A fatitude is a belief or attitude that keeps you fat and unhealthy. In today's other-blaming victimhood culture, many people point their fingers at others for their personal and professional problems, including their health.



They cling to beliefs that harm, not help. I call these beliefs "fatitutdes."



Even if you have the best fitness program in the palm of your hand, and know what diet is best, clinging to these fatitutdes will keep you stuck in a perpetual state of poor health and fitness.



The following are six of the most common fatitudes steering people into the ditch on the path from fat to fit.





Fatitude 1: Nobody supports me



What does it even mean when someone says, "Nobody supports me?"



Your health is your responsibility.



Everyone has their own individual responsibilities and priorities, especially when it comes to something as personal as health and fitness. It isn't fair to them that you'd make them responsible for you.



If you believe your current state of fitness is the fault or responsibility of others, you're playing the victim. You'll never thrive in fitness, your career, relationships, or anything else by playing the victim.



Those who succeed with their health and fitness don’t wait for someone else to haul them out of bed, cook their meals, give them their supplements, schedule their doctor appointments, drive them to the gym, or make sure they go to sleep on time.



If you have people in your life, who cheer you on and check in on you, awesome! Be grateful.



But don't depend on them to do what you need to do. They could be gone tomorrow, and that shouldn't affect your ability to care for yourself.



Once you take 100% responsibility for your health and fitness, you take action. You do whatever it takes to improve your health all by yourself.



What if a friend doubts your ability to do what you need to do?



What if a family member rolls their eyes at your new attempt to get fit? Maybe...just maybe it's because they've heard this from you before. How many times have you started over on a diet? How many times have you joined a gym?



Sometimes, it isn’t that the other person doesn’t want you to succeed. It’s just that they’ve had their hopes up for you so many times before, that they don’t want to get their hopes up again.



A victim makes someone else's disapproval become an excuse to give up. Someone who takes responsibility uses that disapproval as motivation to make it happen.



You need to show them that you’ll follow through this time. Rather than seeing their supposed lack of support as a slight against you, look at it as a challenge to prove them wrong.



Don’t put the burden of your responsibilities on the shoulders of someone else. Take ownership of your health and fitness.



Fatitude 2: It’s Too Hard



Resistance is the force you feel pushing back when you attempt something important.



In the gym, resistance is visible. You measure it in pounds or kilograms. It’s an objective measure of the force pressing against you. Week after week, you overcome greater resistance, which improves your strength and stamina.



In life, resistance (or struggle) is subjective. Your perception determines the force of the resistance.



Resistance shows itself when the desires and expectations of your boss, spouse, kids, customers, even the server at a restaurant, conflict with yours.



Your alarm rings an hour earlier so you can get to the gym, and the warmth of your bed and your tired head remind you that it's more comfortable to sleep in for 60 more minutes. Your boss schedules a meeting over lunch and brings sandwiches in, tempting you to eat those instead of the healthier meal you brought with you. Your spouse wants to order pizza for dinner instead of eating something better.



Then, frustration fills your mind and complaints enter your conversations. You tell yourself, and others, how hard it is to wake up early to train,