Relationship Workbook for Couples: A Guide to Deeper Connection, Trust, and Intimacy for Couples - Young and Old
By Rachel Stone
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It may seem obvious to you that good communication is the foundation of every healthy, functioning relationship.
Good communication skills will positively impact all of the relationships in your life, but this audiobook will focus primarily on the practices that will have the greatest impact on the unique bond you shar
Rachel Stone
Rachel Stone writes stories of hope and redemption, often set against vibrant Canadian backdrops. Her writing placed first in the 2022 OBOA Writing Contest and has appeared in international literary and visual arts magazines, journals and blogs. Rachel holds degrees in psychology and industrial relations and once worked seven summers at a flower market. Rachel lives near Toronto with her family, and on weekends you'll find her along the southern shore of Georgian Bay, belting nineties pop rock off-key from her paddle-board. The Blue Iris is her first novel.
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Relationship Workbook for Couples - Rachel Stone
Table of Contents
Table of Contents
Introduction
Chapter 1: Communication Guidelines
Communication Ground Rules
Designing Your Own Rules
Chapter 2: Setting the Mood
Chapter 3: The Obvious
Questions
The Ultimates
List
Perceptions: How We See Ourselves and Each Other
Describing Yourself
What Your Partner Sees in You
Comparing and Contrasting Perceptions of Shared Experience
Chapter 4: The Little
Questions
The Devil is in the Details
The Little
Questions — Preferences and Personality
More Little
Questions — Experience and Emotion
Chapter 5: The Big Picture
Questions
Miracle Questions
Ranking Priorities
Values
Chapter 6: The Past
Questions
Attachment Theory
Your Childhood
Relationship History
Chapter 7: The Future
Questions
Where are we headed as individuals?
Where are we headed as a couple?
Maintaining the Self in a Partnership
Chapter 8: The Touchy
Questions
Communication Guidelines for Ideological Disputes
Personal Sensitivities
The Broken Record
The Touchy
Questions
Putting Theory into Practice
Moving Forward
Chapter 9: The Touchy Feely
Questions
Enjoying Emotional Intimacy
Improving Physical Intimacy
Chapter 10: Maintaining the Magic
Brainstorming New Activities Together
Get Your Heart Racing
What makes us work?
Creating a Connection Ritual
Conclusion
My Other Books
About the author
Introduction
Congratulations on purchasing this "Relationship Workbook for Couples," and thank you for doing so.
The following chapters will provide you with useful insights into what makes any romantic partnership successful and satisfying; furthermore, it will arm you with a number of strategies, tools, questionnaires, and quizzes to discover, pursue, and realize your personal relationship goals. You’ll find guided questions to help you learn more about yourself, your partner, the unique relationship you share, and how to keep it thriving for many years to come.
This book was designed with the intention of making the concepts of couples’ therapy accessible to those who cannot find the time, money, or transport to reach a therapist’s office. It also aims to make this work as simple, easy, and enjoyable as possible. Some chapters may pose challenging questions that expose difficulties in your relationship, while many others will offer fun, stress-free interactive exercises that you’ll want to incorporate into date nights or lazy weekend mornings together.
The concepts included can be applied to any relationship, whether your partnership is weeks, months, years, or decades old. You'll find activities designed for couples to use together, but you'll also find questionnaires to complete on your own which will help you to clarify your goals, both as an individual and as half of a partnership. This is a great book to keep handy at your bedside table or to carry with you and squeeze in a few minutes of relationship work wherever and whenever you can find time.
There are plenty of books on this subject on the market, so thank you again for choosing this one! Every effort was made to ensure it is full of as much useful information as possible, please enjoy!
Chapter 1: Communication Guidelines
It may seem obvious to you that good communication is the foundation of every healthy, functioning relationship. All romantic connections are built, in essence, on physical attraction and discourse; and while physical attraction is a mysterious science, requiring the cooperation of good timing, good lighting, hormones, and perhaps even the correct alignment of celestial bodies, communication is an aspect of our relationship that is always entirely in our hands. At any time or place, in the company of any person, we can strive to do better with our words, tone, and body language. No matter what external factors may perturb or distract us, we can practice better-listening habits. Though we cannot control what happens to us, we can always control our reactions. We can shape the world around us through becoming better communicators, learning how to ask for the reactions we want, avoid unnecessary confusion, and manage any conflicts that may arise.
Good communication skills will positively impact all of the relationships in your life, but this book will focus primarily on the practices that will have the greatest impact on the unique bond you share with your partner. You can aim to use these tools throughout your personal life, with friends and co-workers and family members--but regardless of how you incorporate these ideas into your day-to-day life, you and your partner should make a concerted effort to use these skills as you complete any of the questionnaires, quizzes or activities you find in this book. You may find a number of the questions to be challenging or provocative--they are intended to be! But you will find that with a toolbox of positive communication skills and a game plan to handle conflict, even the most nerve-wracking discussions will become manageable with your partner. Perhaps they’ll even become easy and comfortable, once you are well-practiced with these skills.
It’s recommended that both partners read this chapter on communication, as well as chapter two, before diving into any workbook activities. If your partner isn’t able to read these chapters, you can instead ask them to share a conversation about what you’ve learned. You may also want to review the questions at the end of this chapter with your partner in order to tailor the communication skills outlined here to your unique personalities. Some rules for effective communication can be applied with a one-size-fits-all mentality, while others may need to be altered to suit the individuals in question.
Now, let’s communicate!
I could start you off with some of the same basics of good communication you’d find in any book about improving your relationship--how to make eye contact and be an active listener, how to use I feel
statements and avoid pointing the finger of blame at your partner, and so on. But since you purchased this book rather than the others, let me start with a concept that might strike you as somewhat radical, and then together, we can work backward to see how this theory works in practice.
Ready? Braced yourself? Okay, here we go.
Disagreements do not have to be conflicts.
And furthermore, conflicts don’t have to become fights.
If you’re lucky, this idea may not be too difficult for you to swallow. Many of us display a firm grasp on this concept with people who don’t hold too large a piece of our hearts in their hands; we are often able to disengage from unproductive or antagonistic interactions with strangers or acquaintances, choosing to shrug our shoulders and say: This isn’t worth getting riled over.
Most of us are quite young when we first hear the phrase pick your battles,
and since the concept is so familiar, we assume that we have mastered it, more or less, by the time we reach adulthood.
Since communication is something, we learn as small children, and use pretty much every day of our lives, it's easy to take our own communication habits for granted. As any relationship, whether romantic, platonic, familial or professional, grows over time, we eventually become blinded to the nuanced ways in which we develop communicative cultures with one another. This means to say we may not be conscious of the fact that we use a different tone of voice when speaking to our significant other versus our parent, friend, boss, or clerk behind the counter at the corner store. We may not notice that we always use pleases,
thank yous
and excuse mes
with strangers and colleagues, while rarely extending the same courtesies to those we spend the most time with. We might not be aware that we exude positivity to our friends while wallowing in negative emotions behind closed doors with our loved ones. Most importantly, we may not recognize that we use a different set of rules in communicating with our partners than those we use with other people.
The first step in becoming a better communicator is finding the will to self-reflect. Are you mindful of where your eyes are focused when you speak to your partner, your boss, your grocery clerk? Does the pitch of your voice change when you are excited, distracted, stressed, or comfortable? How loud or quiet are you? And does this change in varied environments? In conversations, do you ask a lot of questions, or talk about yourself more? What do you do with your hands, mouth, eyes, while you’re listening? How deliberate is your communication behavior?
Whether you come to recognize your own behaviors by simply making an effort to further your self-awareness, or you need direct feedback from others, you’ll probably encounter a few moments of discomfort, and the impulse to become defensive or dismissive.