A big welcome back to the podcast to Dr. Kelly Casperson. Kelly is a urologist with advanced training in pelvic medicine and surgery, but most important for us, she is working hard to normalize how we talk about and approach sex, because let’s face it, a lot of us were left in the dark on the subject as we grew up. She has authored a book with the same title as her podcast "You Are Not Broken" to bring awareness to some real basic and fundamental facts that we may not know about sex itself, sexual desire, menopause and hormone replacement therapy, and life around our sex lives in general. She calls it her advocacy work. A few takeaways from today's conversation:Two things all women 50+ should know about their bodies that they may not know: 1. The clitoris is where your orgasm comes from. Not the Penis in Vagina or PIV. The clitoris is the target.2. Everything in your life affects your sex life. Your sex life is not in a bubble. The way you live your life affects your sex life. If you are sleeping poorly, if your health is bad, if your thoughts are negative, If your relationship isn’t doing well, if you think the dishes in the sink getting done is more important than sex – all these things will affect your sex life.Other Takeaways:3. It’s important to ask yourself – who do you want to be when you are 74? You need to prioritize sleep and exercise and eating right because if you want to keep feeling great long into the future you’ve got to do the things that 74 year old will be grateful for the 50 year old put into thought and into action.  4. A woman’s desire doesn’t necessarily come before sex. It may come before, it may come during and it may not happen until after. Wow that was great. I forgot how great it is, can you remind me how great that is? 5. Menopause is normal if you are blessed enough to live that long – it’s going to happen. And it’s important to communicate with your partner about what you learn about menopause and explain what you are going through. Otherwise they are just guessing themselves. And that never goes well.Make sure to listen to Kelly on her podcast "You Are Not Broken" and find her book at Amazon: https://a.co/d/1kGQvGCIt is also available on Audible.You can follow Kelly on instagram: Come talk to me here:Find me on my Website:https://www.lesleylmcshane.comFREE: Midlife in Motion ROADMAP I want more details on the MIDLIFE IN MOTION program:I don't need details, I want IN in the MIDLIFE IN MOTION program:Schedule a Kickstarter Call to get your nutrition and fitness on track!Connect with me on Instagram:Get Redesigning Midlife Weekly Updates:Find your community at the private Redesigning Midlife Facebook Group:You Deserve It Notebook: Goal Tracker, Planner, ...