True Companions Study Guide: Five Sessions on How to Show Up in Your Most Important Relationships
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In his book True Companions, psychologist Kelly Flanagan shows how each of us can enjoy the deeply satisfying, transformational love of companionship. He shows us how self-knowledge leads the way to growing in love for both God and others. He shows us how understanding our own loneliness can help us relieve the pressure on our companions. And he shows us how understanding our own psychological and emotional defenses can help us to make the choice to love more vulnerably.
In this five-session companion study guide, groups, couples, and individuals will learn how to show up in our most important relationships. Anyone—from single young adults to elderly married couples, from the divorced to the widowed, from siblings to friends—can benefit from the wisdom it uncovers about what it means to be human and to be true companions.
Kelly Flanagan
Kelly Flanagan (PhD, Pennsylvania State University) is a clinical psychologist, popular speaker, and the author of The Marriage Manifesto, Loveable, and True Companions. He has also written for publications such as Christianity Today, Reader's Digest, and Huffington Post, and he has appeared on the TODAY Show with his daughter. He lives in Dixon, Illinois, with his wife who is also named Kelly, and their three children.
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True Companions Study Guide - Kelly Flanagan
KELLY FLANAGAN
IllustrationFIVE SESSIONS ON HOW TO SHOW UP IN
YOUR MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIPS
IllustrationContents
Welcome to Companion Camp
WEEK ONE
The Four Kinds of Love
WEEK TWO
Growing Quiet Before You Grow Closer
WEEK THREE
Growing Strong by Growing Wiser
WEEK FOUR
Growing Old with Your Fragility Primed
WEEK FIVE
Who Loved You into Being?
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Live the questions now.
Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer.
RAINER MARIA RILKE
TRUE COMPANIONS is a book for everyone.
It’s right there in the subtitle: A Book for Everyone About the Relationships That See Us Through. That’s true of this study guide, as well. I’ve structured these five sessions so that you can work through them with a friend or a bunch of friends, with your spouse or lifelong partner, with a class or your church small group, with a parent or a child or a sibling, and even, simply, with yourself. Before we go any further, though, I would encourage you to stop thinking of this as a study guide.
Think of this, instead, as Companion Camp.
I first used that phrase—Companion Camp—at a marriage retreat. The beginning of every marriage retreat is fraught with tension. Some couples are there to save their marriage, and the retreat weekend is a last-ditch effort. They’ve tried couples counseling already, and it has not worked, so the stakes are high. They tend to feel a decent amount of despair, and they are skeptical about the sustainability of any hope the weekend may give them.
Some couples are there not because their marriage is failing but because it is stagnating. For them, the weekend is an effort to take their marriage to the next level. They feel determined and committed, but they are a little skeptical, too, probably because they’ve already tried to find this other level
everyone speaks of, with nothing to show for it.
On the other hand, some couples are there as a celebration of their marriage. For them, all is well and they are simply seeking a little time away to rest, relax, and enrich their relationship. Nevertheless, they too feel a bit of trepidation at the beginning of the weekend because, deep down, they worry the retreat is going to stir up issues in the marriage that need not be stirred up.
So, yeah, fraught with tension.
I was leading a marriage retreat of about thirty couples, and I’m guessing the couples were pretty evenly divided among these three types. We assembled on a Saturday morning, and sixty sets of eyes stared at me with equal parts caution and distrust. The question written on those faces was clear: What are you about to do to us?
The first thing I did to them was to read the introduction to True Companions, including excerpts like this one:
In her Pulitzer Prize–winning novel, Gilead, Marilynne Robinson writes, "The moon looks wonderful in this warm evening light, just as a candle flame looks beautiful in the light of morning. Light within light. . . . It seems to me to be a metaphor for the human soul, the singular light within the great general light of existence. Or it seems like poetry within language.