Love Moods: learn how to stay in love like, forever.

By Melissa Ortins

Love is a forever thing. I know this, because I have mastered it. Falling in love is different. We experience variations or states of love throughout our life. This book is a series of concepts that allow you to stay in love forever. Like, literally. Imagine feeling and being able to connect with love at any given times? This isn't a how to guide. This is simply put a way to set the mood, to master relationships and stay in love.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tablo Publishing
• Release date: May 26, 2020
• ISBN: 9781922439574

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Introduction: Love Lockdown 

Yep, I did just start with a Kanye track. I'm sorry, I had to set the mood and TBH I am going to keep quoting rap lyrics and other pop culture nonsense so you may as well just accept it now. But O-M-G Wow! I cannot believe I am here, finalizing this book. It took me almost 10 years to find the courage and answers to really get this right! And don't worry this isn't a memoir so exe's you're off the hook (except maybe 1 or 2 of you...keep reading to find out if you made the cut!). But this wouldn’t be a book about love without some love stories. So, what I will do is share my personal stories of love and why this book exists.

It has been said, you fall in love 3 times in your life. But I disagree, you can fall in love several times and with the same person over and over again. I think love is a state, and there are definitely different variations of it. If you choose to stay in love, you will need to do just that. Decide, choose, intend and agree. This takes some balls. For real. On the flip side of love, there is a fear of losing it. When we do not know how to control the fear, we get lost and lose love. 

Let me take y'all back man

As I do so well…

Wasn't nothin' like that

Man, it wasn't nothin' like that first time

 – J.Cole, Wet Dreamz

I was 15 years old. What can I say? It was literally a disaster. But a beautiful one at that. We were very different, but very much the same. I do believe that everyone is a projection - and for many reasons, my ‘high school sweetheart’ was someone I needed at the time. To everyone else, we didn't really make sense. There was a lot of turmoil, and if you took high school out of the equation - we may have stood a better chance. We allowed too many people into our romance. We had teachers, friends, enemies, our parents, the whole city was involved…and we were tested every damn day with absolute bulls*it. Brace yourselves, it was far from Romeo & Juliet. But it was a miracle…a miracle we lasted as long as we did!

Our connection was absolutely real and we had experienced a lot of ups and downs together. However, as you'll learn, one of the lessons in love is to grow through it. We didn't stand a chance here. We had to figure out who we were, on our own. I am grateful for these years, and as much pain as we both did suffer - it was absolutely necessary (for me anyway), to really understand how to survive in love. 

If I were to paint a picture for you in rap lyrics (as ya know this is the theme here); it would probably be part of J. Cole’s Wet Dreamz (noted below). This makes me laugh because I met him in class - and to this day, I have the first note he sent me. I'll never forget how bold he was to step to me the way he did (especially because I had a boyfriend at the time and he had a girlfriend); but needless to say, the power of determination took over and he won my heart. It was something very different for me, it was young love. 

Man, it wasn't nothin' like that first time

She was in my math class

Long hair, brown skin with the fat ass

Sat beside me, used to laugh at mad jokes

The teacher always got mad so we passed notes

It started off so innocent…

Innocent indeed. Surely, that puppy love - fell deep so quickly and seemed so fairytale, so soon. But it was doomed. And needless to say, it was the hardest love to let go of. After even years later, you wonder… was it supposed to be? No, no of course not… he’s not my soul mate. I told myself this over until I believed it. See my theory on meant to be then vs. now are two very different things. I used to think that there was a predetermined destiny for everything in my life. Back then, I was trying to make a circle fit into a square. Now, I recognize the square will fit into my circle if it's the right fit. Logically, and visually - this doesn't make sense, but energetically speaking, love conforms to you. 

After that ended, I decided to find myself and move to the big city to pursue my studies and passion for Makeup Artistry. This had been apart of my big picture vision, so when I felt content enough in my dreams and how they were panning out, love came knocking again. Don’t worry this isn’t a book to air out all my exes…y’all lucky though! But these stories are important. 

Grab the popcorn, this one’s the game-changer. 

Once upon a time, a 23-year-old woman found herself just about engaged to a handsome, supportive, funny, caring...actually a pretty amazing guy! The romance developed naturally, and intensely. And these 2 young lovebirds found themselves engaged, living together and confused (more to come on that…).

After completing studies in her makeup artist gig, she still felt compelled and drawn to learning more about human connection, so she went back to university. She was working through her studies majoring in Sociology and found herself driven and excited to learn all about relationships. Romantic wasn't the intention - until she discovered how drawn she was to and wanted to actually strive to help others in this realm. Through her social-psych classes and the rise of internet love guru's, she felt a purpose in sharing resources and offering support to those unlucky in love. She felt hey, I have it all, I'm the perfect one to preach this stuff! It became fun to learn and test practices (aka tactics) to attract and connect with love. I say tactics because