Why is it difficult to find one’s self? Many of us often struggle with this, feeling unsure about who we truly are or feeling a bit lost in the process. Our lives keep changing – so how do we really find our true selves? 

Valeria sits down with existential psychotherapist, Sara Kuburic. They talk about Sara's upcoming book, "It's On Me," and delve into what existential therapy is all about. They also discuss how we can let go of our old selves, how we end up losing our identity, and how we can find ourselves even when life gets messy and complicated. Join us for this insightful conversation that'll not only get you thinking but also provide valuable insights into navigating the complexities of life and self-discovery.

It’s On Me by Sara Kuburic: https://www.amazon.com/Its-Me-Accept-Truths-Discover/dp/B0BZZV3G1L 

You can find Sara on: 
https://www.instagram.com/millennial.therapist/?hl=en
https://twitter.com/SaraKuburic
https://www.facebook.com/sarakuburic/
https://www.tiktok.com/@sarakuburic

Valeria is on:
https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ 
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA 
https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky 
Not Alone Podcast

What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

00:05 What is existential therapy?

01:53 The concept of the self

05:30 What causes self-loss?

08:06 How self-loss manifests itself?

11:32 Signs that you probably don’t know who you are

13:09 Letting go of the older version of you

17:08 Don’t let habits become cages

19:33 What is authenticity?

21:51 “Our ultimate essence is always ahead of us…”

25:19 What are the things that won’t change?

27:20 Finding meaning in life

30:44 How to recognize meaning

32:08 What other things cause self-loss?

35:42 Transition from self-awareness to self-attunement

37:18 Finding beauty in sadness

42:53 The prerequisites to having a sense of self

46:33 “We cannot expect attention without attendance…”

49:16 Setting boundaries

54:01 Connection between the body and knowing ourselves

58:34 Building a relationship with your body

1:00:36 Life is messy and complicated

1:02:30 The armchair exercise