The Devil's Twins

By Deb Ling

The Devil's Twins is about the long hidden truth of warfare between Christians and the twins, Offense and Rejection. When you are offended, you feel rejected, and when you are rejected, you feel offended. The Twins' double whammy has given many a Christian a black eye. Find out today how to deal with The Devil's Twins!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Deb Ling
• Release date: Jul 14, 2014
• ISBN: 9781310667879

Deb Ling

Deb Ling is a Christian who has been healed of past abuse and grandmother of 2 girls. She has written in many mediums over the years, ie: puppet skits, poetry, articles for a Christian newspaper, journalism class when in school, and ebooks.

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The Devil’s Twins

By Deb Ling

RESTORING RELATIONSHIPS:

How to Overcome the Twins of the devil – Offense and Rejection

Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them

Psalm 119:165

Published by Deb Ling at Smashwords

Copyright 2014 Deb Ling

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Author’s Note:

While I did capitalize the word devil in the title, I will not do so throughout the book. This is done purposefully as I do not want to give him even the credit of a capital letter for his name.

Table of Contents

Introduction

I. Meet the Twins ~ Offense and Rejection

Study Questions I.

II. Offense

What is Offense?

Study Questions II.

III. Rejection ~ the other twin

Study Questions III.

IV. How the Twins Operate

Offended by Family

Rejected by Family

Offended and Rejected by Co-Workers

Offended and Rejected by Your Children

Offended and Rejected by Leadership

Expectations

Your Identity

Results of Rejection and Offense

The Blame Game

Walls We Have Built

Study Questions IV.

V. The Answer to the Problem

We Should Have No Expectations

He Will Never Leave You

You are Loved

Who Are You in Christ?

Dead to Self

First Step - Forgive

Second Step - Repent

Testimony

You Must Walk in Love

Study Questions V.

VI. Prayer Directives

Resources

From the Author

Introduction

I recommend you keep a journal as you go through this book. Memories will come to mind about how this person or that person treated you. As this happens, you want to take notes because the Lord is showing you who has offended and/or rejected you. These are feelings about certain people you will need to deal with. To that end, at the end of each chapter is a workbook section. There you will find questions to answer and help you walk through this healing journey. When memories come to mind, be prepared to write your feelings as well as what the Lord is showing you. Keep your journal on hand to add other thoughts as you go through your healing journey.

I. Meet the Twins ~ Offense and Rejection

Have you ever been offended? I doubt there is anyone that can honestly say no to this. This world we live in is full of people that are unthinking, unloving, and not Christian. Even loving Christians can miss it on occasion and unintentionally offend someone.

Has anyone ever made you mad? Then you have been offended. You cannot go through life without someone making you angry sooner or later. Additionally, you get angry because they have offended you in some way. You may even have some triggers that you will see; if you look back on the last few times, you were angry. Acknowledging those triggers will take you one-step closer to freedom.

Has anyone ever told you that you were not good enough? Then you have been offended. This is a common comment by parents, who might say this when they are angry with a child. The child may even be quite young. This could also come across at a job interview where the employer did not think you filled the bill, making you feel like you were not good enough.

Has your child ever sided with the other parent? Then you have been offended. If you are divorced, then chances are this has happened to you. Even if you are still married, this could have happened to you. However, with divorced parents, sooner or later, this is bound to happen. Typically, the child sides with the parent that is no longer in the household. This is very painful to the custodial parent, who usually is doing much more than the non-custodial parent is.

Has your boss ever overlooked you for a promotion? Then you have been offended. No matter how good a Christian you may be, if you expected that promotion and did not get it (again), you will be offended. The thing is, you may not realize it. You may put it up to It’s just business, not personal. Yet, as soon as you have uttered (or thought) those words, it was personal. You would not have wanted that promotion unless you thought you should get it and deserved to get it. Look deeper; you were offended.

Has a parent shown favoritism with a sibling over you? Then you have been offended. It does not matter how much you love your parent or your sibling, when favoritism is shown-it hurts. Why did the parent choose the sibling instead of you? Do they have the skill set needed for the job? Do they live closer, making it a necessity to choose the sibling? What was the thinking behind it? Sometimes if you can see the reason for the decision, you can lay down the offense.

Has a pastor ever held you back? Then you have been offended. If you are in the church God wants you to be in, and are walking in Submission (yes submission) to God and your pastor, then you should not harbor the offense, even if the pastor is wrong. Why? Because God knows all about it! There is a reason He has allowed it. If you are patient and wait on the Lord, you may find He had a bigger door He wanted you to go through. That bigger door may be in a direction that He has planned for you that you had not been able to see, because you were focused on the smaller door. On the other hand, maybe – just maybe – the pastor is right. What you have to remember is you are to submit to him, and then it is between him and God. So pray.

Has a sister/brother in the Lord been chosen over you? Then you have been offended. This goes back to the last paragraph. God may have another plan. After all, last time I checked He knew the beginning from the end, and yet still says:

Jeremiah 29:11 The Message

I know what I’m doing. I have it all planned out—plans to take care of you, not abandon you, plans to give you the future you hope for.

King James For I know the thoughts that I