Dating coach and matchmaker, Carmelia Ray joins Jess and Brandon to discuss:

What holds most people back from finding a great match
How dating has changed since we’ve been instructed to shelter in place
Virtual speed dating
How to ease into digital dating whether you’re a new couple or living long-distance
How to manage the awkwardness of digital dates

As mentioned on the podcast, check out Carmelia's online dating programs on FirstDate.co. Follow Carmelia on Instagram, Facebook & Twitter.



 

 

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Top Tips for Digital Dating

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You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight Welcome to the sex doctor just podcast. I'm your co host Brandon. Where here with my lovely other? Half Dr Jess how you doing. I'm awesome and even better today. Although she's not in studio. We have celebrity matchmaker car. Melia Ray Cornelia is a matchmaker matchmaker to me. The language. Almost sounds like an anachronism in the digital age. But I know that I've sent clients to you and they've been really thrilled with the results so please tell us what you do with your clients. What is your process? Because I don't think many of us really know what a matchmaker does. Well I if you break down the word I make matches so I in Layman's terms I would make would facilitate introductions between two single people and I mainly work with single professionals. Those at are at a point in their life where they know. They want to take it to the next step. They're single. They're ready and they'd like to find a life partner and how I do that is through an interview process. Getting clear on what they're looking for and then obviously doing what I need to do to introduce them to someone who may already be in my database or like any other matchmaker Through my knees of creativity and networking I will Find that person for them. So they're not having to rely on Swiping for a match there literally depending on me as a matchmaker to make an introduction. It's so interesting because people complain about how awful it is to date online and how tiring it is and what a waste of time it has been disappointed has been and I would think that working with the matchmaker is the antithesis of dating online. Yes and you know I would say that to some degree however there is a not. I want to say compatibility but in terms of the introduction process. We certainly helped to fine tune that and do the work upfront to find a match but yet when people meet in sometimes eats all the things on their list. They don't line up when they meet in person. So you can have everybody on that list but for some reason there. That piece of the puzzle just isn't fitting properly so I don't want to give up your listeners. The false impression that hire a matchmaker is the answer and you will absolutely find someone because we are obviously still dealing with with human beings. He frustration along the way right if somebody when somebody doesn't need someone in their expectations are high. And they're not met that in itself can be very disheartening so there. Are you know bumps in the road even working with a matchmaker? It's it's how you your attitude towards it as well as your expectations and including my...