Podcast #459
How to Be More Assertive







Assertive confidence will open doors in life you didn't know were accessible to you. But how do you learn how to be the type of assertive that will be well received instead of the type of assertive that comes off pushy, demanding or bossy? You'll find out exactly how to do just that in this episode of The Confidence Podcast.


 
In this episode of The Confidence Podcast we're talking about:



The relationship between fear, people pleasing, perfectionism and lack of assertivenessThe skill of being assertive, and how to learn it in a natural way for youWhy we aren't assertive enough, and what you're missing out on because of it (why you should want to be more assertive!)10 ways to practice the skill of being more assertive


 
OH MY GOSH. IN PERSON COACHING AGAIN.



My time with the NC State Wolfpack Women Swimmers & Divers and Wolfpack Women Gymnasts was absolutely incredible. It's been a week since I was with these rockstars from @packswimdive and @wolfpackgymanstics, and I'm still absolutely BUZZING with excitement about the season these women have ahead of them. These ladies are some of the top athletes in the country, and in the world.  And last week then gave me their full focus, their total buy-in and their hearts for over 12 HOURS of workshop time with me. It was epic. I have a ridiculous amount of confidence in what this year holds for these swimmers, divers and gymnasts. They are more mentally primed and deeply confident in the belief of their future success --- I can't wait to watch them wow themselves this year and exceed even their own expectations. Thank you Wolfpack Women for the privilege of being your mindset coach and confidence coach. Here's to an amazing year ahead!!! In these workshop weekends I teach athletes how to use the power of words to their advantage to become better athletes, better teams and better individuals. In my workshops we work to unify the mind and body to work in perfect symmetry, ensuring that physical talent and training is also matched by mental resilience and a desire for mental excellence. If you and your team want to rise up to your highest potential, I would be privilege to work with you. DM me to see if I would be a good fit for your organization.


 
REVIEW OF THE WEEK:



AMAZINGGG - 5 Stars, CWiphoneThis podcast is not just for helping your confidence, but has helped me get to know myself better and understand my subconscious better! Psychology is so interesting to me, and Trish does a great job of including psychology into her motivation. I absolutely love this podcast!!!




 
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WHERE DO YOU WANT MORE ASSERTIVENESS?



Delegation at work.Distribution of work in the home.Boundaries with people in your life.Freedom from feeling like a burden, demanding, inconvenience.Assertiveness to be yourself unapologetically.Time management with your family (asking for what you want and need)Self-care prioritization with yourself.Saying no to people.  Passive - Sure! I'd love to help.Aggressive - I'm tired of helping, sorry, you're going to have to do this by yourself.Assertive - I'm not going to be able to help at this time.


 
WHY YOU AREN'T ASSERTIVE



Fear of what people think.People pleasing.Perfectionism. Have you ever thought these things… I don’t want to be a burden.I don't want to bother them.I don't want to seem too demanding.I don't want to inconvenience anyone.I don’t want to be an imposition.I don't want to embarrass myself. When you don’t show up with confident assertiveness, you can end up… ResentfulBlamingDoing too muchDoing what you don't wantAccommodating everyone elseMissing outPaying moreBeing taken advantage ofMisunderstood


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