Are you one of those people who gets offended by what other people say?  If someone says something about you, does it hurt you?  Let me teach you why other people’s opinions are none of your business…because they aren’t actually about YOU.  It’s really about them!  And when you figure that out, it is amazingly freeing!   Show Summary   In October of last year I was introduced to a concept that changed my life.  My life coach told me that other people’s opinions were none of my business.  There was MY business, God’s Business, and other’s business.  I could control my own thoughts and behaviors, but I couldn’t control anything else, and really, it was none of my business.  And I was like….WHAT????  As a person who really tried to control as much as I possibly could, this news was life changing.  I mean…it seems like it would be common sense, but how often do we try to control and manipulate the behaviors, thoughts, and opinions of others?  But realizing how true it actually was, was incredibly freeing!  I was learning how to control my own thoughts and emotions, but not having to worry about how others were thinking and feeling (because I really have no control over it anyway) really lightened my load.   So I have a few examples I want to share with you that have happened to me in the last couple of weeks.   The first story, is kind of disgusting, so I hope I don’t gross you out too much.  My daughter had a softball tournament and we took our trailer and stayed at the tournament for a few days.  On our way home we pulled into our local camping store to dump our black tank.  There were already two trailers there dumping, so we had to wait.  We watched one of the trailers move back and forth to position their trailer just right.  And then all of the sudden they dumped their black tank out on the cement without using a hose to put it directly into the hole!  Then they used their water hose to try and spray it into the hole.  It was absolutely disgusting and we were flabbergasted!  When the other trailer pulled away and we were getting ready to pull into position, I decided to go and talk to the couple.  I was really trying to give them the benefit of the doubt and was trying to be really nice about it.  I walked up and asked them if this was their first time dumping?  (Because I don’t know, maybe they are brand new to trailers and didn’t know you needed a hose????)  They said no and they lost their hose.  So still trying to be nice, I tried to explain that you can’t just dump raw sewage all over the ground and if they didn’t have a hose they should have waited until they got one before dumping.  Well this made them pretty mad and the man started yelling expletives at me and calling me pretty much the worst name you can call someone.  So I just walked away at that point.  My husband (who had been putting our own trailer into position) then took over and told them that he works with the EPA (he is in charge of the environmental stuff at the plant he works at) and what they were doing was illegal.  That he was taking pictures of their license plates and would be reporting them to the health department.  Oh, and you can’t talk to his wife that way!)  So why do I tell that disgusting story?  In the past, someone saying something like that to me would have cut me to the core and hurt me so much.  But not this time.  I recognized that  I can’t control him He was probably just embarrassed because he got called out for doing something illegal and lashed out What he said was totally not true!   When someone says something about us, our lower brain kicks into gear to try and protect us.  It puts up its defenses and makes us get angry in return so that we don’t get hurt.  But deep down the thoughts are often “is it true?” and comes back to our innate fear of not being enough.”    When we question our own value and the truth in what is being said about us….THAT is what hurts us.  But if we have confidence in ourselves, our wor