Writing the Light: Finding the Light in the Darkness of Depression. the Awakening of a Lightworker
By Phoenix Rose
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With a strict upbringing in the Midwest, author Phoenix Rose was molded into what a young woman was expected to be. In her culture, girls were raised to become housewives and mothers in arranged marriages by their late teens. It was all she knew, and it seemed normal to her.
At seventeen, Rose was sent to New York City as a virgin bride to marry a man she didn’t know. Away from family, she was forced to learn about life through this emotionally and physically abusive arrangement, later a culturally unacceptable divorce, and years of the painful struggles of trying to find her identity and survive alone in a big city. She was ready to die for her freedom and almost did more than once. She experienced heart-wrenching tragedy, loneliness, trials, and failures leading to a deep depression.
In Writing the Light, Rose narrates her story, sharing how she was on the brink of suicide. This memoir tells about the life lessons learned and her unexpected spiritual awakening. She discusses how she saved herself and now seeks to heal and help others.
Phoenix Rose
Phoenix Rose embodies her name, rising from the ashes of domestic violence to become an inspiration. She's a survivor who defied the odds and now lives a life of freedom and adventure, traveling the world alongside her husband. Her story is a testament to the transformative power of resilience and faith, where beauty emerges from the ashes of despair. As an accomplished author, Phoenix Rose crafts compelling narratives that resonate with readers' hearts. Additionally, she channels her creativity through art and photography, capturing the beauty of life's moments. As a Creative Life Coach, she shares her gifts by helping others unlock their full potential. Phoenix Rose's journey is a testament to the human spirit's ability to triumph over adversity and emerge stronger, shining brightly like a phoenix.
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Writing the Light - Phoenix Rose
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There I was, lying under a car on the cold ground, in my pajamas, escaping a beaten from the husband I had been forced to marry at age seventeen. How did I get to this point? That’s a bit of a lengthy but captivating story, which I will unravel, along with the even more tumultuous years that followed. The story itself is one in its own, but it is also the remarkable lessons learned that helped me overcome depression that arose from it. It is a story within a story—and both are extraordinary.
Foreword
This is a story of resilience, the most valuable of human qualities, the one which allows a person to be knocked down by life and come back at least as strong as before. May the readers of this story be inspired to overcome any obstacles they may face
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- Dr. V, Psychiatrist from Bayshore, New York
Contents
Inroduction
Mission
Prologue
Chapter 1 The Making of Me
Chapter 2 Little Girl, Big City
Chapter 3 Freedom with a Price
Chapter 4 Moving Forward
Chapter 5 Love and Relationships
Chapter 6 Death and Loss
Chapter 7 Seeking Him
Chapter 8 I, the Artist
Chapter 9 Ugly Me
Chapter 10 The Fall
Chapter 11 Overcoming Depression
Chapter 12 Healing with Meditation
Chapter 13 Volunteering and Giving Back
Chapter 14 The Metamorphosis of Me—My Awakening
Chapter 15 Recycling My Life
Chapter 16 Finding the Light
26550.pngI rather write than read. I rather write than speak. If you want to have a deep conversation with me, send me an email. I’ve always been a better writer than speaker. I guess it’s my heart that has something to say, not the mouth.
As a child until adulthood I would sit in solitude and write letters to myself, most times destroying them in fear that someone would read my private thoughts. I shared no secrets. They were conversations only to me, never to be found or exposed. Today, after years of battling and bottling tumultuous feelings inside, choking and desperately needing to breathe, writing became my air.
I have always been very private and hid my pain from the world. I maintained a character that withstood all obstacles and if I was suffering, it was unseen by the public. I had believed that the display of any kind of suffering was a sign of weakness. When I faced the world, I showed strength and an infallible character.
Today, I see courage where I once thought was weakness. I’ve come to understand that the more cracks, the stronger the character and that our past powerfully affects our present, as our present powerfully affects our future.
Mission
I am at a point in my life that I believe I am not to take all of these life’s struggles to my grave. They happened for a reason. You are my reason . Through my suffering someone can heal. In order to do this, I have realized and accepted that I must completely surrender myself and open my heart to the reader by being brave, raw, honest, and open to judgment as I had never been able to be in the past; not even with my family or closest friends. So, I now willingly open my scars as I take this catharsis journey into various periods of my life, in the hopes that my pain will lead to someone’s Healing. It is time to stand strong. It is time to reveal in order to heal; my healing as well as yours. This has become my life’s purpose. You, the reader, are my purpose. THANK YOU.
Prologue
I am first generation American-born Eastern European, raised with the strict cultural upbringing of another land. Molded to be a virgin teenage bride destined for an arranged marriage, later married off in New York City to my stranger husband. A young girl lost in a big city trying to find my identity and later fighting for the freedom to be me. Surviving completely alone, I’ve encountered numerous heart-wrenching trials and failures, felt the torments of tragedies, betrayal, broken relationships, with a lack of love and bouts of extreme loneliness, I fell into a deep and dark state of depression lasting several years until finally surrendering to it and desiring death more than life.
On the brink of this suicidal state, through detailed events in this book, I was spiritually awakened and hope was restored hence this book was born with a purpose of saving not only myself, but to also provide healing to others.
Refusing to surrender to the darkness of depression, I have instead chose to begin Writing the Light.
Chapter 1
The Making of Me
I f, when we are born, we could be who we are instead of what is expected of us (either by our parents, culture, or society), magic could happen. We would be able to unleash a power from within that could change the world. Unfortunately, and without blame, many people don’t realize this soon enough, so like many, I was molded instead.
This landed me on the brink of suicide and delayed my life’s purpose for decades.
I am the fifth-born of six children to non-fluent, Eastern European immigrant parents. I was born and raised in the Midwest in a loving home—but with the same strict, cultural upbringing and ethnic codes that our parents were raised by in their native land. It was obvious to me at a young age that we were very different than the other kids I went to school with. There was a clear culture clash as it was the complete opposite to an American lifestyle that exuded freedom and an open mind.
This strict upbringing was very beneficial to my character as it bred a lot of great traits such as respect, loyalty, and family values; many which, unfortunately, seem rare today. However, since I was extremely sheltered and protected from outside influences, it also caused major setbacks in my maturity and growth as an individual. Even as an adult, I was still very naive, close-minded, innocent, and overly trusting of the world. I had to learn things that most already knew by high school if not sooner. I had to learn through ridicule, painful mistakes, being taken advantage of, and swift kicks in the ass.
I had been molded into what a young woman was expected to be instead of who I was. In our culture, for instance, the girls were strictly raised to become housewives and mothers by an arranged marriage by their late teens. This was all I knew, and it seemed normal to me. This molding was so deeply instilled in me that it took me many, many years to figure out who I was, what I wanted, and to learn to live my life for myself and not for what was expected by my culture and family. For years, I was lost and had no sense of identity.
My story is the consequence of the reality of circumstance that led to an interesting yet many times excruciating road to personal growth and life. This road to my life’s journey was a movie that would have one cry many times over, as I have, as I had to relive it to share it with you.
Early On
As a child, I was very loving and playful, and I enjoyed writing and singing. I was mature, very self-disciplined, and obedient, and I always excelled in school. My dad always said that out of all six of his kids, I was the child who he never had to put much effort in disciplining.
I lost my mother in an accident when I was ten, so my father was everything to me. I saw him as a godlike figure. He was very strict, but I’ve always felt safe and protected by him. I worshipped his ideas, opinions, and thoughts and made them my own. He also had a way of making you think through his head and not your own (as many parents do), so in my youth, I had almost no opinions that weren’t his.
He barely spoke English, but he was very wise and had great money-management skills. Although we had a large family, we always had a better home and furnishings than other people on our block. I felt proud of him. Still do. Today, he has become one of my best friends, and he has been very understanding and supportive through my struggles.
Growing up, we weren’t allowed to hang out with kids from other cultures outside of school to avoid being influenced against our cultural upbringing, traditions, and beliefs. We had to be proud, respectful, and devoted to our nationality and maintaining it.
My father was protective of all his children, but he was especially strict with his daughters. I never slept over at anyone’s home. If I needed to go to the corner store, I would have to take one of my brothers with me. I was not allowed to join any extracurricular activities that would require me staying afterschool—I really wanted to play basketball—and when I was in the third grade, I couldn’t even go on an overnight camping trip with my class. I never got over that one and still have never been camping.
As a teenager, it was obvious that I was very naive compared to the other girls my age. By high school, many of my classmates were having sexual relationships, smoking, cursing, and hanging out late, none of which was tolerated or even spoke of in our home, because we knew when something was not allowed and didn’t have to be told.
I didn’t understand half of the things that the girls at school would talk about. I remember one day in the eleventh grade when one of my school friends asked me, Do you like to be on top?
She must have assumed that I was sexually active. I was brought up very sheltered and had absolutely no clue what that meant. I thought, On top of what? I imagine my puzzled look stopped her from waiting for a reply. I was beyond naïve when it came to those things, but I did surpass most of my classmates academically and was on the National Honor Society.
My life consisted of only home and school, but I was very happy since I had a big, loving family to share it with. I knew nothing else. This was my norm.
I was not allowed to wear makeup or shorts once I became a teenager, or play with boys other than my brothers. Dating was forbidden since arranged marriages were practiced in our culture. Today, arranged marriages are still practiced in many countries and in many different religious backgrounds.
I was raised strictly to become a good wife and mother. By the age of sixteen, I already knew how to make homemade bread from scratch and woke up early on weekends to knead it and have it ready for breakfast. I did, in fact, feel the importance of learning how to cook, clean, and maintain a home, but getting an education always felt most important to me. Luckily, my father also stressed this importance unlike some of the more close-minded village types that took their daughters out of school at an early age so they could just marry and become housewives. I was raised to be a whole woman who could bring home the bacon and fry it up in a pan.
In our ethnic code of laws, if a