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The Key to a Good Parent-Child Relationship? Low Expectations.

Imperfect people can still enjoy a satisfying and healthy bond.
Source: Jan Buchczik

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Y “are high-minded, for they have not yet been humbled by life nor have they experienced the force of necessity,” Aristotle wrote in . “They think they know everything, and confidently affirm it.” When about “kids these days,” they are often taking an indirect swipe at their own young-adult children. I can just imagine what Aristotle’s son, Nicomachus, must have felt in return: Dad probably dispensed unwelcome advice (“No one will ever hire you with if you go around with your hanging off like a common delinquent”), made Nicomachus feel guilty (“Would it you to visit a poor now and then?”), treated him—you might have a peek at it”), and raised topics he didn’t want to talk about (“Should I hold a spot for you this year at the Lyceum?”).

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