Love Me? Love Me!

By Serena de Comarmond

I am Beautiful. I am Desirable. I love my life. I am worthy of a 10/10 man! Can you say this about yourself? Well you will after reading Love Me? Love Me! by Serena de Comarmond. A positive and motivating guide to finding love that captures all you need to know about learning to love yourself, finding your soul mate, and transforming yourself into the most desirable and datable person on the planet! This life-changing book will show you exciting new ways to attract confidence, happiness, and love into your life. Get to know the real, authentic you. Find the path to your purpose. And manifest Mr. Right into your life. He’s real and he does exist! Don’t wait. This irresistible book will become your personal matchmaker, here to help you become the person you always dreamed you could be and to attract the man you have always dreamt about. Consider it essential reading if you’re in the market for a true life partner. You’ll look at the opposite sex in a whole new light. Learn the secrets to dating, dating sites, and dating services from Australia’s cheekiest Matchmaker. Don’t delay. Get the new bible for the boss babe and unlock a life you will love!

• Language: English
• Publisher: Serena de Comarmond
• Release date: Oct 19, 2017
• ISBN: 9781370850686

Serena de Comarmond

Serena has been an entrepreneur since the age of 23 and over the last decade has owned and managed businesses in the automotive, finance, import/export, manufacturing, hair and beauty, and wellness industries. Specializing in start up companies and with a strong focus on implementing strong sales and marketing strategies within all these businesses, Serena positions in these companies have included, CEO as well as Marketing, PR and Sales Director. Serena is also a published author who writes books geared toward helping small businesses become successful through adoption various marketing strategies that Serena has created. Career highlights Started up a company in the “LPG Conversion” industry which she was able to secure $1 million investment from an angel investor. Within 1 year she grew this company from start up to being the largest LPG conversion centre company in Australia. She then sold her shares to a public listed company where it was floated onto the ASX. Serena was CEO of this company. Serena opened Secret Stylist Hair 6 years ago and within two years grew the business from start up to being one of the most well known and successful hair extensions business in Australia which is currently stocked by the 3 largest Australian industry distributors. Norris, Salon First and Beauty Warehouse. Secret Stylist posters can we seen in thousands of salon windows across Australia. Secret Stylist is also sold in the USA, UK and has a small market share across Europe. Serena has been commissioned to opening a subsidiary of her business Secret Stylist Hair over in Africa. She had to adapt her brand for the African market then open an office, hire and train over 40 staff in all facets of the company including sales, marketing and even the general management postion. The co-owners of this company also owned the sole rights to Kodak and Bridgestone in Africa. They invested $1.5 million into this project. Serena was CEO of this company. Purchased the rights to Trichogenesis hair regrowth products and within 1 year grew the products marketing penetration from 1 outlet to 46 outlets. Developed the product from being a simple vial with no marketing material, to a point where it is now able to be licensed off to salon owners in both Australia and overseas. Along with the marketing materials serena also developed a 50 page training manual and 1 day course to support the training of Trichogenesis licensees. A hair loss suffer herself, Serena see’s this business as her calling and her chance to give back to society and to help hair loss suffers get their confidence back, one bald head at a time!

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Table of Contents

PART 1

LOVE YOURSELF

Chapter 1

THE BIGGEST REASON YOU STILL HAVEN’T FOUND THE ONE

Chapter 2

MANIFEST YOUR SOUL MATE

Chapter 3

LOVE YOURSELF

Chapter 4

FORGIVE YOURSELF

Chapter 5

A STATE OF GRATITUDE

Chapter 6

FIND YOUR PURPOSE & BE IN SERVICE

PART 2

FIND THE ONE

Chapter 7

UNDERSTANDING THE RELATIONSHIP NEEDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

Chapter 8

SMASHING YOUR BOXES

Chapter 9

WHO HOLDS YOUR MISSING PUZZLE PIECE?

Chapter 10

SEARCHING FOR MR. COMPATIBILITY

Chapter 11

THE DATING DREAM BOARD

Chapter 12

LISTEN TO YOUR SOUL, WHEN IT’S SPEAKING TO YOU

PART 3

THE SECRET ART OF FALLING IN LOVE

Chapter 13

MR. RIGHT, MR. RIGHT, WHEREFORE ART THOU, MR. RIGHT?

Chapter 14

THE QUEEN OF FIRST IMPRESSIONS

Chapter 15

HELP HIM TO FALL TRULY, MADLY, DEEPLY IN LOVE WITH YOU

Chapter 16

EVERY EXIT IS AN ENTRANCE TO SOMEPLACE ELSE

Chapter 17

PRESERVING YOUR PRECIOUS TIME

Chapter 18

A GOAL WITHOUT A PLAN IS JUST A WISH

Chapter 19

ONE STEP CLOSER TO I LOVE YOU

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

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Copyright © 2017 Serena de Comarmond

The right of Serena de Comarmond to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted in accordance with the copyright – designs and patents act 1988

A catalogue record of this book is available from the Australian National Library

All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced – stored in a retrieval system – or transmitted, in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording and / or otherwise without the prior written permission of the publishers. The book may not be lent, resold, hired out or otherwise disposed of by the way of trade in any form binding or cover other than that in which it is published without the prior consent of the publishers.

Printed in the USA by Book Baby

ISBN: 978-1-370850-68-6

Limits of liability & disclaimer.

This document contains business strategies, marketing methods and other business advice that regardless of my own results and experience may not product the same results for you. I make absolutely no guarantee expressed or implied that by following the advice below you will make any money or improve current profits, as there are several factors and variables that come into play regarding any given business. As with any business endeavour you assume all risk related to investment and money based on your own discretion and at your own potential risk. It is your responsibility to conduct your own due diligence regarding the safe and successful operation of your business if you intend to apply any of my information in any way to your business operations.

To the ones who love me, thank you.

To the ones that I love, you’re welcome.

"Never knew I could feel like this.

It’s like I’ve never seen the sky before"

~ David Baerwald, Moulin Rouge

Part 1

LOVE YOURSELF

Chapter 1

THE BIGGEST REASON YOU STILL HAVEN’T FOUND THE ONE

"And all I ever needed was the one,

like freedom fields where wild horses run

When stars collide like you and I,

no shadows block the sun

You’re all I’ve ever needed, Baby you’re the one"

~ The One, Elton John

MATCHMAKER, MATCHMAKER

As a matchmaker, the number one question people ask me, literally every single day, is Why haven’t I found the one yet? Women and men across the world are walking around in disbelief. They cannot believe that they haven’t found the one. They’ve been on so many dates, and they think that they’re so funny, and they’re so charismatic, and they’re so cool, and they’re so cute. They just don’t understand why. They get multiple dates through dating sites. The dates transpire. And they wait…. They wait for the phone to ring for date number two, but it never does. They sit, completely disillusioned, wondering, ‘What did I do wrong? Was it me? Was that guy a player? Why on earth have I not found the one?’ And so, we live in this strange seesaw type of reality, where on the one hand, we talk to our girlfriends, saying, Oh my God, I was so cool, and so funny, and so adorable. He was clearly so into me and we were flirting. We kissed and it was amazing. So I have no idea why he hasn’t called because I’m great and I am such a catch. Right? It just doesn’t make any sense. On the other side of the seesaw, when we’re alone in bed at night, we have self-talk, which goes something like this, ‘I’m not lovable. I’m not attractive enough. I’m not cool enough. Right? I must have done something really weird and that’s why he doesn’t like me.’ And so forth and so on. We truly can’t fathom why we haven’t found the one. Another sleepless night, you reason.

Well, your sleepless nights are over. I have the answer. I have the secret you’ve all wanted to know. The reason that you haven’t found your person, the man of your dreams, is because you are not the woman of your dreams yet.

If you want to attract the most amazing man in the world into your life, the man of your dreams, Mr. Perfect, then I’m sorry, darling, but you’re going to have to do a little bit of work on yourself. If you want to attract somebody who’s equally as awesome as the picture you’ve painted of Mr. Right into your life, then you’ve got to be their mirror, you’ve got to be as awesome as the person you want to attract into your life because like attracts like. You’ll need to look at all the different types of people you’ve been attracting into your life, because I’m sorry, sweetheart—here’s the reality check for you—you’re attracting someone of equal caliber into your life. Let me say that again, so it really sinks in. You’re attracting into your life the same caliber of person as you are. So if you’re attracting into life a person who has a poor work ethic, and is a little bit scruffy, and is quite frequently not on time, and doesn’t always pay the bills, and sometimes has a bit of body odor, and isn’t very nice to his mom, and you keep attracting the same person over and over again, then maybe you need to look at yourself because the attributes that you’re demonstrating are only allowing you to attract somebody of that level.

If you want to attract a 10, you’ve got to be a 10. There are no 7s that ever got themselves a 10. If they did, it was through manipulation and lies and ended in tears. If you want to attract a 10, you’ve got to be a 10. If you’re running around being a five and you expect to attract anything more than a five, you’re crazy. And so, if you want to attract a 10, you need to be 10. And your number has to do with a lot more than just your looks. The reason that I called this book Love Me! Love Me? is because you’ve got to love yourself first before you can expect anybody else to love you. The first ‘love’ in Love Me! means ‘I love me.’ You need to love yourself. You need to answer that question with a resounding ‘yes.’ Once you get to that point, then you can go out and find yourself a 10 and ask him to love you, because the second Love Me? means ‘love me, please love me, I’m worth it.’ Until you’re a 10, you’ll never attract a 10.

And so, how do you become a 10? Well, lucky you, this is your guide. This is the way that you get to a 10. The first half of this book is dedicated to helping you learn how to love yourself, to help you to forgive yourself for any of the shame and embarrassment and poor judgment that you’ve ever had in your life. It’s going to teach you how to live in a state of gratitude and to see all the things that you have around you from state of gratitude and love and joy. I’m going to teach you how to share yourself with the world by giving back to society and raising your vibration—good vibration—by adding a little bit of light and happiness into this world. You’ll find out who the perfect person is for you. Often, in life, people base the image of the perfect person on the superficial, on how he’ll look. And even though we all have a type and need to be sexually and physically attracted to our partners, at the same time—apart from the way that someone looks—we also need to find out who we’re most compatible with on an emotional level. Are the two of you compatible on an intelligence level? Are the two of you compatible on a soul level?

We’ll need to explore who you are and with whom you’re most compatible. We’ll also work out what your love brand is. That is, how do you love a partner and how do you want to be loved by your partner? I’m going to teach you how to understand the needs of the opposite sex. And then we’re going to find out what types of people are going to offer you the absolute best match. We’re going to create a dating dream board and a dating plan. We’ll use that plan to bring the best possible partner into your life. We’re going to learn about where to meet a potential partner outside of online dating, how to present yourself on a date, and how to make your date fall absolutely, madly in love with you upon meeting him. And lastly, I’m going to set you a on task, a task to manifest the man of your dreams into your life, and finally find the joy of loving yourself. You’ll create a 10/10 love, a love expressed by somebody who deserves you.

So I invite you over the next few days as you read this book, to wallow in your loneliness and to remember what it was like to not feel 110% down about yourself all of the time, because soon the feeling of being unfulfilled, soon the feeling of living your life the wrong way, the feeling of being lonely, the feeling of not being on track with your life—all of those feelings are going to dissipate. Soon you will only remember what they used to feel like. They’ll be a vague memory slowly receding into the past because from the moment you start reading the next chapter, your life is going to change dramatically. You are going to feel more content and at peace with yourself than you’ve ever felt in your entire life. You’re going to be one step closer to attracting the man of your dreams into your life and creating a 10/10 love affair that the people around you will envy and admire. Are you ready for your new life? Well, here it comes, ladies. Here it comes.

Chapter 2

MANIFEST YOUR SOUL MATE

"Maybe it’s intuition

But some things you just don’t question

Like in your eyes, I see my future in an instant

I think I found my best friend

I know that it might sound

More than a little crazy, But I believe

I knew I loved you before I met you

I think I dreamed you into life

I knew I loved you before I met you

I have been waiting all my life"

~ I knew I loved you, Savage Garden

THE UNIVERSE IS INTERESTED IN YOU

You’ve heard of the law of attraction before, but what actually does it mean? What it means is basically whatever you think you are you, you are. So if you think that you’re dumb and you’re stupid, then you’re going to be dumb and stupid. If you think that you are fat and ugly, then the more that you think about it, the more you are going to manifest yourself into looking and feeling fat and ugly. If you think that you’re unlovable, the less you’re going to be able to attract love to yourself. And so, the obvious thing to do if you want to attract something good into your life is to start thinking and manifesting good things into your life. What does the law of attraction mean? It’s highly important that the way you look at yourself, the way that you look at others, and life in general is always in a positive manner. You’re never going to be able to attract an amazing guy if you keep talking about the fact that all you ever get are terrible guys or the only thing that you are ever going to be worthy of is somebody who’s useless and terrible.

And so, if you want to start using the law of attraction as a tool to help you to improve your life and to find love, then there are five key principles that you’re going to have to embrace. It’s always important to remember that the element that you need to be attracting and manifesting into your life isn’t physical—it isn’t this item or that item—it’s a feeling. Several feelings. Feelings of happiness, feelings of joy, feelings of fulfillment. You want to attract and manifest a feeling of purpose and intention in your life. Yes, of course, a fast, flashy car would be lovely, but it is more advisable to be manifesting a feeling of success and a feeling that you’ve achieved all of your goals, instead of vying for a turbocharged, leather-clad driving machine. If that car costs $100K then you would be better off manifesting the thought, ‘I want to be in a job that pays me a fantastic wage because I’m excellent at what I do. The more that I work, the better I perform on the job and the more people recognize the great work that I’m doing, then the more I’m compensated appropriately for doing that work.’ So what you want to try to do is manifest the thoughts and feelings that are going to help you to attain the physical stuff. Don’t pine away for the physical stuff. Work at manifesting the thoughts and feelings you’ll need to be successful. The universe is much more interested in your spirit and your soul than the vehicle it’s physically driving around in.

So here are the five key principles in manifesting the type of life and type of relationships that you desire:

STEP ONE: CLEARING LIMITING BELIEFS

A limiting belief is the belief that you have within yourself that prevents you from moving forward within your life. And so, what you can do is begin every day by asking the universe to help you to set you free from all of the limiting beliefs that are blocking you from achieving the goals you desire. Set some quiet time aside, you alone, just asking the universe to have your back, to help you to move forward from dwelling on all of the negative thoughts that you’ve been hindered by in the past. Breathe. Throughout the rest of the day, you need to stay open and look for signs from the universe that you can act on to help you to clear out any of those old, limiting beliefs.

I have always held dear to my heart the numbers 1111 or 1, 11. When you start asking the universe for assistance, you will start to see 1111 or 1,11 show up. All the time. If you’re not seeing those numbers, you’ll be seeing a certain pattern of numbers or a certain color or a certain symbol or sign, but you’ll be starting to see a pattern repeated frequently in your life. When you start seeing that pattern frequently, for example 1111, it is a message from the universe reminding you to manifest. And so, if 1111 is the thing that shows up for you, then every time you see it—on a clock, at the game, on the receipt—you need to stop whatever it is that you are doing and start to think of the feelings that you want to have in your life, and the accomplishments that you want to achieve. I like to pick a couple of feelings and a couple of goals that I have and I become slightly fixated on them over the course of a month. Every single time that I see 1111 or 1, 11, I’ll ask exactly the same thing over and over and over again. I try to stay on the same feelings and goals because the more that I repeat them—the more that I put them out into the universe—the more power I’m giving them and the stronger the likelihood of them manifesting and happening will be. Start looking for the challenges, start to recognize the challenges that the universe is throwing towards you. It’ll take some time and effort, but try to understand why they are there and why they’re in your life.

When you have limiting beliefs floating around in your head, sometimes it takes a large event to occur within your life for you to be able to recognize that you have an issue with a limiting belief, which is holding you back. This event will help you recognize that limiting belief and be able to clear it out. For example, you might have, of late, started lying to people, just little white lies here and there, lies that you don’t think hurt people. It’s become an incessant habit. You’ve recognized in the back of your mind that these little lies are starting to show through the cracks and it’s starting to come back and haunt you. Paranoia creeps in and you assume people will uncover your falsehoods. You lie because you don’t think that your life is good enough, and you can’t stop. Now, one lie that you have told about a good friend comes out and your friend is furious. The two of you have a huge fight, and the injured party decides she doesn’t want to be your friend anymore. She walks away and you feel completely heartbroken, lost and alone, and you wonder why this has happened. It’s painful for both of you.

It’s only when you sit back and realize that you brought this upon yourself with your predilection for lying that you can recognize that lying—over time—has become for you a limiting belief. It is a behavior that is affecting you, hurting you, causing you pain and anxiety. It’s a behavior that you have to get rid of. If you can get rid of it, then all of a sudden, you’re going