How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice For Teens)

By Jennifer Jackson

You don't have to be "born with it" to be popular with boys—you can learn! Jam packed with secrets, tips and tricks, in How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice for Teens), you're guaranteed to find tons of advice you've never read or heard anywhere else. Brimming with real life stories and easy-to-understand examples of how to put her advice into action, with this book JJ hands you the key to breaking the guy code. Here's what you'll find:

•The two most important things you need to know about guys (ignore these facts and you'll never be successful with them)
•How to use secrets of attraction to get him to notice you and bring him to your side
•The importance of confidence and how to get it (you really can turn it all around)
•How to make him want to come after you
•How guys really tell you how they feel (hint: they don't use words!)
•The importance of being cool (and ways to actually be it)
•Why you should never tell a guy what to do
•How to figure out what's really going on with a guy
•How drama can kill a relationship
•How to handle The Breakup (and how to know if you should break up with him)
•And much, much more!

In addition to wisdom about guys, JJ gives you valuable advice about life in general that will help you every single day of your life. How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice for Teens) gives you guy knowledge and life knowledge all in one place. This book is guaranteed to make you one smart cookie and put you ahead of the pack!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Jennifer Jackson
• Release date: Mar 22, 2014
• ISBN: 9781311954633

Jennifer Jackson

Jennifer Jackson is a born and bred Texan with a tremendous interest in helping girls figure out guys and life during the Finding Yourself Years. Her interests include spending time with family and friends, her sweetheart chihuahua-mix dog, testing her creativity, travel, reading, anything outdoors, coloring outside the lines, learning new things and poker. Her unending curiosity and love for adventure make her pretty sure she would test positive for the R7 gene. She loves nerds and her dream nerd is Leonard of TV's The Big Bang Theory. She resides in Texas.

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You don't have to be born with it to be popular with boys—you can learn! Jam packed with secrets, tips and tricks, in How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice for Teens), you're guaranteed to find tons of advice you've never read or heard anywhere else. Brimming with real life stories and easy-to-understand examples of how to put her advice into action, with this book JJ hands you the key to breaking the guy code. Here's what you'll find:

The two most important things you need to know about guys (ignore these facts and you'll never be successful with them)

How to use secrets of attraction to get him to notice you and bring him to your side

The importance of confidence and how to get it (you really can turn it all around)

How to make him want to come after you

How guys really tell you how they feel (hint: they don't use words!)

The importance of being cool (and ways to actually be it)

Why you should never tell a guy what to do

How to figure out what's really going on with a guy

How drama can kill a relationship

How to handle The Breakup (and how to know if you should break up with him)

And much, much more!

In addition to wisdom about guys, JJ gives you valuable advice about life in general that will help you every single day of your life. How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice for Teens) gives you guy knowledge and life knowledge all in one place. This book is guaranteed to make you one smart cookie and put you ahead of the pack!

How To Be Popular With Boys (And Other Advice for Teens)

Jennifer Jackson

Published by Jennifer Jackson at Smashwords.

Text and JJ cartoon character copyright 2014 by Jennifer Jackson. All rights reserved.

The JJ cartoon character is the property of Jennifer Jackson and may not be used except by permission. Special thanks to Jovana Petrovic for her help with creating the JJ character.

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No girl ever figures out the guy thing (or life in general) without the help of her girlfriends. Here's a big thank you to all of mine:

Amy, Candace, Chris, Donna, Kim, Kris, Louise, Michele, Molly and Sandy

You are all brilliant and wonderful, and I learn from you every single day. Thank you for being my friends.

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Special thanks to Donna, HJM and Sandy for their contributions,

and for their invaluable help in editing and polishing this book. You rock, sistahs!

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Dedicated to RMM and HJM

I love you more than I can say.

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction

PART I – GUYS

Natural Born Killers

You Don't Have To Be Born With It

The Most Important Thing You Need to Know About Guys

Guys Are Just Built This Way

What Happens If You Ignore This Information

Gentlemen Only, Please

Here's How To Spot A Gentleman

Jerks Will Break Your Heart And Make You Crazy

How To Use Your New Knowledge

Let Him Pursue You

Why You Shouldn't Call Him

Mr. Dumbcluck and Petey

He Texted You—Now What?

Guys Fall In Love In The Spaces

How Lurlene and I Turned It All Around

How I Used Intrigue To Drive Him Crazy (In A Good Way)

Two Other Ways To Be A Teeny Bit Out Of His Reach

It's Not Game Playing, It's Reality

The Second Most Important Thing You Need to Know About Guys

This Is How A Guy Tells You How He Feels

Mr. Disappearing Act

Mr. Hot and Cold

How To Tell If A Guy Wants To Be With You

The Pretzel Brain Twist

How To Figure Out What's Really Going On With A Guy

Don't Be Desperate

A True Story About Ms. Desperate Pants

Nothing Turns A Guy Off More

Never Tell a Guy What To Do

Go Ahead . . . If You Don't Care About Keeping Him

Make Things Easy On Yourself

How to Handle It When Your Guy Has Displeased You

What If You Just Can't Let It Go?

Ditch the Drama

It Just Doesn't Work

Playful And Good Natured Is Always The Way To Go

Secrets of Attraction

The Two Levels of Attraction

Near Attraction (The Importance Of Getting Him Close)

Far Attraction (Or How To Get Him To Notice You)

Your Appearance

Hair

Make-Up

Nails

Clothes

You're Plus Size—So What?

Please Don't Go Skanky

Your Aura

Enjoying People

Your Sense of Humor

Be An Original

How To Know Who You Really Are

Learning To Be Internally Directed

Tempting But Sweet

Be Interested and Engaged

It's Important To Be Friendly To Absolutely Everyone

How To Flirt In Conversation

A Secret Way To Charm Him

Here's A Fun Trick To Get Close To Him

The Eyelash Trick

The Power of Mystery

The No. 1 Trait That Magnetizes Guys (And How To Get It)

How To Fake It 'Til You Make It

These Four Little Words Can Change Everything

How I Went From Gawky To Self-Assured The Summer I Was 14

The Cool Factor

You Won't See This Piece of Advice Coming!

The Importance Of Having Your Own Life

Girlfriends

Staying You

Two Apples Are Better Than One

The Breakup

What To Do When He Starts Acting Weird

How To Know If You Should Break Up With Him

If You're Doing The Breaking Up

If He Broke Up With You

Tips For Getting Over A Breakup

If You Want Him Back, Here's What You Need To Know

Emotions

Answers to Questions About Eight Common Dating Scenarios

PART II – LIFE

The Course Of Your Life

How To Be A Loser

Three Rules To Live By

Steer The Car

Live Your Life Carefully

When In Doubt, Don't

A Valuable Piece of Information

The Importance of Using Your Antenna

Drugs And Alcohol

Alcohol Versus Marijuana

Hard Drugs

Sex

Why You Should Wait

Giving Up Your V-Card

If You've Already Given Up Your V-Card

Please Read—This One's Important

Birth Control

STDs

Naked Pictures

Revenge Porn

Wrapping It Up

Introduction

Dear JJ,

I just can't seem to make it work with guys. Most of the time I can't figure out how to get a certain guy to notice me. And if a guy I'm interested does pay me some attention, I can't seem to get any sort of relationship started with him. Can you help me?

Sincerely,

Lost in Lansing

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Dear Lost,

Wouldn't it be great if you could just walk up to a guy you were interested in and hand him a note that says, I like you. Do you like me? Check yes or no. Then if he checked yes the two of you could join hands, skip off into the sunset together and live happily ever after. Unfortunately, once you get past about third grade that doesn't work anymore.

However, Lost—you came to the right place! I know what you're going through—the same thing happened to me during my teen years. I'm happy to say I learned from my experiences and now I'd like to save you frustration, tears and time by passing what I learned along to you. In fact, it has become my mission in life to inform and encourage girls like you who are struggling to figure it all out—not just with regard to guys, but with life as well.

In reply to your question above, it would be my pleasure to help you turn it around. The first thing you need to know is that when it comes to guys most girls today have it dead wrong. They don't have a clue what they're doing and it's hurting their success with guys—and sometimes their souls—in about a kajillion different ways.

You can learn to be the cool girl who gets the guy and keeps him. You can gain the confidence to be yourself and be an original. All it takes is the knowledge—which I will give you in this book—and a little practice. And I promise—the damage will do ya good.

There are doors to unlock and secrets to learn! So read on.

JJ

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Who am I to write an advice book for teens? Nobody, really—just someone who's been where you are and learned a few things along the way. I'm past my teen years now, and if I may, I'd like to share with you what I've learned. It is my goal to help make this time of life easier, fun and more exciting for you.

Looking back, I remember having such a hard time in my early teen years. I wanted guys to like me but I didn't really know how to attract the interest of the ones that caught my eye. On top of that, I really had no idea who I was. I read books and articles that said Be natural! and Be yourself! and of course To thine own self be true. (Makes you throw up in your mouth a little, doesn't it?) I remember thinking about every single one of those phrases, "But what does that mean?" It took me years to figure it out.

Those are the kinds of things this book is about. It's about learning to appeal to a guy (or several of them!) and captivate his attention. It's about figuring out who you are, polishing yourself up and learning to shine.

After my early teen years, things got a little better—but they got a whole lot better once I figured out the concepts you'll be reading about in this book.

Although these years of your life aren't always the easiest, they're a great time to set the stage for your life after high school. If you take a few minutes to look around your world, you'll see that there are guys and girls your age who have already started this process. These lucky ones usually have a lot of help and grooming from their parents. Well, what if you don't have that help? That's where I come in. I'm fairly certain that what I've learned along the way can help you—and it would be my privilege to do so.

But if I may, let's back up a moment. I'm not fond of the terms teen-ager or teen years. They make this period of your life sound unimportant and trivial, when the truth is these can be very important years for you both now and in terms of getting a head start on your life. But since we're going to be referring to this specific time of life throughout this book, I've decided to coin a new term all my own. I think of this time of life as the Finding Yourself Years, so going forward I'll refer to this time period collectively as FYY.

This book is divided into two parts. Part I is all about how to get the guy and how to handle the relationship once you have him. Let's face it, a lot of the fun of FYY is the guys! I'm here to help you understand why guys act the way they do, what attracts them to certain girls and how to use this knowledge to your advantage. Now here's the beauty of my knowledge in this area: for a long time my friend Lurlene and I frequented an internet forum which consisted of a community of gals who discussed guys. We shared how we met them, how we flirted with them, how we got their attention and how we kept it. But what helped most of all is that we compared notes and figured out what worked and what didn't.

We also identified patterns of behavior (believe it or not, guys are very predictable.) The most interesting thing we figured out is that guys are pretty much alike in what attracts them and holds their attention. We also figured out that age doesn't matter. In other words, what worked for us will also work for you during FYY. (The reason for this is built into a guy's biology. But I'll get to that later.) The good news is that in conveying my knowledge to you, I am actually giving you the distillation of the experiences of several hundred gals and how they got the guy. Unfortunately, that forum is no longer in existence, but I have never forgotten what I learned.

Part II of the book is life advice. I'll spell out for you those things that no one really takes the time to explain but which will help you every single day of your life. It's about getting it. It's about crafting your life rather than letting it just happen. It's about not doing stupid things you may regret (so easy to do!) and how to know what those things are. It's about life concepts that quite possibly no