You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up: Breaking the Endless Cycle of Dating Mistakes
Written by Lane Moore
Narrated by Lane Moore
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About this audiobook
Dating in a modern world can be, shall we say, challenging. Between deciphering mixed messages about what is — or isn’t — a red flag, or finding potential romantic prospects that turn out to be all-around disappointing, it’s easy to get dating and relationship fatigue. Throw in the relentless cultural pressure to find the right person before it’s “too late,” and it becomes a high-stakes nightmare. No wonder so many of us feel like we’re messing it up and can’t seem to trust our own instincts.
Bestselling author and comedian Lane Moore, whose hugely popular Tinder Live with Lane Moore shows have earned widespread acclaim, is no stranger to what she calls the “endless cycle of mistakes” that we find ourselves making in the quest for love. In You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up: Breaking the Endless Cycle of Dating Mistakes, Moore explores the trials and tribulations of real people who have been through the struggle of navigating the dating pool yet still surfaced to the top. Drawing from a diverse range of perspectives and experiences, their firsthand stories paint a comprehensive picture of the pitfalls that come with modern dating. She also shares moments from her own personal battles with this cycle, while reassuring the reader how each of these mistakes made over… and over… ultimately can lead us back to trusting what works for our own selves. Moore breaks down everything from missed warning signs to mistaking “potential” for love, while using her signature empathy and humor to offer actionable insight on how to grow through the all-too-frequent errors we tend to (unintentionally) make.
Going beyond dating advice, You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up is a testament to the universality of the human inclination to screw up, and a call to prioritize the love and trust we have in ourselves despite living in a societal culture that aims to tell us there’s only one right way to establish romantic relationships. Whether you’re currently seeking — or in — a relationship, if you’re an expert on the digital dating landscape, or even if you’ve been out of the dating scene for years, there’s plenty to relate to — and learn from — in this Everand Original audiobook and ebook from Lane Moore.
Editor's Note
Reading this is a green flag…
If you’ve all but given up on finding your soul mate, fret not — comedian and award-winning writer Moore (of the hugely popular “Tinder Live” touring show) provides hilarious and helpful insights about how to make dating and finding “the one” a less arduous process. Trust your gut, stop mindlessly swiping right, and start reading this instead.
Lane Moore
Lane Moore is an award-winning comedian, writer, actor, and musician. The New York Times called her comedy show Tinder Live “ingenious.” Her comedy and her band, It Was Romance, have been praised everywhere from Pitchfork to Vogue, and her writing has appeared everywhere from The New Yorker to The Onion. She is the former sex and relationships editor at Cosmopolitan, where she received a GLAAD Award for her groundbreaking work expanding the magazine’s queer coverage. She lives in Brooklyn with her dog-child, Lights. You can follow Lane at @HelloLaneMoore on Instagram and Twitter or visit LaneMoore.org.
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Reviews for You’re Not the Only One F*cking Up
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5As someone who's trying to actively date and figure out what's going on this book was refreshing. The anecdotes told in this book are so relatable that it makes you feel like you're not alone in dealing with the chaos of finding someone that's good for you. I had some good takeaways that have already helped me find and deal with more healthy people and to be better in dating.
- Rating: 4 out of 5 stars4/5This book was informative, interesting, encouraging and a reminder that I'm not the only one going through the trials and tribulations of dating. I've been reminded that I need to work on the love I give not only to myself but those around me. I'm also reminded that ky needs and wants are important too. I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy this fine "listen" to as well.
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Hilarious!! Read/listen to this!! The ideas, scenarios & info is just the best!
- Rating: 3 out of 5 stars3/5So short. Will check out her other works. Thank you!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Super funny and well read! A hilarious insight into the dating world!
- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5Just when I was wondering if Lane Moore would release more of her writing, here comes a sassy, kind, and practical bit of self-care. Personally, I don’t really enjoying dating until I find someone who is a decent match. The process of dreading a nightmare stranger showing up is REAL. Lane drops all the wise empathy you could ask for going into such sketchy pursuits. Hope she puts out more!
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- Rating: 5 out of 5 stars5/5I loved the audiobook and the author is awesome and like a best friend! Such relatable dating content! Her humor and way of writing is absolute perfection!
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