Warrior Girls Do It Standing Up: Your Racy Guide to Create Total Awareness, Empowerment & Prosperity in All Areas of Your Life

By J. K. Despot

You were guided to pick up this book for a reason. Nothing in your life is a coincidence. This edgy guide to creating complete awareness, enlightenment, empowerment, prosperity and growth in all areas of your life, from love and finance to your mental well being, is the last tool you will ever need to finally move forward toward living your very best life – in your truth as your authentic, powerful self – making things happen for you, instead of having things always happening to you. The author will take you on a personal journey from total ruin to total transformation, educating and entertaining you as you learn how to create new insights, perspectives and healthy habits that will change how you create your future. This book was designed to be used as a lifelong resource for anyone who has ever struggled with self worth, fears, doubts, anxiety or worry about the future, or not knowing how to move forward from past hurts and disappointments, or how to break toxic cycles, negative thinking or patterns of behavior that you may not even be aware of, that stagnate you from moving toward the success in life you deserve, no matter any past mistakes or choices you may regret. It will awaken something inside that allows the reader to see themselves, their connections and the world that surrounds them in a very different and healing light, in a way that breaks down your past to build a better understanding of why you are not yet living your desired life and provide clarity as to how to transform your mindset once and for all in order to learn how to align the actions you take in your life from now on, toward your highest good, while learning how to create stability, balance and peace within your mind – even for those who have struggled with a chaotic mind or letting go of obsessive thinking or control their entire life. The author writes with a racy, "no holds barred" style, providing you with entertaining shock value as valuable, in-depth, life lessons are given. Surely to leave you wanting more, it's guaranteed to be the next book you just cannot put down. And possibly the book that can change your life, light a fire inside you and catapult you into living as the very best, most successful version of yourself, in true happiness, fulfillment, love, financial abundance and inner-peace.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Tellwell Talent
• Release date: Aug 27, 2020
• ISBN: 9780228827122

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Warrior Girls Do It Standing Up

Copyright © 2020 by J. K. Despot

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dedication

To my daughter, Summer, who, despite being a tiny little soul with stars in your eyes and no awareness yet as to how heavy life can be as we grow up, have played the most powerful role in your mom’s growth. Your future is my inspiration. My vision of you being happy, secure, fulfilled, empowered, and driven to successfully find your truth and learn every lesson you need to create an abundant, balanced life is what kept me going through to the end of this book. You are my everything and even though you may be too young to realize it now, your unconditional love saved your mom’s life.

To my mom, Linda. You have always supported me in my dreams and endeavors, even when you may have thought I was out of my mind. I know you hold grief in your heart about my childhood, and I want for you to know I am exactly who, where, and what I am supposed to be. And despite it being difficult, I wouldn’t change anything about my past. I am enriched with valuable life lessons from all of it. You have always believed in me and my writing, I have never doubted that. I honor you, Mom, and love you without conditions, and you are much stronger than you think you are.

To the energy that brought me to my lowest point, I want you to know you changed my life forever. And while it could be perceived as having been changed in the worst way back then, it wasn’t. You were brought into my life with purpose. You were guided to follow that path whether you know this or not. You awakened me and set me on my path to healing and empowerment. You taught me the true meaning of unconditional love and forgiveness for the first time in my life, and my heart and soul are eternally grateful. I would not be where I am today and this book would not have happened if it weren’t for this, and if it weren’t for you.

"I will bring you happiness, a calm mind, that rare kind of unconditional love and yes,

even wealth. But first wisdom, strength, patience and trust. So you know how to hold onto my gifts, as a Warrior would."

-Universe

CONTENTS

Preface

Introduction

Ace of Pentacles

– Opportunity for Prosperity; Seeing and Accepting a New Beginning

The Devil

– Recognizing Emotional Triggers, Energies, Cycles and Behaviors that Block You, and How to Manage Them

The Tower

– The Hand That Forces Change

Death

– Transformation. Birthing a New Perspective and Thought Process for All Areas of Your Life

Temperance & the Hermit

– Finding Your Mind-Body Balance and Creating Your New Path

Six of Swords & Ten of Wands

– The Transition. Putting Down Burden and Learning to Let Go and Leave it All Behind

The Magician & the High Priestess

– Mastering Your Intuition and Trust. The Power of Manifestation and Making Things Happen for You, instead of to You

Two of Cups

– Creating Unity, Passion, and the Highest Energetic Vibrations

The Sun & the Star

– Wish Fulfillment. Seeing It All and Having It All

The World

– Awakened, Aware and Empowered. Creating a New World. You are a Warrior

Preface

This book has been a dream in the making for over twenty years. But it was only meant to be written recently, when the time was right. I like to think of it as my divine time. I have spent my whole life living in toxic cycles and patterns without having any awareness of them. I have lived a life thinking I was doing the best I could and that bad things just happen a lot. My mindset was stuck in that way of thinking, hindering me from reaching goals and finding what it was that I was meant to be doing. I was blocked from inner happiness and fulfillment completely out of self-sabotage. I just couldn’t seem to move forward in my life, always experiencing the same chaos, destruction, repetitive cycles, and heavy energies in every part of it. My unbalanced and ungrounded mindset and my overactive ego—which would take over anytime it wanted to—put me deep into fear, worry, obsessive thinking, self-doubt, guilt, and anxiety. Making bad decision after bad decision always led me to more sorrow or grief. I recently experienced so much trauma from emotional pain that it took me to a place where I no longer had any control of my mindset. At first, I didn’t think I’d ever be able to feel joy in my life again and I felt like I had been psychologically destroyed. I was completely stuck in darkness. Then slowly, day by day, something inside me brought me back to life. And the lessons I was presented with to create total awareness, empowerment, balance, and prosperity in all the areas of my life that were horribly lacking have taken me to a new level of success, balance, and abundance.

I said this book has been in the making for over twenty years, and I know it was meant to be written for you. I just had to keep living in the harsh experiences and learn the lessons first to be able to have it all come together the right way, in a way you can understand, to see the importance of becoming more mindful of where we need to make changes in our ways of thinking and living; ways that help you to reach this limitless level of awareness and empowerment in your life. This book was written to help you create the change you desire to move you forward so you can live the life you’ve always dreamed of, but always seem to be blocked from. I have gone through hell and back to get to the gold. And the purpose of it all was to share it with you, to guide you through the steps of a personal transformation that takes all the very best parts of you, through growth and mind-body balance, and leads you to who, what, and where you are meant to be in life. You will learn how to truly let go of everything that no longer serves you or has become a barrier to finding happiness and peace. This will help you finally reach your truth and learn the steps you can take to live in that truth, while being unaffected by life’s circumstances that are out of your control, accepting them fully as they are. This includes some of the connections in your life that may be unhealthy.

It took me six months to complete this project through a world of tears, a serious lack of sleep and, believe it or not, separated glute muscles from sitting in my bed with the laptop on my lap for so many hours at a time. Yes, I wrote this entire book in bed. It’s been a painful ride. One could even say a pain in the ass (pun intended). I have yet to treat myself to a desk with a proper chair, but now that I know writing is one of my purposes, my truths, I just may order them from Amazon. I need to protect my ass—literally!

Writing this book and sharing my life experiences through an incredible ongoing journey that has finally lifted me to success in all areas of my life has been exhausting and exhilarating. It has changed the way I perceive myself and the world that surrounds me. I know it will do this for you and your life too. I also know you deserve this. It’s your time. It will move you to create a new perception of who you are today, and how you got there. It will show you how to take the steps of action toward creating a mindset where it becomes easy to live with the flow of life, while you begin to make things happen for you, instead of feeling like things are always happening to you. You will develop a stronger sense of purpose, balance, peace, passion, and happiness than you have ever experienced before—in love and romance, in your mindset, your self-perception, your career and finances, and your family and friend relationships, no matter where you are in your life today. You will finally learn how to disregard old belief systems, toxic attachments, and ways of life that do not serve your individual happiness. And you will learn how to stay at this abundant level of success, and even keep rising above it, for the rest of your life. There is no goal or desire you cannot reach once you learn how to get on the right path and follow it all the way.

Introduction

I wrote this book with purpose to take you on a journey of personal transformation, right along-side me. Many of us know that the way we have been living, the way we have been stuck in the wrong mindset, does not serve our highest good or put us in a position to be successful in all areas of our lives. Yet we continue to struggle mentally and emotionally, and we remain stagnant. We just can’t seem to see a brighter side to our future. We want it, and may even be able to envision it, but time after time we give up on it when faced with difficulty. We allow the challenges that are out of our control to become blockages to our vision of what could make us happy and prosperous in life. We find ourselves in these kinds of cycles over and over again, and it gets emotionally harder over time because we are continuing to move forward in age, yet feel no movement in success. We find ourselves in fear or worry about our futures, which creates doubt and hopelessness about our abilities. We become unbalanced and stuck in anxiety and obsessive thinking, never being able to shut off our minds or create stability. We find ourselves in toxic connections, allowing others’ energy to affect ours in all the wrong ways. If you are anything like me—and my guess is you are if you’ve been drawn to pick up this book—then you really have not been able to find a way to feel better and move forward, and you just gave up on your dreams of being happy and having unconditional love and prosperity.

I was forced through pain to take the very first step to create a whole new world for myself. And you, my friend, were guided to learn from the enlightening and empowering process I have gone through to create your new world, a world where you learn to quiet your mind and find balance, inner peace, and harmony. You will learn to do this with the intention of breaking old thought patterns and destructive behaviors, and you will refocus that energy toward steps of action that can guide you all the way to total awareness, mindfulness, and clarity. You will then take steps of action that will align you to the path you are supposed to be on. Every intention you set to create the balance and fulfillment you desire in all areas of your life will be met through the process you build, step by step.

I will take you deeper into an understanding of why things have been the way they have in your life up to this point, in both your internal and external worlds. Your mind will become open to finally learning the lessons you may have not seen as available before, hidden as they were behind your perceptions, past actions, and choices in life. You will learn how to let go of toxicity in your world, in your mindset, and in your heart. You will learn how to surrender to expectations and accept the things you cannot control, such as outcomes, so you can become laser-focused on the process of reaching your goals and turning your dreams into reality. You will finally begin to heal everything you have held on to that have turned into blocks to happiness. You will gain a new sense of freedom and endless optimism as you learn ways to manage your ego and your mindset. I will take you through a process where you gain a new perspective of your self-worth and your capabilities moving forward through challenges in life and through relationships.

My goal is to awaken you, empower you, and get you to your gold. My goal is to bring the warrior you have in your heart to the surface and kick a little ass in life. My goal is to put you on your path to abundance, peace, and passion. And just as you will reach your goal of empowerment and forward movement, so will I, by knowing you are on your way to your ultimate life, just as I am in mine. And everything I had to go through to build these lessons for you is my path, my purpose, and honestly my pleasure.

chapter one

Ace of Pentacles

Opportunity for Prosperity;

Seeing and Accepting a New Beginning

If I were to ask you about your strongest memory of a life experience that hurt you deeply, or even completely destroyed you, what comes to mind first? Now what would your answer be if I asked you what you are feeling in this moment, now that you are forced to bring this memory up? Let’s start with that, and change the entire way you feel about it, now and for the rest of your life. And while we’re doing that, let’s heal some shit that’s long overdue being dealt with, and move forward and gain clarity in every other area of your life at the same time.

You will be happy. But first, I need to make you strong.

– Life.

Throughout our lives, we encounter all kinds of experiences, including many unexpected events, or shakeups, that are not of a positive nature. Each one more often than not convinces us in the moment that this is by far the most difficult thing we have ever endured, and we’re left feeling like we’ll never survive it. But as time passes, we find ourselves detaching from what it was that hurt us and temporarily broke our spirit, or even brought us to our knees and took us out of the game of life for a bit. Simply put, this is the beauty of time, but it’s an illusion. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase time heals all wounds . . . but does it really? Or does time simply add enough distraction to convince us we have healed? It’s easy to vocalize: I am over it. I am moving on from this bullshit feeling now. But our inner knowing knows better. Yet onward we continue through time, living our lives to the best of our abilities, until the next big unexpected shakeup comes along to rattle our world and bring us to our knees by reintroducing all the same negative bullshit energies to us all over again.

There is so much we don’t know about what it really means to heal and evolve a state of mind where these negative energies can no longer place a hold on us, so we remain neutral and unaffected. It’s entirely possible to achieve a higher level of balance once you get your hands on the right information. And not just learn from it, but act on it and apply it in a successfully consistent manner. If you choose to, you can do the work to reach a sense of freedom and peace from the inside out, bringing on an incredible power and abundance like you’ve never imagined, where suddenly things really begin to happen for you instead of to you. And it’s because of you. You can become unshakable in the face of any unexpected event, no longer fearing being brought down to your knees but continuing to evolve and grow through it all, standing even stronger because you got through it. And just so you know, my words are not just my writing, they are my experience.

By age forty-two, I was living the best life I could—or so I thought—with what I had to work with. This was my mindset. I knew I was not feeling as fulfilled and stable as I aspired to be, but I still never gave up trying to make things better, or at least figure out what better was. I knew I would always face struggles and challenges; I had done so my entire life, right from childhood. I was a full-time mom, newly single, and knew my young daughter deserved to have a mother she could always rely on and look up to for guidance. So how could I not always strive to be better? I know everybody in this world has their own personal struggles, and that everyone has a story. My entire life, I had lived with the mindset that we do the best we can to get through each day with what we have, while we continue learning how to reach for more. But I also believed some people were just lucky in life while some of us simply were not. It is what it is, was a phrase I found myself saying often, while hiding deep feelings of personal lack and jealousy of the lucky ones.

The pain and grief from an unexpected event in my life recently, one that was completely out of my control, took me to what I felt was a point of no return, a feeling I had never experienced before. My entire world was rocked to the core, crumbling me to a pile of dust. This event and the events that happened as a result of it psychologically destroyed me. Something brought on by the actions of another made me completely devalue myself, my life, and what I meant to anyone who loved me. I felt like I was nothing. Here I was, a mother, a daughter, a sister, an aunty, a cousin, a niece, and a friend, who felt beyond worthless to all. I felt like there would be no end to the darkness I was in, because the pain and exhaustion just seemed to grow with each passing day with no end in sight. It was as if someone had cut the wings I had spent my whole life trying to grow. This was a darkness I had never even come close to feeling before and I couldn’t bear it. I was drowning in the pain of hatred and had completely lost control of my thoughts. Some say that when your soul experiences deep trauma, it will leave the body as a response, like a defense mechanism, leaving you feeling like you are nothing but a physical body without the ability to feel anything but emptiness. It has also been said that complete ruin is a gift. A gift that leads to complete transformation.

I have always been viewed as a fighter, as someone who never surrendered, always standing back up after getting knocked down by life’s circumstances. I repeatedly ended up in the same cycles and the same toxic patterns that ended in personal disaster, but I always survived and moved on. Yet I could never understand why this was the way my life had always been. I just flowed with it as best I could. I was so accustomed to facing challenges and blocks to happiness that my mindset was programmed to expect the negative outcomes, which were always attached to the same victim-like response: Why me? What did I do to deserve this? But not once did I find myself learning anything or growing from these situations. Sadly, I didn’t even have the motivation to dig further to learn why I hadn’t been able to break these patterns, let alone be aware that these were patterns, and that I was the one creating them for myself. I just lived my life the only way I knew how, facing challenge after challenge, getting knocked down, going through the motions and the depression attached to it all. Then, in time, I would get back up only to go through another painful, self-destructive cycle while remaining completely unaware that it was self-inflicted. I became accustomed to not feeling any sort of abundance, and convinced myself the good life was for some but not for all. Yet I continued to always try to find a way to that good life. I know now that I had the wrong information about what it was.

This one time, however, I struggled to get back up, even just a little. I was so deep in agonizing pain that I quickly felt I was coming undone. Every day that passed I felt less and less mentally balanced. It was like something dark and toxic had its arms wrapped tightly around me, and I felt okay with that. I let it hold me, because at the time that pain was the only thing that felt good. I didn’t want to let any light inside me. The pain, the hatred, and the shame for allowing myself to be hurt in this way consumed me completely.

I could not see any way out. I didn’t know how to cope. Most days I felt like I couldn’t even breathe, let alone eat or sleep. I had never experienced a breakdown of this degree. It just began to feel right, to feel hopeless and lost. I could no longer feel any form of joy from any sort of exterior factors in my life, and I was a mother. Here was this beautiful, innocent little being counting on me to care for her, protect her, guide her, and love her, yet I was ready to give up. She had nothing to do with the pain that was caused upon me but was enduring the consequences of it. I honestly