Welcome back to the Ask a Sex Therapist podcast, where we dive into the taboo topics and provide you with the raw truth about pleasure and intimacy. I'm your host, Heather Shannon, and today we have a captivating and enlightening episode lined up for you. Get ready, because today we're talking about anal sex.In this episode, we'll address common misconceptions and fears surrounding anal play, as well as how to ease into it if you're feeling a bit apprehensive. We'll explore ways to make anal sex not only enjoyable for you, but also for your partner. And let's not forget about the emotional side of this experience, especially the concerns that might arise for women, though this discussion is not limited to any particular gender.One of the main fears that people often have is the concern that anal sex will be painful. We'll address this fear head-on and provide practical advice on how to make it as comfortable as possible. We'll also touch on the societal stigma surrounding anal sex and remind you that your sexual preferences do not define your morality.Additionally, we'll address the issue of differing desires within a relationship. What happens when one partner wants to explore anal sex while the other is hesitant? We'll offer guidance on navigating these conversations and finding a balance that works for both parties.But where do you start if you've never tried anal play before? We'll guide you through a step-by-step process, starting with relaxation techniques and the importance of being physically and mentally turned on. We'll emphasize the vital role of lubrication - remember, it's lube, lube, and more lube! And for those interested in incorporating toys into their exploration, we'll explore different options and discuss the importance of selecting body-safe materials.Lastly, we'll delve into the topic of hygiene and provide practical tips on maintaining cleanliness during anal play.So, grab a cup of tea or your favorite beverage, sit back, and get ready to delve into the world of anal sex. This episode is jam-packed with expert advice, personal anecdotes, and valuable tips that will change the way you view and approach this intimate act.TIME STAMPS00:00:37 Anal sex fears: pain, discomfort, fear of liking it.00:06:24 Options for toys: butt plugs, sizes, Enjoy brand stainless steel, weight, metal ball, movement, size, vibration. Consult toy store employees for advice.00:08:05 Excrement on fingers can cause contamination during sex.00:12:28 Communication and practice can enhance sexual experiences.00:16:01 Embrace pleasure, communicate desires, find sweet spot.EPISODE LINKSNJoy products - njoy – Deluxe stainless steel instruments of pleasure.The Pleasure Chest - Adult Sex Toys Store | The Pleasure ChestLET’S CONNECT! FIND HEATHER HERE ⤵️:Heather’s Website - https://HeatherShannon.co Heather’s Instagram - https://instagram.com/AskASexTherapist Heather’s YouTube - Check out the video version of this podcast & more! - https://www.youtube.com/@AskASexCoach  RATE & REVIEW US!Loved this episode? Leave us a review and rating here.