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Today, Valeria welcomes Allison Holker to Not Alone. Since the passing of her husband Stephen (better known to the world as tWitch), Allison has been on the road to healing, self-discovery, and self-love. Together, Allison and Valeria talk about the power of faith and the comfort it provides, parenting your children through grief, how to have a successful and loving relationship with your teens, and the problem with toxic positivity. Allison Holker is a dancer and choreographer who got her start on Season 2 of So You Think You Can Dance. From there she joined SYTYCD as an All-Star in later seasons, danced as a pro on Dancing With The Stars, hosted Disney’s Fairytale Weddings, and is now a judge on So You Think You Can Dance for Season 18. She is the mother of 3 beautiful children and is an author now as well. 
Check out Allison’s new children’s book “Keep Dancing Through: A Boss Family Groove” https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/727521/keep-dancing-through-by-allison-holker-boss-stephen-twitch-boss/ 
Allison is on:
https://www.instagram.com/allisonholker 
https://www.tiktok.com/@allisonholkerboss 
https://www.facebook.com/holkerallison/ 
Valeria is on:
https://www.instagram.com/valerialipovetsky/ 
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCWkDFq1pO7YNzifE3A4UsMA 
https://www.tiktok.com/@valeria.lipovetsky 
Not Alone Podcast
What We Talked About:

00:00 Intro

01:39 We found bringing people in so enjoyable

03:00 Letting go of trying to control everything

04:24 There are a lot of hard days

08:46 God doesn’t give you things you can’t handle

09:56 What were you fearful of?

11:15 Forgiveness 

12:58 How do you talk to your kids?

15:23 Growing up together with your child

17:00 Let your kids speak and thrive 

21:43 Loving myself for the first time

24:22 Can you still love yourself on a sh*tty day?

28:31 Faith and religion

33:07 How much to give and keep for yourself

37:09 Toxic positivity

41:00 Share your emotions in a safe place

44:00 Learning how to use your voice

45:53 I no longer care what people think

47:15 Choosing not to show my vulnerability

53:55 How to teach children about the world outside social media

55:58 Expressing opinions and virality

57:53 So You Think You Can Dance

59:34 Being a judge at SYTYCD

01:01:21 Are you ready to move forward?


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