It's Not Your Fault
By Gail Morgan
()
About this ebook
Are you in an abusive relationship? Would you like to find the strength within yourself to overcome either the abuse or the fear of leaving the abuser? If you have answered: 'Yes' to these two questions, then this book is for you. Anyone who is in an abusive relationship, as well as friends and family members of someone who is being abused will benifit from reading this book. You will learn how to cope while you are being verbally attacked and how to minimise the risk of physical abuse. Whether you are ready to leave the abuser or not, this book will give you all the strategies that you will need. For concerned friends and family members; you will learn how to help your loved one and keep her safe. Whether you are male or female, whether you have children or not, you do not need to be in an abusive relationship - this book will show you how to either fix it or leave it.
Gail Morgan
I am a born and bred South African from Pretoria, and I am so fortunate to have two wonderful children who support me in all my endeavours. This book has been written because I was in an abusive marriage for over 40 years. I am committed to helping anyone who is in such a situation.
Related to It's Not Your Fault
Related ebooks
Kick the Jerk out of Your Life: Don’T Let Anyone Fool You Again! Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow To Win Your Dream Man's Heart And Make Him Yours Forever... Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe 24 Types of Suckas to Avoid Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Living With A Partner With Anger Issues: The Art Of Self-Compassion Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsDating & Soulmates, How To Attract A Successful Love Life, A Guided Relationship Journal For Women Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsOuting Dating Abuse: A Primer For LBGTQ Youth Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsEmotional Abuse: Recover From Psychological Abuse, Narcissism, Manipulation and Overcome Narcissistic Relationships Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWhy You Fail In Relationships Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsWhite Socks Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsYou Are A Door Prize, Not A Doormat Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsLife's Accessories: A Memoir (and Fashion Guide) Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Envy Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGodmother Quotes of Haterology 101: The Insane Book of Truth Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow To Find Peace Of Mind When You Realise Your Boyfriend Is A Narcissist Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5A Time to Heal Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsUnderstand Him and Keep Him Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsGlobalize YOURSELF! DIY Online Presence with $10 in 3 Days Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsTruth and Life Made Simple: Inspired at the Holy Family Adoration Chapel, Orlando, Fl Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Power of Reverse Psychology: Outsmarting Narcissistic Tactics for Desired Outcomes Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsHow to Deal with Difficult People: Advanced and Effective Methods to Deal with Difficult People Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsSurviving a Toxic and Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize, Respond to and Recover from People with Personality Disorders Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsFighting Nightmares Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsThe Core of Fire: Passionate Shades of Intimacy Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsAnxiety in relationship Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratingsShadow system The Ultimate Step-By-Step Guide Rating: 0 out of 5 stars0 ratings12 Ways to Healing: A Guided Journal For Moving Beyond The Pain Of Toxic And Abusive Relationships Rating: 2 out of 5 stars2/5
Relationships For You
Running on Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5All About Love: New Visions Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Big Book of 30-Day Challenges: 60 Habit-Forming Programs to Live an Infinitely Better Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Dumbing Us Down - 25th Anniversary Edition: The Hidden Curriculum of Compulsory Schooling Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Maybe You Should Talk to Someone: A Therapist, HER Therapist, and Our Lives Revealed Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5I'm Glad My Mom Died Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Good Girl's Guide to Great Sex: Creating a Marriage That's Both Holy and Hot Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Codependence and the Power of Detachment: How to Set Boundaries and Make Your Life Your Own Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5A Child Called It: One Child's Courage to Survive Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries Workbook: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5ADHD: A Hunter in a Farmer's World Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist: The Narcissism Series, #1 Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5How to Talk so Little Kids Will Listen: A Survival Guide to Life with Children Ages 2-7 Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5What Makes Love Last?: How to Build Trust and Avoid Betrayal Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/58 Rules of Love: How to Find It, Keep It, and Let It Go Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Oh Crap! Potty Training: Everything Modern Parents Need to Know to Do It Once and Do It Right Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5The Art of Loving Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5
Reviews for It's Not Your Fault
0 ratings0 reviews
Book preview
It's Not Your Fault - Gail Morgan
41
It is not your fault
Foreword
This book is written to empower and enable anyone who is, or feels that she is abused by her partner – whether it is mentally, physically, emotionally, or sexually.
Whether you are willing to stay in the relationship, or if you are not yet ready to leave, this book will empower you, not to just endure the abuse, but to see it for what it is so that you can change the pattern.
If you are ready to leave the abusive partner, this book will strengthen you to do so, and give you strategies to enable you during the transition period.
The abused partner is usually female, so throughout this book I will be referring to the abused partner as ‘she’; that certainly does not rule out male victims. It is even more humiliating for a man to be abused than a woman as he is supposed to be tough and strong; nevertheless, there are many men who are abused by their partners – whether the partners are male or female.
If you have an abusive partner, please do not let him see you reading this book as it will enrage him.
To friends and family members of an abused person: If you know of anyone who is being abused, or you suspect that someone close to you is being abused, let her read this book in the safety of your home as we do not want to give the abuser cause for rage. Do not pressure the victim to leave her partner – this book will help her to make up her own mind – rather; let her know that you are there for her and that you will support her no matter what decision she makes.
Chapter 1 Is it abuse?
Chapter 2 The mind of the abuser
Chapter 3 Family and friends
Chapter 4 The welfare of your children
Chapter 5 Physical abuse
Chapter 6 Emotional and verbal abuse
Chapter 7 Sexual abuse
Chapter 8 Financial control
Chapter 9 Escape plans
Chapter 10 When the victim is a man
My Story
Chapter 1
Is it abuse?
You love your partner very much, but things are not right and you don’t know what to do to change things. On the internet you can find numerous quizzes to find out whether you are in an abusive relationship; if you have reached that stage then you are most likely in a relationship that is not working for you. To find the answer as to whether you are in an abusive relationship or not, I only have a few questions for you:
Do you breathe a sigh of relief and feel as if a heavy weight is lifted off your shoulders as soon as you are away from him?
Do you look at how comfortable other couples are together and wish that your relationship could be like that?
Are you doing everything to please him, not because you want to, but because you are afraid of reprisals?
Does he do anything to please you; or is it all about him?
Are you hurting so much on the inside that if it were on the outside, you would be rushed to the emergency room?
The abuse of a partner is a wilful act. He intimidates you by attacking you physically, sexually or verbally. This is a deliberate and systematic pattern of power and control. Each situation is different, and the frequency and severity of the abuse will also vary; yet the similarity is that every abuser will deliberately and consistently do everything in his power to maintain