Heart. Soul. Pen.: Find Your Voice on the Page and In Your Life
By Robin Finn
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Harmoniously blending actionable advice and spiritual insight, a renowned writing mentor gives women the tools they need to discover their voice—and themselves—on the page.
Step into an extraordinary voyage of self-discovery with Robin Finn's life-altering guide. Crafted with the female experience at its core, this transformative compendium unlocks the keys to individual expression within all of us.
Beginning with HEART, readers engage with an empowering space to reevaluate and dismiss self-limiting beliefs about personal worth. Transitioning seamlessly, SOUL offers a therapeutic haven fostering creativity, leading to PEN, a treasure trove imparting profound insights on showcasing work and appreciating personal value. Endorsed by accomplished authors, seasoned therapists, and esteemed physicians, Finn’s method is an essential companion for women yearning to reconnect with their voice and embrace their inherent worth. Novice or experienced writers alike will find a wellspring of inspiration, guidance, and empowerment. But even for those simply feeling voiceless, this book shines as a beacon, unveiling a path towards personal reawakening.
Inspired by the acclaimed program sharing its name, Heart. Soul. Pen. has already brought about a sea change in innumerable lives. Now, it extends an invitation to anyone on the transformative journey that is unlocking one’s true potential as a writer.
Robin Finn
Robin Finn, MPH, MA, is an award-winning writer, teacher, and coach, and the founder and creator of Heart. Soul. Pen.,® a Los Angeles-based course blending writing and radical self-expression for women, and Hot Writing™ where midlife and menopause inspire the desire to say what you mean without apology. As a writer, Robin’s essay on a humorous moment of midlife parenting, When Our Daughter Walked In On us, was one of The New York Times Most Read Stories of 2019. Her work has been featured in the Washington Post, the Los Angeles Times, BuzzFeed, and many more. Her humorous BuzzFeed listicle had over 96,000 shares and was a top-100 stories of the week and continues to spontaneously trend on Twitter. Other essays of hers have been internationally syndicated, shared in Mamamia, Australia’s largest independent women’s media site, featured on the BBC podcast “Sacred Objects,” and anthologized. She is on the faculty of UCLA Extension Writer’s Program where she launched and teaches the Women’s Writing Workshop and at the Scarsdale Adult School. She lives in Los Angeles, CA.
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Heart. Soul. Pen. - Robin Finn
Copyright © 2024 by Robin Finn
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Library of Congress Cataloging-in-Publication Data
Names: Finn, Robin, author.
Title: Heart. Soul. Pen. : find your voice on the page and in your life /
Robin Finn.
Description: New York, NY : Morehouse Publishing, 2024. | Includes
bibliographical references.
Identifiers: LCCN 2023059452 | ISBN 9781640657076 (hardback) | ISBN
9781640657083 (epub)
Subjects: LCSH: Authorship—Psychological aspects. | Expression
(Philosophy) | Creation (Literary, artistic, etc.) | Self-esteem in
women. | Self-realization in women. | Authorship—Problems, exercises, etc.
Classification: LCC PN171.P83 F56 2024 | DDC 808.0201/9—dc23/eng/20240105
LC record available at https://lccn.loc.gov/2023059452
This digital document has been produced by Nord Compo.
For my mother, Vicki Finn,
who lived a life full of color, joy, and style,
and who celebrated the genius inside of everyone she met.
You are my inspiration.
CONTENTS
Title Page
Copyright
Dedication Page
PRAISE FOR HEART. SOUL. PEN.
AUTHOR'S NOTE
WELCOME TO HEART. SOUL. PEN.
Part I - HEART.
CHANGE YOUR BELIEFS, CHANGE YOUR WRITING
Chapter One - STEP #1—REVISE AND RELEASE LIMITING BELIEFS
Chapter Two - STEP #2—ANCHOR TO A CREATIVE QUALITY
Chapter Three - STEP #3—CREATE A WRITING RITUAL
Part II - SOUL.
WRITING IS A PROCESS OF DISCOVERY, NOT A CONTEST OF WORTHINESS
Chapter Four - STEP #4—WRITE FASTER THAN YOU THINK
Chapter Five - STEP #5—ENTER INTO CURIOSITY AND DISCOVERY
Chapter Six - STEP #6—FOLLOW THE TIDES
Part III - PEN.
THE ONLY PERSON WHO DETERMINES YOUR VALUE IS YOU
Chapter Seven - STEP #7—MAKE AND KEEP CREATIVE COMMITMENTS
Chapter Eight - STEP #8—SHARE WITH INTENTION
Chapter Nine - STEP #9—OWN YOUR WORTHINESS
Chapter Ten - STEP #10—RECEIVE THE DIVINE DOWNLOAD
Chapter Eleven - A META MOMENT
A FINAL NOTE OF ENCOURAGEMENT
Part IV - HEART. SOUL. PEN. IN ACTION
WORKING THE PROCESS
STARTING A SUCCESSFUL HEART. SOUL. PEN. WRITING GROUP
SAMPLE AGENDA, GUIDELINES, WRITING PROMPTS
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
NOTES
FURTHER READING
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
PRAISE FOR HEART. SOUL. PEN.
"Robin’s unique background in spiritual psychology, women’s health, and writing shines through in her teachings. When I began writing, HEART. SOUL. PEN. gave me the confidence to believe in myself and my story and write my first book, which changed my life. I would recommend this book to any women who is searching for her voice."
—Jamie Fiore Higgins, author of Bully Market: My Story of Money and Misogyny at Goldman Sachs and named one of the Financial Times Top 25 Most Influential Women of 2022
"HEART. SOUL. PEN. offers me support and encouragement and a well-defined path to follow with my writing. I always find what I need to keep moving forward. These are tools I go back to over and over again."
—Melissa Gould, internationally bestselling author of Widowish
"Robin Finn’s HEART. SOUL. PEN. is an absolute gift. The endless guidance and support has helped me push through self-doubt, giving me so much more freedom as a writer. The techniques Robin shares are extremely valuable and have become tools I use every time I sit down to write."
—Liz Astrof, award-winning executive producer, sitcom writer, and author of Don’t Wait Up: Confessions of a Stay-At-Work Mom
"In this well-written and easily readable book, HEART. SOUL. PEN., Robin Finn writes about her own story of healing the limiting belief that she wasn’t enough. The inherent truth is that we are all enough, regardless of what we may have been taught growing up. Robin takes you, and especially women, on a journey of rediscovering your voice and expressing your creativity through the written word. Her wisdom and beautiful consciousness to be of service to others along with her personal experiences assist others in recognizing their own truth in the worthiness of their being. And what better way to share that than through creative expression. It’s a book you’ll want to keep close by to read again and again for inspiration."
—Dr. Mary R. Hulnick, codirector and founding faculty of the University of Santa Monica and coauthor of
Loyalty to Your Soul: The Heart of Spiritual Psychology
"Robin Finn has a gift for instilling confidence and helping you recognize the power of your words. For anyone feeling creatively stuck, the clever writing prompts and thoughtful insights in HEART. SOUL. PEN. will remind you that to write is to play."
—Katherine Chang, president of Columbia University
Entertainment and writer-producer of Hallmark’s A Brush with Love
"Midlife is a time of ‘ughs and fabulosities.’ HEART. SOUL. PEN. will help women dig deep to rediscover the power of their authentic voice and unleash the inner sparkle that is uniquely their own. Buckle up, it’s time to write and unleash the storyteller within!"
—Dr. Sarah Milken, The Flexible Neurotic
and host of The Midlife Reinvention podcast
"HEART. SOUL. PEN. is a book you will return to again and again. I find myself coming back to Robin’s wisdom when I feel stuck and need to generate fresh ideas—even when I needed inspiration to write my own wedding vows! The simple steps enable me to focus and connect to the words I want to express from the heart."
—Brooke Jaffe, senior vice president of public affairs and strategy at Penske Media, style expert, trend forecaster,
and on-air commentator
"I was in the middle of writing my cookbook The Vegan ABCs, when I got stuck on ‘M is for Miso.’ Using HEART. SOUL. PEN., I let go and wrote from my heart—which led me to create a new format for each letter and I ended up going back to A and starting all over! HEART. SOUL. PEN. is a book that will inspire your creativity every time you use it!"
—Lisa Dawn Angerame, author of Wait, That’s Vegan?!
and The Vegan ABCs Cookbook
"As a therapist and educator, helping patients and students find their unique voice amid a fast-paced and complicated world is challenging. HEART. SOUL. PEN. is that life-affirming book that teaches women the complex process of connecting to their voice in the most approachable and user-friendly way. The results are powerful and life-changing."
—Patty Stegman, LCSW, clinical instructor, NYU Grossman School of Medicine, department of child and adolescent psychiatry
"This book is a gift to women. As a physician specializing in women’s healthcare and a working mother, I know firsthand how difficult it is for women to honor themselves by seeking self-care and self-love. For me personally, being a longtime student of HEART. SOUL. PEN. has been life-changing both in my personal life and my professional one. I encourage all my patients and my female friends to read this book and follow the simple steps to use writing as a path to self-love and empowerment."
—Rebecca Dupont, MD, obstetrics and gynecology specialist with twenty-eight years of experience
AUTHOR’S NOTE
The names of students who so generously contributed their five-minute writes to this book have been changed to protect their privacy. Thank you so much for sharing your words with me.
INTRODUCTION
WELCOME TO HEART. SOUL. PEN.
When I was in the second grade, my teacher arranged all of the kids’ desks in small groups, except for mine. My desk was pulled away like a little island in an ocean. Why? Because I was too social,
too loud,
and I talked too much.
I spent the remainder of the year sitting at my desk far away from the rest of the class. At seven years old, I interpreted this to mean: (1) My voice causes humiliation, (2) to be good, I must be quiet, (3) loud girls deserve to be ostracized. I held onto these beliefs for the next thirty-three years.
The messages we receive as kids get lodged inside of us and become lifelong, limiting beliefs that impact how we live, work, write, create, show up in our lives, and relate to ourselves and others. These beliefs limit us from experiencing who we truly are. They keep us small. They keep us from sharing our full expression in the world. Often, we are not aware of these beliefs or certain of their origin.
Many women grow up believing that sharing their voice is not safe or polite or nice. We get the message that if we speak out, we will be punished, ostracized, shamed, humiliated, or make others feel uncomfortable. Then we grow up and become partners, wives, and mothers, in addition to our roles as workers, bosses, sisters, daughters, and friends. Our voices that were already muffled, far away, and hard to hear get buried by all the responsibilities in our lives. Whether or not we are parents or partners, women are trained from birth to put others first and to put ourselves last. We are trained to give and care for others and be selfless. The problem is the longer we put ourselves last, the easier it becomes to lose ourselves altogether. We get so consumed by the needs of others that we no longer connect with our own needs or personal identity.
HEART. SOUL. PEN. is my story of being overwhelmed by parenting, spending two years in an unconventional graduate program in spiritual psychology, and making peace with the voices in my head that told me I was not enough, and it was too late to start writing. Part memoir, part writing manifesto, this is a story about shedding my limiting beliefs, becoming a writer and a teacher, and launching Heart. Soul. Pen.® women’s writing workshops to help women reclaim their voices and unleash their radical self-expression. Writing changed my life. It can change yours too.
Have you ever wondered: How did I end up here? What is my life about? What happened to my dreams? What are my dreams? Who am I apart from everyone else in my life? It does not matter when this moment strikes: after college or having a baby or leaving a job or leaving a marriage or hitting midlife or facing an empty nest or at retirement. If you have ever woken up and felt like I have lost my voice,
HEART. SOUL. PEN. will help you find it again.
Your Words Are Worthy
Too often women want to write but tell me that they are not real writers,
they are not creative, or they do not know what to say. After years of working with women, I can tell you that when women sit down to write and connect to their radical self-expression—the deepest words inside of them—what holds them back is not about writing. It is about worthiness.
It is difficult to express yourself when you believe that your self-expression is uninteresting, silly, unpleasant, or unworthy. Career coach and author Claire Wasserman says in her book Ladies Get Paid that for women to advocate for ourselves out in the world, we have to believe we are worthy of advocacy.
¹ With writing, in order to find your voice on the page, you have to believe your voice is worth finding. Otherwise, you end up feeling disheartened and giving up writing altogether.
In this book, I am going to remind you of an inherent truth: what you have to say, share, divulge, and express is important. Writing will transform your life, and now is the time.
It is easy to ignore what we know to be true when we say it to ourselves. It is easy to discount our own advice, doubt our own wisdom, and play small when it is only us watching. I am here to remind you that if you feel the call to write, answer the call. If you want your inner arrow to point toward the direction of your dreams, express yourself. If you feel the words inside pressuring you, let them out.
Writing is a courageous act. I say this all the time and I believe it. I also believe that women who want to write face a twofold challenge: the creative resistance that all writers face and the pervasive judgments about women’s value. Women’s bodies, beauty, aging, motherhood, midlife, menopause, and everything else related to the female experience are constantly under scrutiny.
For women to unleash our radical self-expression, we have to overcome the resistance that all artists face and confront the challenges of the deeply rooted cultural beliefs that live inside of us, keep us small, and have been reinforced our entire lives.
You Are the Expert of Your Story
In HEART. SOUL. PEN., we are going to examine our beliefs about writing and worthiness. We are going to unpack these beliefs, release them, revise them, and ultimately throw our arms around the fact that we are enough, that what