It's OK to Feel Like This...!: Suppressed Thoughts of an Introvert

By Monique Worgess

Do you ever catch yourself thinking “Why am I always prioritising myself last?” I bet you have had this thought a few times. There’s vast power in the choices we make. We all experience pain, but it’s how we choose to deal with it that makes the real impact in our lives and on those around us. If you continually avoid that deep-seated pain, it will eventually emerge when you least expect it.

In It’s Ok to Feel Like This, author Monique Worgess explores some simple ideas about how you can start to prioritize yourself again. Developing the right mindset is key, so focusing on yourself must become the priority in your day-to-day living.

Through her personal story, Worgess shares the importance of taking a moment to be still with oneself, stop avoiding the pain from your past, and reap the benefits of a true journey of self-discovery.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press UK
• Release date: Aug 29, 2023
• ISBN: 9781982287313

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It’s OK to Feel

Like This...!

SUPPRESSED THOUGHTS

OF AN INTROVERT

Monique Worgess

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Balboa Press rev. date: 08/29/2023

To my mom, sister, and grandmother.

You all have been instrumental in my

journey to where I am today, and I sincerely

thank you all for that beautiful blessing!

Contents

Preface

Introduction

Chapter 1    Introvert!

Chapter 2    Am I Free?

Chapter 3    Did It Start Here?

Chapter 4    Is Low Self-Esteem an Excuse?

Chapter 5    Emerging and Healing

Appendix: Healing Process Starter Checklist

About the Author

Preface

Inexcusable is the word that has been vividly ingrained in my mind since the day the dark figure came into my life. The dark figure knew the power they had and really put effort into abusing it repeatedly. I’ve always wanted to write about my experience of the absurd treatment I endured from the dark figure from a young age. I thought about it for many years, but my good friend procrastination always kicked in. Has procrastination been a friend of yours too? I was thinking so negatively of myself back then. Had I written the book then, I would have been far too bitter, and it would have been too fresh. Shamelessly, I had recurring thoughts of removing the dark figure from the face of the earth, as I just could not understand why it was happening to me.

Even sixteen years later, some hurt behaviour had trickled through the years, and of course, the common denominator was me. This was definitely a daunting feeling. I was cornered into a place where I was forced to address everything I was stubbornly running from. Because of my lack of trust, my inability to connect with others, my openly reserved behaviour, my lack of expression, and my survivor mentality, I even branded myself as the antisocial queen. I was blind to how damaging it was to say that to people when I first met them. I had this fear of being around people, as I felt that everyone could potentially hurt me, so I would mentally escape before that could happen. Does this sound like you?

I created a narrative around why I needed to protect myself and justified it with what I would call my cushion excuses. My behaviour affected many of my relationships, but I was oblivious to it at the time. Once I finally acknowledged that what I was doing was not beneficial to me, I needed to do some unlearning. I started to listen to a wide range of podcasts, and I started to read again. I certainly was not a fan of reading, but I knew I needed to create some new habits. The key message I took away from my new wealth of information was that I have the power within the choices I make, and you do too.

Everyone has gone through something, but what is important is what we choose to do in spite of it. Instead, I was internally using my story to severely impede myself. The career break really helped me to slow down, and as I mention in the book, it was time that I had not known I needed. I had been constantly on the go; you could not get me to slow down. It was not in my nature, or so I’d told myself. I’d intentionally made sure that I was always so busy that I would never have time to address myself. With the break, however, I now had the time, so I could no longer escape thinking. It made me so appreciative. I started to enjoy myself again. I am actively working on myself, which feels great, and with the mindset I have acquired, it can only go up from here. I’m excited.

Introduction

Have you ever felt afraid to express your deepest inner musings and feelings in a live moment? You may have felt out of sync with how everyone else around you was feeling. The fear of feeling judged, of being misunderstood, of being the odd one out, and of going against the grain was battling your own principles and beliefs about not wanting to follow the crowd but rather to express your originality and uniqueness. This could be around friends, family, work colleagues, or your significant other. This has been my story, and I would like to offer my truth to support you, nudge you, or extend some comfort in whatever form you may allow me to. We all have the right and need to be able to express ourselves wholeheartedly in our own special ways without discernment. However, it took me a long time to come to that realisation, and sadly, some people never get there.

Will this be you? What you have to offer is necessary! We were all orchestrated differently for the benefit of ourselves and others, so what good is it if we feel caged in our thoughts? We are all blessings to each other in various ways, and it is now time that we embrace our uniqueness and utilise it to inspire authenticity in those around us. Everyone has a struggle that they feel consumed by, so being able to express oneself freely without being analysed is a key need. Choosing not to express yourself is OK but only if it is a choice. If you feel you cannot express yourself for any reason other than choice, just know that that is not OK. Also, if you choose not to express yourself, take a second to evaluate your reason for not doing so to ensure that you are comfortable with it; that limits the possible regrets you may have in the