Mental Toughness: Understanding the Game of Life
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It is often said that 80% of what happens to us in life is based upon how we think. Initially, I wrote this as a letter to read to our children when they graduated from high school.
I thought of this bookas I was driving down the road, takingour childrenfrom practice to practice and game to game. After we got past "how was your day?" There were many times with periods of awkward silence. Neither one of us knew what to talk about.This was a very difficult time for me. I am used to speaking in front of large crowds, but at this point I did not know what to say to my 10 year-old son. What was wrong with me? I felt foolish. So I stepped back, and analyzed my life and the lives of the successful people around me. I decided to teach my children about the things that it took me 40+ years of listening to my family, friends, mentors, taking seminars, reading books, listening to the tapes/CDs, etc. to learn to achieve success and happiness. There are hundreds of self help books, CDs, DVDs and seminars for adults. Why not teach this to kids and young adults? So I started talking to our children about positive life experiences and ways to lead a positive, happy, successful, productive life. This is what this book is about, helpingus to understand the game of life. I wanted our children to have a reference when struggling with the game of life and this book was the result of those efforts. This is a reference book that we can use again and againthroughout our life.
Together we can change the world by recognizing one positive experience at a time.
Dr. Timothy S. Wakefield
Dr. Timothy S. Wakefield is married and father of 3 boys. He is a Doctor of Chiropractic, Diplomate in the American Chiropractic Board of Sports Physicians, Certified Strength and Conditioning Specialist and Certified in Chiropractic Spinal Trauma. He has published books, articles and taught multiple programs in the area of sports injuries, physical fitness, health wellness, occupational health, athletic development, motivation, etc. Dr. Wakefield is a firm believer that the “mental game of life” is “teachable and learnable”. Before a person can teach the game of life a person must understand the game of life. In order to take advantage of the multiple experiences that life has to offer, focus on the greatness in the world and be disciplined to make great life choices, a person must be mentally strong. People must be mentally strong to reject the distractions that impede our success. Thus the name of this book: Mental Toughness: Understanding the game of life. Good luck, enjoy the concepts of this book. Take the information for what it is worth. Understand the concepts, apply them to your life, share them with your friends and family, and do not “read between the lines”. This book was written with the “KISS” principal in mind. Keep It Short and Simple. This was written to assist us in looking at the positive in the world and to identify the great opportunities we all have. This book, most of all, will help us ALL gain control of your lives.
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Mental Toughness - Dr. Timothy S. Wakefield
Three Things that Can Change Your Life in a Fraction of a Second
The three things that can change your life in a fraction of a second are:
1. Sex
2. Drugs
3. Alcohol
As you get older you may experiment with sex. In most schools there are sex education classes. With these classes you have been taught how to protect yourself and your partner; please be careful with sexual activity. A sexually transmitted disease or a pregnancy can change your life, your entire life. Please be open with your partner and communicate about sexual activity. Discussing sexual activity can be embarrassing, but it is an important part of life. Sexual activity is an important part of a relationship for both the male and the female. Make sure you communicate about your sexual relationship and sexual activity and understand each of your likes and dislikes. Remember to use the appropriate forms of contraception (condoms, the pill, etc). Sexual activity can change the outcome of your entire life. I encourage you to discuss sexual activity with a parent, relative, or close adult before engaging in sexual activity. The more you know and understand, the less chance of making a mistake that could affect your entire life. Please be careful with sexual activity.
If you have not yet been exposed to drugs in high school, you may be in college, at work, or in the future. There is absolutely no win to taking drugs. You can risk everything you have worked for your entire life by trying drugs just once. It is not worth the risk to your body, your character, or your reputation. There is no win with taking drugs.
You may have seen adults drink alcohol since you have been young. Once you are of legal drinking age, alcohol consumption can be OK as long as you control the amount of alcohol you consume and NOT have the alcohol control you. Alcohol can cloud your judgment
and can lead you into making poor choices. Always be in control of your choices. People can become dependant on alcohol; this can be bad and destroy your health and relationships with others. Be careful with your consumption of alcohol. Be careful with the amount of the consumption and the frequency of the consumption, if you choose to consume.
Male/Female Relationships
In general, males and females have different needs.
Understand that most males have to be physical (touching) before becoming emotional (expressing feelings verbally).
Understand that most females have to become emotional (expressing feelings verbally) before becoming physical (touching).
This means that to have a good relationship with your wife or girlfriend you have to let them talk, and you must just listen whether you agree or not. This is quite difficult for me and most men. Understand that females do not want you to solve their problems; they just want you to listen. They are not asking for your opinion and, quite frankly, don’t want your guidance on how to think. They want to think through it themselves. Females, generally, do that with their mouth.
Understand that it is difficult for most men to sit, listen, and ask questions about the subject, and NOT give solutions until asked. In order to have a good healthy relationship with most females you must: listen—not talk; ask questions—not give answers; and let them work through their own issues and concerns. When females want your help, they will ask for it. If what they want is unclear to you, then ask them, Are you asking me to help you with a solution, or do you want me to listen and help you talk through this?
In general, females like to be listened to, told they are beautiful, smart, a great mother, cook, wife, etc. Females like to assume that males know what they want/think. Males don’t take hints well. Make sure you tell your significant other to ask for what she wants and do not assume you will know by the hints that she thinks she has given you. Females like to be surprised with little things, flowers, candy, etc. They like to know that they are thought about throughout your day.
Many males like to feel they are the primary provider for the family. They like to feel like the King of Their Castle.
Males like to feel they are the hunter-gatherers
for the family. Males like to feel they bring home the bacon.
Males like to have their hands held when walking down the road, their shoulders rubbed when sitting at home, and in general like to be quiet when at home. Men are generally thinkers, not talkers. Males are generally problem solvers.
So it helps males to think
about their problems and come up with a solution
to discuss. It helps females to talk
about their problems
; they may never come up with a solution, but they feel better for having talked about