My Road to Sobriety
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An alcoholic's journey finding sobriety, and his fight to keep it. There can be no happiness in life, if what we believe in, is different then what we do. I know you can find your sobriety. I believe in you.
Mike McCarthy
Mike McCarthy (R Michael) was born and raised in Sault Ste. Marie, Michigan, and graduated from Loretto High School and Lake Superior State University. His career started in the Soo in community and economic development in 1970. He was the former president of the Chippewa County EDC in the late '70s. He is known in the business as a top economic strategist and as a passionate fund-raiser. His fund-raising career got its start in 1988, and he has raised over $375 million conducting a hundred capital campaigns in the United States and Canada. He and his wife, Judy, live in Denver.He is recently spotlighted by the NY Times book review, brings us his third book and his journey through alcoholism right thru to his sobriety, and his fight to keep it.
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My Road to Sobriety - Mike McCarthy
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FOREWORD
My Road to Sobriety
I feel honoured that I was asked to write the foreword for Michael’s story. Like Michael, I have years of sobriety, and years discovering old beliefs and habits that didn’t work for a sober lifestyle. I kept looking for people and pathways that would help me in that search. I learned to share in AA meetings, share with my sponsors, join various support groups, and learn that trying to help others helped me. I told my story at meetings, becoming quite comfortable doing it. The punch line of my talk would be, My dad was an Irish, Catholic cop, to say he was an Alcoholic was a redundancy!
Things were going so well that I said yes to doing a talk on spirituality at an AA Conference in Sault Ste. Marie, Ontario. Things didn’t go well there of course. It was a large group on a Saturday morning. I froze up. I never said a word! Was quite sure I was going to pass out. I stood there frozen until people started to line up to hug me and let me know I was ok. I discovered another fear I had that wasn’t true. Public speaking didn’t kill me. I joined Toastmasters shortly after to support me in this area. AA and Toastmasters are both groups that help people through their fears. I continued to search, leading me to do a lot of soul-searching and forgiveness work. I eventually became a minister with a small church and spent time doing spiritual counselling. I have tried to incorporate the lessons I learned throughout the rest of my life.
Michael and I met in grade school and bonded over sports and minor acts of rebellion in a rather strict school system. I was in a class with Michael’s sister Mary one year ahead of Michael. However, it was a small school and easy to get to know the students in the other grades. By the time we got to high school, we often walked home for lunch in a group too. Looking back it’s easy to see that we tended to form a group of friends with common themes. The themes were often influenced by alcohol and family secrets leading to frustration and anger issues. During football, basketball, and hockey (for me) season, we got to work off some of the angry energy in a competitive environment. It wasn’t enough.
It got worse after high school. That’s when we started to drink to excess. It was easy for us to get carried away when we drank. We all thought we were being jovial and hilarious. But people could see trouble coming when we walked through the door. It’s a good thing we had that tight bond because I don’t know if I would have liked us very much. We were hurting young men unaware of why we hurt. I am very thankful people are willing to support us who are unaware of the pain we are carrying.
Mike leads the reader through multiple examples of the fear and pain that can be shared behind the closed doors of our family home. He also gives examples of how he compensated for those emotions. He also shows how his way of dealing with pain affected his life. He takes us step by step through the process involved in his ability to surrender his defences and find help in sobriety. He sets an example for how to begin a life-long path of healing. He took his unique path to get sober. His mom took a different approach. Both worked. Mike shows us that sobriety works. Sobriety opens the door for us to reclaim our innocence and help bring us some peace. Sobriety is a tool that allows us to continue the work that needs to be done. It allows us the freedom to get in touch with feelings and emotions that need to be released. Sobriety can open us to love and support those in need. Sobriety helps us love our families and ourselves.
Again, I thank my friend, Mike, for having the courage to share his journey. I am proud to call him my friend and fellow traveller on the road to healing.
Bless you, Rev. Peter Campbell
THE SERENITY PRAYER
The Serenity Prayer serves as a focal point for the very spirit of AA, anchoring its members to its quintessential teachings about surrender and acceptance.
God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
The courage to change the things I can,
And the wisdom to know the difference
TABLE OF CONTENTS
FOREWORD
INTRODUCTION i
CHAPTER ONE: Happy Birthday 1
CHAPTER TWO: The Ending 3
CHAPTER THREE: AA Step 8 10
CHAPTER FOUR: The Beginning 14
CHAPTER FIVE: Off to School 20
CHAPTER SIX: The College Years 24
CHAPTER SEVEN: Joining the Merchant Marine 33
CHAPTER EIGHT: My Development Career Begins 41
CHAPTER NINE: The Dominoes have all Fallen 44
CHAPTER TEN: A Tribute to My Mother 46
CHAPTER ELEVEN: A Tribute to My Father 48
CHAPTER TWELVE: 51 years of Sobriety,
December 24, 2023 51
ENCLOSURES 55
THE TWELVE STEPS OF
ALCOHOLICS ANONYMOUS 55
FAQ - Most Frequently Asked Questions 57
Benefits of a 30-Day Addiction Treatment Program 62
ACKNOWLEDGMENT 63
McCARTHY FAMILY PICTURES 67
TESTIMONIALS 91
INTRODUCTION
Since I broke my anonymity of my alcoholism with my Facebook posting, many people have urged me to tell the whole story. And those who have lived a life anonymously like myself, will know how difficult that could be. Over a year ago, I wanted to celebrate my 50th year of sobriety, and this time more openly. When my 50-year coin came in the mail, I then decided to post my testimony on Facebook so my friends would know what I thought was the most major accomplishment in my life after the birth of my three children. So many friends responded with congratulations and just wonderful things to say. I was so appreciative, but the strangest thing occurred. Friends of friends of friends contacted me on Facebook. People I never heard of before, people I just didn’t know, writing to me and telling me how my story gave them a bounce and encouragement, and a renewed belief they too can find sobriety and turn their life around. Many were married and some were divorced, some were young in their early 20s, and a few had crashed on their recovery program and started drinking again, but