Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level.Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.Please Support The Show with a Donation Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organizationIn This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss...Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern RelationshipsThe emotions underneath fear, hatred and greedDepression being a calcified sadnessTurning towards sadnessThe four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of thisFeeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?The difference between anger and irritation in the bodyThe enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happyLook at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one anotherThe threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyondThe role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationshipsGood manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your wordsOpening to the other person as they are in a relationshipIntimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover moreIn a relationship, commit to intimacy over loveAddiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the spacePassion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problemWishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, howeverRelax with what is and a space will open upHer take on sufferingHer beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachmentA spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it isYour life IS the spiritual pathIn meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhereMeditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment Please Support The Show with a Donation