You're Not Listening: What You're Missing and Why It Matters

Written by Kate Murphy

Narrated by Kate Murphy

"Narrating her own work, Murphy is certainly worthy of the listener's attention. She offers a sincere, passionate voice that is capable of delivering some hard truths about the current state of things while also showing the way toward a truly connected society." — AudioFile Magazine

**This program is read by the author**

When was the last time you listened to someone, or someone really listened to you?

At work, we’re taught to lead the conversation.
On social media, we shape our personal narratives.
At parties, we talk over one another. So do our politicians.
We’re not listening.
And no one is listening to us.

Despite living in a world where technology allows constant digital communication and opportunities to connect, it seems no one is really listening or even knows how. And it’s making us lonelier, more isolated, and less tolerant than ever before. A listener by trade, New York Times contributor Kate Murphy wanted to know how we got here.

In this always illuminating and often humorous deep dive, Murphy explains why we’re not listening, what it’s doing to us, and how we can reverse the trend. She makes accessible the psychology, neuroscience, and sociology of listening while also introducing us to some of the best listeners out there (including a CIA agent, focus group moderator, bartender, radio producer, and top furniture salesman). Equal parts cultural observation, scientific exploration, and rousing call to action that's full of practical advice, You're Not Listening is to listening what Susan Cain's Quiet was to introversion. It’s time to stop talking and start listening.

"An essential book for our times." - Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone

• Language: English
• Publisher: Macmillan Audio
• Release date: Jan 7, 2020
• ISBN: 9781250263728

Kate Murphy

Kate Murphy is a Houston, Texas–based journalist who has written for The New York Times, The Economist, Agence France-Presse, and Texas Monthly.

Reviews for You're Not Listening

[James Michael Riley · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

This book came right on time. The information practically applied literally is saving my marriage. My goal in life is to become a more adept and gentle soul by listening to others intently and taking more of an interest in them in conversation.

[Batel lavi · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Awesome book. I really think you should listen to it ;)

[Bui Hoang Son Duong · Rating: 4 out of 5 stars]

I wish I had read this book sooner in my life. I'm listening more than ever right now.
Thank you.

[Kristin Stephens-Martinez · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Good audio book, I definitely think it'll be worth reading again in written format.

[judy echols · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

I almost didn't finish this, but I am so glad that I kept listening. Now I am listening a second time with my husband. It just kept getting more interesting.

[Gericho · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

A marvelous work. Everyone must read/hear it. Not only does the book showcase various ways and forms of listening, it also provides scientific and personal insights on why we are losing the ability to truly listen. The author's in depth detail and experience makes the book both engaging and informative. This is a book I'll surely read again.

[Noeleen Lang · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Excellent I bought the book along with listening to this audio when I couldn't hold and read the book eg. Driving this book choice was inspired by by son who said "mam your not listening" I was surprised to learn how true the saying is "Don't judge a book by it's cover" I definitely came away with a lot more understanding and knowledge.

[Rachel Lowman · Rating: 5 out of 5 stars]

Convicted me of my assumptions and loud mind that stop me from listening. Definitely among one of my favorite reads ever! I plan to listen again soon.