GODACITY: The Audacity to Let Go and Let God

By Darvyaire Turner

Godacity is not just a coined term, it is a Movement. Godacity: The Audacity to Let Go and Let God is the refreshingly, practical, guide you need to release the things that hold you back.  Allow Godacity to captivate you with compelling stories and experiences from the author’s own life. 

Godacity

• Language: English
• Publisher: Godacity LLC
• Release date: Feb 29, 2020
• ISBN: 9780578638164

Darvyaire Turner

Darvyaire Turner is a Godacious Educator, Entrepreneur, Inventor, and now a first-time Best Selling Author. Darvy is passionate about community crusading and noble pursuits to further the agenda of educating and empowering youth. She is the ambitious Founder/CEO of Godacity LLC. Darvyaire dedicated nearly 15 years of her life to educating Chicago's youth as a successful teacher leader. Through her role as a program director, she developed a passion for hiring and empowering college-age students and graduates. As a result of personal and life experiences and relationships, Darvyaire has extended her dedication to encouraging women to let go and let God in all areas of life. She believes that limiting ideas, beliefs, thoughts, behaviors, and people hold us back from our God-ordained Destiny. It is not until we release those limitations that we can walk in our purpose and on our path to destiny. Darvyaire resides in Chicago where she leads a fulfilling life with her loving family as an active pet mom to her adorable two pups, Snuggles and Snowball. Book for events, book clubs, speaking engagements, and coaching sessions. Contact visit www.godacity.net and @godaciousdarvy on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

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Introduction

Kudos to you for taking the first step toward improving your life choices and decision making. You are one read away from changing the trajectory of your life by analyzing the things you are holding onto that are ultimately holding you back. By the end of this book, you will have developed your inner and outer Godacity—the audacity to let go and let God. To be Godacious, you must develop the courage to identify who you are, who you have been, and who you want to be. Godacity will take you on a journey to help identify those ideas, beliefs, thoughts, behaviors, and/or people in your life that you must be bold enough to let go of to let God lead you into your destiny. For example, this book will teach you how to identify characteristics you possess that are causing you to make bad decisions in relationships, including decisions related to family, marriage, dating, friendship, and even business partnerships. You may decide that now is the time to let old habits die because they are keeping you from growing and you know that if you cut them off that you can truly live.

As a 15-year educator and a lifelong learner by trade, it has always been my practice to seek wisdom and knowledge from a variety of sources: books, teachers, colleagues, elders, seminars, workshops, articles, and conferences. I would self-reflectively evaluate this information to internalize the wisdom and make certain that I applied the lessons to my own life and circumstances. This is how I ensured my constant growth when I set out to discover why I remained stagnant and involved in multiple temporary relationships, both romantic and professional. The capacity to learn, grow, and heal is truly a gift for some, but it is also a life skill that can be developed.

The revelations I received were life-changing lessons, I believe it is my God-given purpose to share them with you. Not everyone has the resources to go on a self-discovery journey nor the time to dedicate to searching multiple platforms for the answers to their problems. Since I understand that no pain is without purpose and no trial is without verdict, I am writing this book to share the lessons and blessings of my journey with the like-minded and with those seeking the same guidance I sought and needed in times of uncertainty and confusion.

In addition, I think that when we share our experiences and the lessons that we have learned from our lives, we should do so to be of service to others. We do not have control over the message or how the message is received. We simply have a duty, a responsibility, to obey God's will, which is to deliver the message. I am actually shocked that this message is the one I am assigned to deliver. I can remember watching one of my favorite spiritual leaders, Iyanla Vanzant, on Fix My Life. I had seen a few episodes back-to-back. In each one, she encouraged the women to let a man go and make another choice. I called my sister afterward and told her Iyanla Vanzant was crazy: If we listened to her, we would all be single and lonely. We laughed about it, but both of us now know that she was absolutely right. At that time, I did not have the Godacity to let go and let God with my relationships, but I gained it in due time.

Godacity is a message that God gave me. It is a message that God wants me to deliver to others. As I analyzed the experiences in my life, one common thread I found was a resistance to let go and let God. The struggle I experienced happened because I did not want to let go. I wanted to hold on to the things on which I had focused all my energy. How could I give up the very thing that I worked so hard to get? I put in a lot of effort, heart, and soul into getting those things. The lesson I learned after many years of fighting against Him is that God allows you to put your heart and soul into many different things, but some of those things are meant to be lessons and the results of your efforts are not your ultimate blessings. If this is the case, then you are going to have to let these things go. Nothing you do or obtain can be more important than God or what God has for you.

I learned this lesson over and over again until I mastered it. At this point, I like to say my let go game is fierce. I can identify what is not right for me even better than I can identify what is right for me. Just knowing what I need to let go of leads me down the path to my destiny because God shows us what we are not and who we are not before we understand who we are and what we are. If you take nothing else away from Godacity, take this: The audacity to let go and let God takes courage, boldness, and faith as we let go of things that limit our ideas, our beliefs, our thoughts, our behaviors, and as we discern the difference between the people we should invite into our lives to stay and the people we need to eliminate from our lives.

Godacity also requires the faith and the courage to let God, even when you do not see the full picture; to trust God even when you do not know what is next; to understand that we cannot be attached to the outcomes we plan, but we must be attached to the outcome that God has planned for us. Throughout this process, there will still be disappointments. There may even be devastation, just as when Jeremiah followed God’s Will and ended up in a muddy pit. You have to remember that in the end, everything you suffer will lead you to God's ordained Will for your life, and God's Will has to be more important than anything else.

With that said, I can only present and deliver the message in this book. I cannot cause anyone to believe the message or enact it in his or her life. My only purpose is to be obedient to God's Will. I understand that the spiritual guidance throughout my life experiences brought me to this point in the destiny God has for me, and it is His Will for me to write this book and deliver the lessons and the message in it. This book is my responsibility.

Although it is also my hope that my message is received well and that I can inspire Godacity in many, many people, I am not attached to that outcome. Obedience is greater than sacrifice. I understand that if I just do what God is asking of me and if I let go of what I want the outcome to be, it will all become exactly what it should be: God's Will. Perhaps there is only one person God wants me to reach with this book, and that person is you. As long as I have been obedient, I have the faith to trust God knows what He is doing.

As I write this book, I must practice the message I have learned once again. I must let go of the outcome, and I must let God decide what that outcome will be. I know with all my heart that both the people who read this book and myself will be blessed because of it. I also know that anyone drawn to this book and its message and ideas will receive exactly what they were meant to receive, whether it was my planned intention or not. God's planned intention is all that matters. He puts the right people in the right place at the right time to receive the right message from the right source to guide them down their path.

I pray you become Godacious at letting go of anything or anyone that no longer serves a divine purpose in your life. If someone or something in your life is taking away your peace, that someone or something needs to be out of your emotional budget.

In this book I will share engaging stories that demonstrate times when having the Godacity to let go and let God was necessary for my well-being and growth. These stories were chosen to help you face the fear that comes with letting go and to help you develop the ability to relax your hold-on muscles so that you may release the things you need to release and receive the things you need to receive. You will discover how to build your inner strength and courage to exercise the Godacity to let go of those things that are holding you back from the destiny God has for you so that you may learn, grow, and heal through your process of intuitive discernment and intentional recuperation. Enjoy reading this book. Take your time to absorb its message, and if it is God’s Will, may you forever be transformed by the renewing of your mind as a result of what you read.

The Problem

Okay, so what is your issue? You have a problem letting go of things that hold you back whether you realize it now or not. You would not have picked up this book to read if you did not have this problem. You are holding on to things out of fear of surrendering to the unknown. For example, you may be holding on to a job even though your boss does not treat you fairly or appreciate you. You may be holding on to a friend who is disloyal or combative. You may be holding on to a spouse who does not value you, cheats on you, or has a destructive vice. You may be holding on to your neglectful mother or father even though that neglect has negatively impacted your life. You may find yourself in a negative business partnership but hold on to it even though it is hurting you financially instead of helping you. You may be dating someone whom you have realized is not your ideal mate and accepting that person feels like settling. You may be holding on to an addiction, perhaps drugs or alcohol, that are destroying your body and causing pain to your loved ones. Or, maybe you lost someone dear and close to you, and you are holding on to that loss instead of letting go. The list of things we all hold on to longer than we should is endless.

The thing about letting go is that it requires Godaciousness. It requires the Godacity to let go without knowing the outcome. It requires a boldness to know that if it does not contribute to your peace then it is not what God wants for you. If it does not fit the path that God has for you, you must let it go or else it will hold you back from the destiny God has ordained for you. You must understand that the longer you hold on to something that is not intended for you or no longer intended for you, then you are showing others that you would rather live a less than life instead of living a fulfilled life. When you let go and let God, you teach other people that you will not allow the conditions of living in a fallen world to get you down and that you want and deserve better than what many simply settle for having. When you take charge of your life by letting go of the negative things you have held and by letting God work through your life, He will give you all you need and arrange your situation so your happiness can be whole. Either situations will change to accommodate your standards or God will send situations that meet the higher standard you have set for yourself. You do not have to settle. God will allow better things to manifest in your life if you learn to let go.

It is difficult to let go. You may not be confident in your decision about whether or not you should let go. You may fear how much you will lose, and you may fear that what God gives back to you will not be better than the situation you let go. The good news is that you do not need confidence in what you are doing. It is not confidence in yourself to make things happen in your own life. It is the faith to trust God even when you do not know the outcome. To let go and let God is the audacity to exhibit boldness by saying, I may not know what's next. I may not know what the future holds for me, but I know that God holds my future. I know enough about God and His plan to know that this is not His best for me. I know that I must let this go in order to surrender to His Will and to what He has in store for me. With surrender comes fear, but in the face of that fear, we must be brazen enough to let go to let God. Experience develops confidence. Every Godacious act you practice will give you more confidence to practice the next thing God calls you to do.

But it is possible that you picked up this book because you have already let go to let God. Or, you may be at that in-between period between the letting go and letting God. God is acting in your life and on your life, but you do not see it or feel it. When the wind starts blowing a few counties over, some people can feel the rain approaching and others cannot. You may feel like you are losing faith during the