Lifetime and Responsibility

By Makomborero Chingomah

Lifetime and Responsibility is a special book that is filled up with the knowledge of how people can learn to take responsibilities in life. This is important because the quality of one's lifetime is largely dependent on his/her own ability to take part at each subsequent moment in it. There are four basic moments in human's lifetime which are Childhood, Youth, Adulthood and Old Age, and according to the Responsibility Cave, responsibilities increase from one moment to another until the Adult Pick where they will start decreasing with time.

Through ignorance, most people love to waste time with entertainment and pleasure instead of pursuing their life's dreams. These people want great things but instead of working hard towards them, they spend countless hours doing things that are nowhere near their goals.  The truth however is that, when you were born, that's the day we put on the left side of your tombstone, when you die, we will put another date on the right side of the tombstone, but the dash in the middle is the most important thing on that tombstone because it reflects the entire lifetime you were able to impart and touch other people lives, it reflects the time you were able to leave your mark on this earth and a legacy that nobody could change no matter what. 'When people look at that dash, they must be able to remember why you were here'.

How do you rate yourself on a scale of 1-10 in terms of your physical appearance and in terms of your health? Do you take care of yourself or you just allow yourself to get overweight and be out of shape? Are you conscious about the food you introduce into your body and your efforts to exercise or you're just waiting to get older before your time because you're not taking good care of yourself.

On that same scale, are you doing the things that are satisfactory to you? Are you happy with your job or career you're involved in, because according to study, "80% of the world's population are unhappy with their jobs". Are you doing the things you don't find challenging, that does not make you stretch mentally, and helps stimulate and inspire you.

When it comes to relationships, what kind of impact are they having on your life? Are they nurturing or toxic relationships? Do they drain you or build you up? Are you planning to contribute something to this world right now or you're just satisfied with leaving this universe without a trace like most people do? If you chose to do nothing with your life, then it will be good for us to put a sentence under your name which says, "Not used up". Another man once said, "The most important day in your life is the day you remember why you were born".

The world as it exists right now have got no shortage of people telling you what to do and what your passion is, but if you stop for a second and listen to your heart, you'll find your reason for existence. I am not saying that following your heart would be easy, and that is why I have dedicated my time in writing this book to help you figure out your divine purpose and work towards it in a way that you'll never require a tombstone. "True legacy is not in buildings or projects but in people themselves".

If you are lazy, there would always be excuses about why you are where you are, you can always point figures at someone else and say that someone else has it better, but at the end of the day, it's you who chooses to watch TV, to watch YouTube and to browse Facebook when you know you should be doing something productive with your time.

After reading this book, you'll be able to understand all the expected responsibilities in every moment of your lifetime and how to improve your overall livelihood from the inside-out.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Makomborero Chingomah
• Release date: Nov 17, 2023
• ISBN: 9798223623472

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INTRODUCTION.

When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways. (1 Corinthians 13 Vs 11).

During the growth process from infancy, a man’s responsibilities will gradually increase with time. Their magnitude is directly proportional to his current station in life and inversely proportional to his ability to handle them. Accepting one’s responsibilities is in his/her circle of influence and people with that greater ability are said to be mature.

Mature people have got a perfect balance between courage and consideration because they know how to express their feelings and convictions with courage balanced with consideration of the other person’s feelings and convictions. They are not afraid to step outside their comfort zones and try new things regardless of external obstacles. Apart from their boldness, these people will always do their best not to hate other people’s feeling because they clearly understand the dangers of creating emotional enemies to both their lifetimes and relationships. Steven Covey in his book The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People said, Mature people think Win/Win or No deal.

A mature friend does not complain, condemn or criticize. He always looks on the brighter side of every situation and his whole personality is an inspiration to those around him. Such a friend will at all times stay in his circle of influence in making positive changes because he values his time to waste it blaming other people for his misfortunes. This character particularly follows the most popular proverb which says, TIME IS MONEY.

Throughout the Dependent Stage (Childhood), most parents do shield their children away from responsibilities. They unconsciously do that as a sign of love/affection and hope of strengthening their relationship bond, but what they do not understand is that, safeguarding children from certain responsibilities have got long term negative effects to their lifetimes. These negative forces, if not proactively dealt with can destructively affect everyone in the relationship, as King Solomon in Proverbs said, A foolish (Irresponsible) son is ruin to his father, but a wise (Responsible) son brings joy to the family. Responsibility and wisdom work together for good.

Adult who have been shielded away from responsibilities in their childhood do not understand life completely. They compare the fantasy of the movies, which lacks descriptions to real life situations. In real life, the only qualities that make people get what they want is a stronger desire, faith, patience and an independent will to take responsibilities. Unfortunately, when a lot of people finally come face to face with these realities, most of them will start looking for shortcutting ways to meet their desires, and by so doing deviating from their true purposes in life.

Irresponsible people are physically and mentally lazy. They possess stronger desires but are not willing to work and learn because of their negative mental conditioning and wrong expectations. Such people accept defeat without protest and when they fail, they make a lot of excuses to cover up their lack. Because of their little education, these people possess a greater tendency of blaming other people for their failures. The government, the bad economy and their parents are all behind their misfortunes.  Of course, these people’s logical reasons and complains might make sense, but the truth is, If you can’t take full control and responsibility of your life and its outcomes, you’re already doomed.

People with lazy habits are driven by imaginary fears and superstitious beliefs which by neglect makes their minds highly dependent on external forces. If you criticize these people, they will become emotionally unstable even to an extend of experiencing high mental pressure. Failure to irresponsible people is serious disaster because to them, it is an indication of permanent weakness, and because of that, they generally refuse to be accountable for bad outcomes even if they are the ones responsible. Such characters find it difficult to follow Robert Green’s advice which says, Repeated failure will toughen your spirit and show you with absolute clarity how things must be done.

On the other hand, responsible people are self-leaners who are driven by positive emotions. They concentrate in their circle of influence in making positive changes and when they face challenge, they do not complain emotionally or give up too easily. Because of their courage, they usually learn from their slipups and in no time lifts themselves to higher positions. People in this category are magnets of extraordinary opportunities, and their ability to learn, improve and streamline cannot be matched by any negative force. They are generally happy, successful and more pleasant to be around because they focus their minds on the positive side of every situation and devote their time in figuring out unique solutions to problems.

Responsible people clearly understand that, failure is not failure until you stop trying, and by trying out the hard stuff with faith, a person can turn around his/her life in a positive direction.

Human beings’ destructive tendency to shy away from challenges is one of the main reasons why most of them spends their entire lifetimes in deep poverty and complicated relationships. Negative emotions such as fear and greed will always be at the center of their minds, and whenever they try something new, they are more likely to fail due to their lack of faith.

Learning to take responsibilities is a step by step process that begins in early childhood, and depending on the mind quality of the programming elders, a youngster can grow up to become a responsible citizen, parent, friend and workmate.

NOTE: It’s definitely not your fault or an excuse if you were negatively programmed in your upbringing because once you reach the Independent Stage, nobody will still be in control for your life and its outcomes.  

Responsibility and Time are directly related and the knowledge of expected responsibilities at any given moment of your lifetime is of utmost importance. So, the plan of this book is to equip you with such knowledge and to provide you with some practical steps to figure out your divine purpose.

TIME.

Time is the inevitable progression into the future with the passing of present events into the past.

We have an understanding of how time works in a physical way but they are still philosophical questions behind the mysteries of time.

Though Time and Space works perfectly together, the two have got completely different operational properties. Space is generally described as the location of things in the world and is usually treated as somehow more important or relevant to what the universe is, whereas time is just a label that tells us which moment of the universe we are talking about.

The universe as we know it is a four dimensional quantity that consists of both space and time. The stuff around us and the stuff inside of space doesn’t have any rules about what comes next to everything else. For example, If you know what’s happening at one location, you can’t exactly predict what will happen at another location right next to it. Time on the other hand have rules about what comes one moment after the other, and that’s exactly how the laws of physics work. If you can tell me what the world is doing right now, the laws of physics can predict what will happen next.

The laws of physics start from a moment, they start from a state of the universe at one instant in time and through patterns, they’ll tell you what happens at each subsequent moment. These laws have got a fantastic feature that what happens at one moment is enough to predict what will happen at the next moment, and the next all the way towards the future.

We move through space as we like, we can choose to go to some other locations in space but we can’t choose to go to other locations in time. This is primarily because time is smooth and continuers, and we can only move through it at a constant rate of one second per second. These facts about time also gives us another perspective of what the world really is.

We think of different locations in space as absolutely real whether or not we are there, but if we think about time, the past and the future are a bit imaginary. We think of the universe right now as existing and the past as over with. We don’t think of the past as real in the same way that the present is, and we certainly do not agree that the future is just as real. The important thing however is not to figure out what’s real or not, but to wonder why we treat the past and future so differently.

If the three dimensions of space; length, width and height are married to the single dimension of time, we will obtain a quantity that we certainly use every day which is called Space-Time/Universe. For example, If you plan to meet with someone for launch, you’ll have to give him the three-dimensional location of the restaurant in space (the address) and the time to meet him there. Through space-time, we begin to think that the past and present are real and the future just not yet. There is nothing more special about the present moment compared to the past except you’re experiencing it right now.

This space-time conclusion also fits in very well with our notion to make choices about the future and not the past. No one can make choices about what to have done yesterday but we can all make choices on what to do tomorrow. Therefore, the past is fixed, it’s in the books, it’s real, but the future is still flexible and uncertain, and we can only approach it with faith and hope that it is going to be real.

"It’s not time itself that treats