy, into a man, as boxing became the metaphor for Donny’s life. Highlighted in this story by the life of two boys with challenges of survival, both physical and emotional we had to face to become men, much earlier than most. My half brother (same father, different mothers) they called the Golden Boy, Donny LaLonde, and the incredible path he chose, the obstacles he would have to overcome on his life’s journey to becoming the W.BC Light heavy weight Champion of the entire boxing world.

As my older brother Donny at the pinnacle of his boxing career, floored, arguably one of the best fighters of all time, Sugar Ray Leonard in the fourth round. I chose the gridiron of football, earning a scholarship to division 1 Eastern Michigan University as a walk on. I also had 6 pro fights and experienced the demands physically, emotionally and spiritually that it takes to become a professional athlete. I had the privilege to assist my brother in his strength and conditioning in some the biggest fights of his career.

Inspired by the lessons learned in holistic health along the way, I went on to become a Doctor of Chiropractic. None of this changed the fact I still had to face my fears that surfaced in life, I still had to forgive, "those that I felt had trespassed,’ so to speak, this included myself, so I could live my life in the moment, the only place our spirit can soar. By facing our fears as our awareness rises, our faith, though sometimes shaky, is resilient. The self Love, needed to forgive those that have inflicted the pain on us as children, takes determination and courage, to lift the blocked energy and capture our true human potential.

To become champion, in and out of the ring, for myself to go beyond sport into holistic health as a profession and for you to achieve your goals we must find the delicate balance between the calming the wandering mind, training the body, and thru forgiveness and self love the only chance we have to free the spirit. It’s never too late for any of us to begin actively building the bridge over the hurdles in life, back to our human potential making us champions in our own lives, as we live out our personal goals.

To again love ourselves unconditionally and tap into the hero that is in us all, THE HERO WITHIN!!!

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS

To my brother Donald Drew LaLonde for having the courage to break the pattern of dysfunction, by taking action and having the courage to risk and work thru the pain that comes with the transformation that a caterpillar must go thru to become a butterfly. Special thanks to accomplished [Best Selling Author] writer David Wolf for participating in this book and for his contribution to Donny as a friend and champion producing boxing manager.

Dave and I had countless conversations behind the scene during my brother’s career. Dave a friend whom passed away in 2008 seemed to me to be the closest thing Donny ever had to a father. Dave walked Donny into the ring up until his last fight in 2003. Dave read my rough draft in two nights and I am honored to say he gave me a B+. Together with the candidness of Donny himself, I have attempted to capture the strength of Donny’s spirit in my version of the life we shared in this made for Hollywood true life story.

To my always late for an appointment, big brother, Donny and truly the worst driver in the world, I remain your biggest fan. With love and the heart of a thoroughbred, I run with you, beside you and your spirit always! To what little of the father I ever had, thru his absence and rejection I always truly loved him, and to those in his absence, that guided me. To my mother Lucille, may she receives ten times the love, as she has seen pain and let the love begin with me. To a special angel in my life, Jennifer Raye, who taught me unconditional love by being a living example of the true definition a friend, standing beside me, putting love first always, in the most challenging human tests of love and courage. I love you all!

To God who carried me in my weakest moments as a human being, when the sadness and loneliness was greatest, with fear never far behind, as God gave me the courage to face the challenges of the day, I encountered. I would also like to thank the Children’s Aid Society in Windsor Ontario Canada and my social worker Ed Humney for having the gift to hear a wounded child.

I would like to also dedicate this book to the hero within each and every one of you. To the children and survivors of child abuse, the victims of bullies and the children in the world that go to bed in fear each night. I urge you to believe in yourself and continue to follow your dreams regardless of the odds. To continue the journey to reclaiming the hero within that is in you, and ask you to continually pass on this love onto others, when you reclaim the strength to do so. This book is a tribute to the Hero within all of you and to my brother Donald Drew, the Goldenboy the quietest and gentlest champion there ever was.

There is no tomorrow, for your goals and dreams, I repeat there is no tomorrow, so lets get started, reclaim the hero within, the time is now! Don’t let anyone stand in the way of your goals and dreams don’t let anything stand in the way of connecting to the Hero Within you and letting your spirit soar…take the first step…

Enjoy the journey within…

Introduction

The Hero Within embraces the journey in life we must all take to embrace the light, love, limitless energy and compassion that is within all of us. Happiness and harmony in life is only found beyond the limiting emotions of fear and anger that today dominates much of society and unfortunately into the homes of our children.

Until we break the patterns we will simply repeat the destructive patterns in history, children bread in fear into adults living in fear. Each of us must take this personal path, individual to our experience, when we are ready there are no exceptions, regardless of race, religion or creed, to attain true lasting happiness, which only comes when we are in harmony with the universe and our instincts.

The journey of life takes courage, to go beyond, rise above and face the limiting emotions created by the dysfunction of fear, hurt and anger. To then have the awareness to use this energy to transform and to tap into the passion for life, we are born with.

This belief requires actions as we live our lives as a demonstration of the belief that we are worthy, to experience true humility by living our lives connected to the hero within, and seeing the hero within others, especially those that have hurt us most in our lives.

By recognizing that we are one with all life, takes pride, true pride to recognize we are worthy of attaining all of our dreams, and capable of living a life rooted in love. It is available to us all, it is our instinct to move toward life, it is in our nature to grow physically, emotionally and spiritually with love. This love is infinite, and when it is unconditional it dissolves the limiting emotions of darkness, of fear and anger.

This transformation leads us to improved self-worth that intern breeds altruism, along the way we begin experiencing peace and healing ultimately through forgiveness of others and forgiveness of self. Then we can allow our spirit to soar, as we repair the bridge back to the Hero within that is often lost as we become immersed in our fear driven society and homes.

The darkness in our lives breed by fear and anger is dissolved when we do not run from the light that burns brighter, as we forgive and accept the things we cannot change, we begin to embrace the life force of the Hero Within all of us and our spirit begins to soar.

Though Donny and I come from separate mothers, we were reunited when I was thirteen on the night he fought for the Canadian light-heavyweight championship.

On the inside I was hiding from the world with my muscular body armor, on the outside doing just enough to show the world how my parents had screwed me up and in a sense gnawing at my own ankle a form of machoism, holding on to the anger and reaping it’s self destructive power. In hindsight I look back on the times I went against my gut feeling in life emphasizing the hero within was always present, but I wasn’t always listening.

I took the long road to humility, fueled by pain and anger. I looked at my brother as a symbol of family even though we never grew up together. From our first meeting Donny in a sense hired me as a thirteen-year old boy as he recognized we shared the same passion and intensity for life that ran through his blood. I went from the young boy with the loudest voice in the crowd to the man he could look too in the corner between rounds.

In all the glory, or the success I experienced myself, the glory my brother Donny and I shared the fact remains, the most important challenge for us all, is reclaiming the hero within ourselves on the wonderful and challenging journey of life, found only in the present moment, so our spirits can soar in our lives. Our Being can shine though us here on earth in our daily lives.

We are all Superhero’s

Enjoy the journey to the hero within…

Yours in holistic health,

Dr. Darren R. J. LaLonde, D.C.

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*** The Coaches Lesson ***

Points to consider at the end of each chapter can be used as a time to reflect. Feel free to take a pen and highlight area’s in this book that resonate with you.

The suggestions are intended to bring awareness to your own Journey to the Hero Within each of us.

When you see this symbol * it represents light, like the flame from a candle, you are free to pause and reflect, I did.

This book requires action to make change in our lives and the world, be the change you want to see.

Let’s rumble.

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Contents

1

SURVIVAL SCHOOL

Fear and Anger

2

MISSING YEARS

Passion and Belief

3

TO THINE OWN SELF BE TRUE

Humility and Pride

4

LALONDE BROTHERS the GOLD WITHIN THE BOYS

Self Worth and Altruism

5

LOVER AND A FIGHTER

Peace and Healing

6

FULL CIRCLE THROUGH THE SQUARE

Forgiveness

7

THE HERO WITHIN

The spirit soars

ONE

SURVIVAL SCHOOL

Fear and Anger

THE JOURNEY TO THE HERO WITHIN YOU

The only thing worse for a child than going to sleep in fear is waking up to fear and to the world to face a new day with the fresh emotional and physical pain from the abuse from the day before. How many of us thought we were alone and no one in the world could possibly know the pain in suffering that went on in the safety of our own homes and the emotions we were going through?

Most of the time, when the hurt really set in and as a child you wake up and before you start your day, clearing your mind, you begin thinking of excuses to hide the pain from the outside world, the emotional pain and sometime the physical pain. Then the heart starts pumping faster a natural response to the instinct of survival as you get out of bed as the new day begins and the challenge to remain invisible continues.

As a child both Donny and I, began our day hoping if he and the other kids were lucky, like all the times before, everyone in the house, mother, brothers, and sisters and most importantly his stepfather, would all pretend that nothing ever happened and the topic of fear and the hurt would never come up.

Whatever physical reminders whether it was a broken television, broken glass or a ripped shirt, or some dried up blood it would all be ignored and the definition to them at least of family would go on. While many children receive a new toy to forget what must seem like a dream, Donny’s first outlet for this emotion was football and hockey, mine was football and boxing others choose different paths.

BEYOND FEAR AND ANGER…

YOU CAN LIVE YOUR DREAM*

Donny’s body language, which spoke volumes, to the chosen few, that wondered why you never saw his crystal blue eyes or the bruises on his body. He did this, like many abused children do so he could hide his eyes just in case by looking into them you could see the hurt, masking his lost innocence. I recognized this look in his eyes the first time we met, when I was thirteen I had it too.

The feelings that come with abandonment for so many children in their everyday world are expressed emotionally as hurt or anger. More than fear which was more of an instinct it was the sadness and emptiness in our childhood, created by the violence and dysfunction that dominated over love and the other ingredients that makes all human beings whole.

This behavior is against our instincts that from birth our innate wisdom, tells us as we like plants grow with light or die without it.

THE SECRET POWER WITHIN

The question was how would hurt and anger affect my life, how would I restore the balance of the mind, the body and the spirit? Our childhood jumbled between physical and psychological abuse and by instincts I lived life in survival mode.

The pain of fear and anger experienced in many families as the result of alcoholism, or some other spirit robbing drug, passed on like a cancer from generation to generation. The dysfunction that ultimately damages the supporting framework of love that builds families; this abuse wasn’t the food for growth.

DESIRE A FORM OF PRAYER TO GET YOU STARTED

I remember feeling like the kid from the other side of the tracks, at school when it came time to do things with the school that involved family or when it came to hanging out with kids, at, my house. I was the kid parents warned their kids to "stay away from,’ but we are just wounded kids, just trying to survive.

I wanted love and to feel I belonged and most of all I wanted to feel safe and I didn’t.

That just because I was a victim, didn’t mean I had to be one for the rest of my life, there were countless times the strange presence or innate wisdom I like to call the hero within guided me, when I had felt most alone. I was pretty brave as a kid but I was still often, faking it to make it.

Courage is action in spite of fear, this illustrates trust in your intuition and how fear can be useful.

Sports gave me an outlet to express myself in a positive way and a few father figures when I needed some male direction a single mother wasn’t born to give.

BEYOND THE ILLUSIONS OF THE MIND

It was clear by around the age of twelve that I wasn’t the only one that lived in fear as a kid. Many of my friends in the poor side of town we all came from, on my football team had horror stories. I could not believe the number of kids that were abused and that had found themselves in juvenile detentions.

I assure you they were goods kids, just lost, yearning for love and attention in any form they could get. If you watched them from a distance at football practice, they were disciplined, worked hard and showed respect and even the hardened ones showed joy at team success.

The kids on my pee wee football team knew the pulse of the streets and many were living in hell on earth. Football practice was the best time of their lives and these were the toughest kids on the streets.

I asked my older brother Donny who his role models were growing up in a conversation we had over lunch. When it came to role models in Donny’s life there were none real handy, other than the Montreal Canadians of the N.H.L.

Donny like me was going to have to wipe the blood from his face from life, while I shook the fear each time I left the house while at the same time we were trying to make sense of the world.

Each one of us could choose to use the anger for negative action or for the fuel to do what’s good, listen to our instincts that are always directing us to love and lights our path in life when we need guidance.

My brother and I both knew, like all abused children know in their hearts, was that something was just not right, humans were not supposed to live this way. Even when I was just a small boy my intuition, told me," the little voice inside always present often heard in my darkest hours, I silently followed when I had the ears to listen.

THE POWER IS WITHIN YOU

Thus began the journey of a small boy nicknamed peanuts and the relationship with my half brother, the world would come to know. To defy the odds in life both internally, and in the real world the Lalonde brothers would certainly have to go beyond the obstacles of the mind, and face our fears like we all must and instead choose the path in life to the hero within.

In the process to reclaiming the self worth and esteem born to all children it was all but beaten out of Donny and scared out of me before I was 10 years old.

Hurt and anger can play a useful role in our lives by fueling transformation to follow our passion regardless how weak. By freeing ourselves from the damaging physical and emotional damage our body expresses by holding onto these toxic emotions, life reveals infinite happiness. Incredibly, many children must overcome dysfunctional childhoods like my brother and I did.

The world is our stage, our life the gift, when we have the eyes to see there are no limitations.

I hear so often about the failing social system, the weak education for our children, or that the police, didn’t do anything, that our government is weak as we look ‘to the world," to save us.

For so many children that live in fear each day our instincts tell us something is not right and if we are strong enough to survive we see, we must rely on our instincts to get us out of trouble and lead us toward harmony.

The kindness of others, the door opening, coincidences, luck, friends, and guardians all had one thing in common. They all carried within them the Hero Within themselves and connected with it in you. When we needed it most perhaps even a stranger was passing on love and compassion, through their actions rooted in being.

PLANT SEEDS IN YOUR MIND THAT

ARE HEALING AND INSPIRE

I wondered why society thinks it’s the social systems responsibility to protect our children, by then I think it is too late. Why is the most intelligent species on earth passing on so much pain and anger the real cause of our suffering starting the moment we are born?

Raising awareness for child abuse is just one side of the coin, the other side is simply to take personal responsibility to face our own fears and use the energy for transformation in our lives right now. To raise our children from beyond fear and anger to a world ruled by love again. We must not pass on the fear and pain passed on to us by the generations before us.

We want the children to learn history and memorize facts, how about living in the moment and how to deal with life from beyond fear, and having the self esteem to live life rooted in love.

Sign me up for a class that teaches me how to use the science of nutrition to make educated decision’s that I can use to give me the power to drive right past Mc Donald’s and instead choose food that is nutritional and fills my life and my body with life giving nutrition.

How about classes and a society that is inspiring me to make decision’s that nurture my body with proper exercise and a connection to nature which "my innate wisdom,’ already tells me I am a part of.

How about classes and jobs that teaches children and adults how to listen to our instincts, how to go with the flow of life embrace the journey of the hero within and not with the flow of mans ignorance.

This is what we need to pass onto our children, to inspire children, not to beat them and knockout their self esteem from our own frustration and fears in life. If we feel disconnected, if we are in pain and we are afraid the good news is, that our instincts, tell us it all a lie. Overcoming the opponent of fear and anger in life with its power is like kryptonite’s effect on superman, when we are free of it we can soar.

Thousands of people end their lives every year in North America, and countless millions live every day of their lives from fear and anger passed on by their parents. The only way to break History and make change is to begin the rituals and daily training we need to exercise our mind bodies and spirits to help us tap into love and compassion, to the light and guidance of the hero within that is "within us right now!

EXERCISE YOUR LOVE AND

COMPASSION MUSCLE TODAY

Our love and compassion muscles are weak, our minds are saturated with the news of war, recession, medications, and driven by fear, anger, and hurt they all cause the same physiological effect inviting disease of the body.

Love and compassion is rooted within, you can try to ignore its power but it will resurface no matter what you try to drown it with, or distract it with, television, sex, drugs, work.

Love and compassion is not on the outside, fear and anger the illusion is, to pass on love and compassion there is only one way, first you have to feel it inside. Then as living example you can pass it on, during your personal journey connected to the hero within, now let’s rumble!

FEAR IS WHAT YOU SEE WHEN YOU

TAKE YOUR EYES OFF YOUR GOAL

As Donny’s younger brother I have been fortunate meeting famous people, going to fancy places, living in mansions, training and boxing, and shared in his biggest triumphs and shared a taste of his most difficult lessons, while experiencing and paving the way for many, many of my own.

THE SWEET THUNDER OF SILENCE

By the age of eleven I could cook, do laundry and drive my helmet into your chest if you were in my way, I was angry and afraid. I looked like a harmless kid, peanuts isn’t the most viscous nicknames in the world. Having recognized through sports and school that there was a world of opportunity out there, if I could figure a way passed the fear I was living in at home.

My instincts to love, create, play and laugh were very powerful but at the time my world still didn’t resemble anything like my instincts told me it should. My instincts like yours are powerful, while having the trust and belief to follow them well that comes at different times for everyone. In- spirit-ation is a part of your being anytime you have the eyes to see, the hero within is there standing by to guide you. Right now!

THE HERO WITHIN IS ON THE FIELD,

PUT HIM IN THE GAME

My mom came home angry and began to slap me I looked at her so sad, her slaps were nothing to the football pounding I had become trained to endure. I could see the hurt and the pain within her, from the world that had taught her and passed on this way of life, to her, her childhood, her husband, her world.

My mother was a human being living in fear and it was powerful. I had witnessed more rage than I have ever seen in the boxing ring, too many of us have. I came home one day and packed my boxes in my room, like the incredible hulk my senses were on alert.

A year earlier a guardian* when I was twelve showed up to my 7th grade class to my surprise, this adult had been aware of the dysfunction I had survived and had taken legal action to attempt to get me out of the abuse I was living in. Right then and there was enough evidence that the court would grant foster care status as my guardian.

I was too afraid at this time, of my mother even to leave her and I also did not want to get her in trouble. This is the first time I have ever spoken of this incident, but it made me realize my fears were real. I had no idea what the world of foster care would bring me, but the day came when I was brave enough to find out, I was listening to my instincts.

I could also see being* in my mother and that is what I loved, but those experiences were few and far between. I wanted so desperately for her to come to one of my games and cheer me on, support me, but I was punished for one thing or another, and according to her, I was lucky, I got to play.

I was 19 years old the first time my mom saw me play football and football was my life, since I was 10. I knew and deep down I knew she knew, this life we were living, was against our instincts.

The time had come, I grabbed her hands and I pinned her against the wall, and said this is the last time you will ever hit me. Much to her surprise, from my thirteen year old eyes, she probably saw coming, as I told her to take me to the children’s aid I was leaving home.

INSTINCTS INTO ACTION

I had no knowledge of my half brother’s abusive childhood, the path of destruction of their step father. I was an only child that happened to have half brothers and sisters my dad had left behind. I was like millions of humans and other children living in fear, cut off from their instincts passing fear and anger to others through their daily actions.

When at the age of thirteen I landed on the doorstep of the children’s aid in Windsor Ontario, a gentleman by the name of Ed Humney greeted my mother and I. My mother spoke, her presence very dominating, she was attractive and fit as I remained silent and refused to speak. In a moment of intuition Ed asked my mother to leave the room, thinking he had a very angry and damaged small boy sitting before him.

The moment the door closed I popped up and said, Hello Ed, what do you want to know? Ed almost fell out of his chair, thinking I was not going to speak as many children filled with fear often don’t. I told Ed, I was so afraid of my mom I would not speak in front of her and that I was not going back to live with her, that afternoon I was placed in my first of 13 different homes, until I was legally allowed to move out on my own on the day after my 16th birthday.

The Windsor Children’s Aid, worked with me as I bounced around from friends parents houses that would foster me and the strangers that welcomed me into their homes through the foster care system. I became a crown ward of the children’s aid, making them my guardians until I was 21, as long as I stayed in school another miracle in my life as few kids get this privilege.

Why me? At the time I did not see it as a privilege. I had new fears to face and a world of childhood dreams to fulfill. There were new adventures ahead and it felt like it was a step in the right direction and after all, from day one I could play football.

I was a lucky one, it wasn’t going to be easy but I was blessed. I had an opportunity to take responsibility for my future if I could learn the lessons the school of hard knocks was teaching me.

I share my experiences and observations with my big brother with humble beginnings, from going to sleep in fear at night feeling alone and abandoned, to hoisting a World champion on my shoulders in front of the world fueled by love and compassion.

As brothers we both faced incredible personal and athletic challenges in such a dramatic path, I was happy to be a small part of Donny’s unbelievable story of fortitude and will, while on my own personal journey to fulfilling my own dreams.

BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE

For a time in Donny’s life he appeared to see what no one else could see, after all it was his journey there was no need to accept the limitations imposed on him by others. When our intuition is guiding us we must remember, we are unique, we have gifts and guidance and dreams no one else can see.

My brother and I had incredible goals, like most kids, but it was dreams of living a life from beyond fear and to feel worthy, that fueled us.

Holistic health was another passion Donny and I shared, as well as an innate understanding, that the body has remarkable ability to heal itself if we balance the mind, body and spirit the definition of holism.

Today we throw the word organic around like it something new, only to poison our bodies with re-cycled fear from our childhoods, until we fight and face our internal fears.

I shared in this passion with my brother so strongly, to experience true health, my instincts were guiding me to; I later in life became a doctor of chiropractic. The number one holistic health care profession in the world, a small fraction of the world is yet to understand.

I write this story first as a sport’s fan, and secondly as a cheerleader to the soul to celebrate an amazing triumph of the human spirit. I witnessed and experienced firsthand, against incredible odds both in and out of the professional boxing ring the rise of my brother the Goldenboy, while I went from a boy to a man capable of living a life from beyond fear.

It was along my journey that I realized the struggle I was facing in the outside world was actually just a reflection of what I was feeling inside.

Becoming a champion in football, boxing or becoming a doctor was just a part of the journey and a fraction of my life’s purpose. While I got to meet the most famous and richest people in the world, the journey to find lasting happiness and internal peace, the battles to face fear and anger, was the real challenge going on inside of me. The outside world was directing me like it does for all of us, to face the inside world.

OUR THOUGHTS SHOULD SUPPORT OUR GOALS

Life is unstable and ever changing always tempting us to take our eye off of the goal, which is simply to live in the moment rooted in love, like a plant sun bathing. We cannot eat tomorrow’s meal today, or yesterday’s. To live in the moment, becomes our biggest challenge each day, this is where having the awareness to listen to the guidance ever present of the hero within. Instead of lost in the pursuit of perfection from the outside world we will never achieve in the future?

I have experiences miracles in all shapes and sizes and often when you least expect them, I know you have too. Donny was a living example that it is never too late to live your dream and I planned on living mine and like a true Capricorn I was always creating new ones.

To get started, you can create and set new goals today, now, you can get start just by simply writing them down! During this story I will take you on a journey beyond fear and anger beyond the limits of the mind and into the ring with my brother Donny in his most memorable bouts in the ring as I observed them and the challenges I faced to embrace the journey to the hero within.

THE CONSCIOUS MIND IS JUST

THE TIP OF THE ICEBURG

The obstacles in life created by fear and anger that in many ways was more difficult than facing a killer in the ring for twelve rounds as together we travel on the inner journey and emotions the Goldenboy and I, had to overcome to believe in ourselves we all must face to fulfill our potential.

For those that believe in luck, ‘luck is when preparation meets opportunity," somehow it seems luck strangely enough, often has a lot of sweat close behind it.

Inspiration followed closely by perspiration. Lessons learned, and sometimes learned the hard way, to realizing and fulfilling our dreams. Regardless of the odds, though not without tremendous struggle and fortitude we must fight to follow our passion and belief.

Amazingly each time we would fulfill incredible dreams on our journey, new dreams would surface each time we reached our goals, again and again as our passion and belief grew beyond hurt and fear. It is then from a new plateau we experience dreams much, much larger