THE GEAR WHEELS THAT DRIVE ALL RELATIONSHIPS: Understand the powers that drive relationships

By Naresh Gathani

The Gear Wheels That Drive All Relationships

"The Gear Wheels that drive all our relationships" by Naresh Gathani is a book on the evolutionary cycles of all relationships. The evolution of our relationships is very structured and the book simplifies all my original concepts that I have introduced for the first time . Relationships define

• Language: English
• Publisher: AMZ Marketing Hub
• Release date: Jan 10, 2024
• ISBN: 9781917046435

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THE GEAR WHEELS THAT DRIVE ALL RELATIONSHIPS

Understand the powers that drive relationships

Naresh Gathani

Copyright ©2023 Naresh Gathani

All Rights Reserved

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Table of Contents

Acknowledgements

Chapter 1 - Introduction

Chapter 2 – The Dynamics Of The First Relationship With Ourselves

Chapter 3 – Relationship Diagnostics And Corrections

Chapter 4 – Advanced Relationship Diagnostics And Corrections

Chapter 5 – The Final Ascent To Gear Wheel 11 Of Exultation And Adulation

Chapter 6 — Steve Jobs – The Story

Chapter 7- Steve Jobs: The Negative Evolutionary Cycles

Chapter 8- Steve Jobs: The Positive Evolutionary Cycles

Chapter 9 – Steve Jobs & Chrisann Brennan's Evolution

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About The Author

Acknowledgements

I am very grateful to Bhagawan Sri Satya Sai Baba for his teachings and his message to the world about the importance of human-values.

I am very grateful to Wikipedia for the stories of Steve Jobs, Crisann Brennan, and Laurene Powell.

I am very grateful to Mail-Online for the story and the photographs, which are limited to reasonable use.

I am grateful to Kirti for all the support and inspiration to make the books happen.

Chapter 1 - Introduction

Relationships define our existence. Some relationships are with human beings, and other relationships are with our careers, our wealth, our hobbies, our cars etc. But all relationships are driven by the same eleven-gear wheels. The outcome and benefits of these relationships depend on our understanding of the gear wheels that drive the evolution of relationships and, more importantly, on understanding what powers the evolutionary cycles.

The first and the most important relationship is with ourselves, and the same gear wheels also drive this relationship as all the other relationships. Traditionally, relationships are judged by the duration that the relationships have endured. They are further judged by how much happiness or how much fun was derived from these relationships. I cannot claim that I am an expert on relationships. What I can claim is that I have invested a significant amount of study into trying to understand relationships, and this book is to share what I gained from the study. I must stress that this book is about understanding all types of relationships and is not limited to our love relationships.

The first relationship is with ourselves. Actually, this first relationship is totally central to all our other relationships, whether it is with another human being, with a pet, or with our career. Failure to understand this will compromise the outcomes of all our other relationships. The major difference in the relationship with ourselves is that we do not pursue this relationship, but it is given to us at birth. The beginnings of this relationship manifest in stages, and this relationship evolves from birth and never stops evolving until death. All the other relationships come about because we actively or passively pursue interactions. The other major difference is that the relationship with ourselves is an obligatory one; we don’t get to choose!

This book is about understanding the eleven gear wheels that drive all relationships and understanding the significance of the power source that drives the gear wheels. In many ways, a relationship is like a finely manufactured timepiece. The precision of the gear wheels determines the function. The fluent engagement between the gear wheels will determine its fitness for purpose. The power source will determine the benefits it can bestow upon us.

I mentioned earlier that the first relationship with ourselves is an obligatory one and is evolutionary in nature. Actually, all relationships need to go through the evolutionary process, and that is probably why relationships are partly judged by duration that they have endured for. That indicates if evolution was given a chance to take place. However, duration is not necessarily a function of evolution, certainly not in a direct way. Some evolutionary cycles of relationships happen in a flash, while others fail to attain completion even in a lifetime.

In reference to the first relationship with ourselves, I said this is given to us at birth and in stages, and this relationship evolves. The evolution is very structured and is driven by the eleven-gear wheels.

Let me describe the anatomy of a gear wheel. A gear wheel has the wheel part and the axle part. The wheel part has precisely designed cogs that can engage with precisely designed cogs of the axle of another gear wheel. Each gear wheel engages at two points. Point one at the wheel cogs and point 2 at the axle cogs. The resultant engagements transmit motion in a predetermined direction.

At birth, the first manifestation is that of health, indicated by the first gasp for air. Alongside the health, a personality has also manifested, indicated by the smile or the cry. This represents the first gear wheel, and the precision cogs of health and personality are at the two points of contact. The first relationship with ourselves has just started with the manifestation of health and personality. The first stage in the evolution of our relationship is with our health and personality at gear wheel 1.

The evolution progresses to the next stage, when we get the manifestation of perception and emotion. This is the second-gear wheel, and it engages with the first-gear wheel of health and personality. The perceptions are indicated by the mood of excitement, and the emotion is indicated by happiness. If the gear wheels do not engage fluently, we get the negative attributes of health, personality, perception, and emotion. I write about the negative attributes in the chapters that follow.

The next stage in the evolution of the relationship with ourselves is the third stage, when the third gear wheel is manifested in the form of physical and intellectual transitions. Our physical transitions are where we are (our geography). Physical transitions are also our travels and trips such as trips to school, playground, restaurant, hospital, etc. All these are our physical transitions. These are very important in the context of being at an appropriate place and at an appropriate time! Our intellectual transitions manifest our communications, our logic, our powers to analyse , powers to process information, our ability to change, our ability to adjust, and our ability to relate to all the happenings around us. If the gear wheels are not engaging fluently, we get negative attributes of both transitions, physical and intellectual.

The relationship with ourselves evolves to the next stage, where the fourth gear wheel manifests attractiveness and cleanliness. We become aware of aesthetics, a sense of fashion, and a sense of presentation. We also become aware of cleanliness, a sense of organisation, and a sense of arrangement. Cleanliness has a more profound meaning than would appear at first read.  More detail later on these manifestations and the role they play in our relationships. And if this gear wheel is not engaging fluently, we get negative attributes of attractiveness and cleanliness.

Evolution of the first relationship with ourselves continues, and the fifth stage is the manifestation of Vibration and Initiation, the fifth gear wheel. Vibration is the energy that manifests action and reaction, and this is the energy to work, play, defend, protect, interact sexually, be passionate, etc. Initiation is the energy that manifests the initiative . If the gear wheels are not engaging fluently, we get the negative attributes of vibration and initiation.

The sixth stage in the evolution of the relationship with ourselves Is the manifestation of Intuition and confidence, the sixth gear wheel. This is a major milestone in the evolution. Intuition and confidence are the higher manifestations of our health and personality. Intuition manifests good fortune. Confidence manifests success and expansion. If the gear wheel is not engaging fluently, we get the negative attributes of Intuition and confidence.

The seventh gear wheel in the evolution of the relationship with ourselves is the manifestation of self-regulation and self-governance. Self-regulation manifests correct processes and discipline. Self-governance manifests compliance. Self-regulation and self-governance are the higher manifestations of our perceptions and emotions. A detailed explanation of this follows later on. If the seventh gear wheel is not engaging fluently we get the negative attributes of self-regulation and self-governance .

The evolution of the relationship with ourselves at stage eight manifests transformation and innovation. This is the eighth gear wheel. Transformation and innovation are the higher manifestations of our Physical and intellectual transitions. If gear wheel eight is not engaging properly, we get the negative attributes of transformation and innovation.

The ninth stage in the evolution of the relationship with ourselves manifests conscience and purity at the ninth gear wheel. Conscience is the higher manifestation of our attractiveness, and purity is the higher manifestation of cleanliness. Conscience manifests the ability to tell right from wrong. Purity manifests nobility and enchantment. If the ninth gear wheel is not engaging fluently, we get the negative attributes of conscience and purity.

The evolution of our relationship with ourselves continues to the tenth stage. The tenth gear wheel manifests creation and sustenance and is the higher manifestation of vibration and initiation. Creation manifests ability to provide , and sustenance manifests the ability to maintain. If the tenth gear wheel is not engaging fluently, we get the negative attributes of creation and sustenance.

The final stage in the evolution of the relationship with ourselves manifests the eleventh gear wheel of exultation and adulation. This is the pinnacle of the evolutionary cycle. The eleventh gear wheel manifests exultation and adulation and, therefore, manifests celebrated relationships, accomplishments, fame, glory, success, and wealth.

The most important feature of the evolutionary cycle is that the eleven-gear wheel transmission continues to repeat itself, but the manifestations are at a higher level if evolution is happening. Therefore, the health and personality gear wheel manifests an even higher state of health and personality. The same happens with all the other ten-gear wheels. Now, unfortunately, when the gear wheels are not engaging fluently, the subsequent cycle of evolution manifests even more negative attributes. This is why relationships will never stop evolving, whether positively or negatively.

An evolutionary cycle may attain the pinnacle in a flash, and other evolutionary cycles don’t complete and don’t get to the pinnacle even in a lifetime. Fluent engagement of all the gear wheels is very important to drive evolution. The gear wheels have to be powered, and the quality of the power determines evolution or the lack of evolution.

Later, I considered the importance of timely interventions and decisions on relationships because negative manifestation with ever-increasing negativity in each evolutionary cycle will cause harm. Positive manifestations of evolution will bless with exultation and adulation at each pinnacle of each cycle.

There is a co-relation to an extent between the gear wheels and the life stages of birth – gear wheel 1, infancy -gear wheel 2, primary school age – gear wheel 3, high school age – gear wheel 4, further education age – gear wheel 4, love age – gear wheel 4 & 5, work age – gear wheel 5,6 & 7, career age- gear wheel 5,6,7,8, 9 & 10, marriage age – gear wheel 11. These would involve many evolutionary cycles at that time, but this concept gives us a very important idea of the chronology of the gear wheels. The evolutionary gear wheels manifest the different life stages, but these happen over many evolutionary cycles.

Understanding the chronology of the gear wheels is key to applying the right solution to the right gear wheel to manifest fluent engagement of gear wheels and positive evolutionary cycles.

Please do not be concerned if certain concepts are hard to grasp because I will continue to provide further explanations for all the concepts. Also, in the final three chapters, I present a  case study featuring a true story in real life that has attracted huge media attention over time. I hope this will give a very clear indication of how the concepts apply.

The multimillion-dollar question so difficult to answer is whether we have the power to manipulate the eleven-gear wheels to change the course of a relationship and more importantly, the power to manipulate the relationship with ourselves. I attempt to answer this in the coming chapters.

Chapter 2 – The Dynamics of the first relationship with ourselves

In this chapter, I deal with the positive dynamics of the most important relationship – the one with ourselves. A relationship was compared to a precision timepiece driven by eleven-gear wheels in Chapter One. When the eleven-gear wheels engage fluently, a positive dynamic is manifested, and this dynamic determines how the relationship survives and evolves.  

Note on definitions: I have intentionally chosen to let the goals define. I think it is more useful to indicate the goal as that will lead to a better understanding of the content and the intended purpose it serves.

Gear Wheel 1 of Health and Personality

In the context of this book, I  define positive health and positive personality as attributes that evolve into positive perceptions and positive emotions. In this definition,  positive health and positive personality will manifest positive perceptions and positive emotions. Health is a reference to our wellbeing. Personality is a reference to how others feel about us or how others perceive us. Positive health evolves into positive perceptions. A positive personality evolves into positive emotions. Health is like a delicacy made up of ingredients used in the right proportions. Fresh air in excess, nourishment in moderation, lots of perspiration from playful fun, efficient disposal of toxins, plenty of stimulating relationships, and timely rest for repair and recovery of the body. Personality is like a good fragrance enjoyed by others.

The mind is the basis of our perceptions. In other words, our perceptions are our reality, and the state of our emotions is directly connected to our perceptions. However, if positive health and positive personality are not evolving to positive