Betrayal in the Church: The Bishop and My Wife

By Glenn Williams

Glenn's marriage was all but over due to his wife having an affair with his best friend and mentor who just happen to be his pastor. As bishop over several churches in the United States, he was a role model for Glenn and his wife. In this book Glenn vividly communicates the agony & brokenness that came with the discovery of adultery & th

• Language: English
• Publisher: Primix Publishing
• Release date: Aug 4, 2023
• ISBN: 9798887032689

Glenn Williams

I grew in Fort Worth,Texas,in a very religious Pentecostal background,from an very early age.It was almost my whole life.Then i fail in love with tennis,and went to Grambling State University on a full athletic tennis scholalship.I played professional tennis,and my highest world ranked was 669.Was a songwriter,keyboard player,and now author.

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Published by Primix Publishing: 08/04/2023

ISBN: 979-8-88703-267-2(sc)

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Contents

The Affair

The Anger and the Thoughts

David and Uriah

When the Damage has Been Done

When Love Didn’t Have Anything To Do With It

How Did It Affect the Children?

Life Today Show with James and Betty Robison

Bishop T.D. Jakes and the Potter’s House

Growing Pains, Purpose, and God’s Will for Our Lives

The Great Love I Have for the Church and My Thoughts on Tradition and Religion

The Remnant – A Troubled Marriage

Patience and A Threshold for Pain

My Role as A Father

My Wife and Her Pain

When Your Fear is Greater than Your Faith

My Friend, Brad

Experiences that Promote Fellowship

I would like to dedicate this book to my family. My children, Faaith, Daavid, and Chaarity, have been such strong troopers in this campaign to complete this project. Also to my wife of 40 years, who the devil swore to separate me from. I love you more now than ever before, because I know me more, and most importantly I know God more. There were many people that helped me, and I promise you I will miss some one if I was to go back 30 plus years to list everyone. Thanks to everyone that had a part in our healing and our success. God bless, and God respect to you and yours.

The foreword to this book was written by a man of God that I have come to respect and appreciate beyond measure. He is a man of deep passion, and sincere love for God. There are no words to express how much I appreciate him. Thank you so much Apostle Stacy Spencer.

After being in Memphis, Tennessee for 2 years and counting we finally found a church that we were comfortable with. I personally thought that it was too hip hop, but the word of God was outstanding. My kids and wife loved it, but because of my strong religious upbringing, I felt that it was way too liberal. This ministry would soon change my life forever. It was so real, sincere, honest and fun. Pastor Stacy, preached with such conviction. I would often see and hear him preach his own real pain, with crocodile tears flowing from his eyes. It changed me. I felt like I didn’t have to hide any more, and that I could start to heal. He also challenged my religious/ traditional/self-righteous side. I didn’t even know that it was there, but it was and it had to be dealt with.

Now I know that I am the righteousness of God through Jesus Christ. No longer do I have to feel bad because of my shortcomings, and no longer do I have to keep coming up short, because of what Jesus did.

Forward by Stacy L. Spencer

Surviving betrayal in marriage has always been one of the hardest things to deal with much less share with the public. Often times, we think of women who have had to deal with the ripping of the heart by their husbands who have gone off to commit adultery behind their back. In this book we see first hand that men also suffer from the hurt of betrayal. For many generations now, it has almost been accepted that extra-martial relationships are part of the norm of society with TV shows like Desperate Housewives, and the many soap operas filled with betrayal in relationships. What is missing though is the transparency of people who have survived that betrayal and ultimately how to deal with the hurt from a Christian perspective.

Glenn Williams has dealt openly and honestly about his struggle to overcome the hurt of being caught up in a love triangle with his Bishop and his wife. One cannot imagine the double sided hurt of adultery involving one’s soul mate and the one who should be looking after your soul. There hasn’t been a more honest look into the window of inner church hurt than with this book by Glenn. He takes you from the initial discovery and the unfolding layers of hurt that he has had to pull back in order to recover.

There is an African proverb that says, You cannot heal that which you try to conceal. So many people walk around trying to hide their scars but like Jesus. Glenn asks you to put your finger in his wounds so you can learn from his pain.

This is a redemptive journey through the life of a husband and a wife who fight the very imps and demons of hell in order to get back a marriage that many would have abandoned. This book is a real look at how Christians survive the worse betrayal one can imagine by living out the principles that many of us only sing and preach about but have never had to put them into practice. Glenn’s book shows us that we can do ALL things through Christ who strengthens us. No matter where you are in your marriage or relationship, there is hope for you as you read about this couples journey back from hell and heartbreak. They personify what the Psalmist said in chapter 139:7-8, Where can I go from your Spirit? Where can I flee from your presence? If I go up to the heavens, you are there; if in make my bed in the depths, you are there." How many of us through bad decisions in our marriage have made our beds in hell? How many times have we hurt the ones we love the most only to discover our beds are in hell? I’m glad that Glenn Williams takes us on the road to recovery and doesn’t leave us there.

It is through forgiveness, prayer, crying, counseling, and soul searching that Glenn leads us back to restoration where all those who have been wounded by adultery can say like the writer of Hebrews, MARRIAGE should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure. After reading this book you will hear Jesus asking the woman who was caught in adultery in John 8, Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you? no one, sir, she said. then neither do I condemn you, Jesus declared. Go now and leave your life of sin.

Stacy L. Spencer

Chief Apostle Officer

Preface

I’m forty-five years old, and I just recently watched the story of the Williams’ family. It featured Venus and Serena Williams--the number one and two players in the World of Women’s Tennis. They have completely shattered the record books, much like Tiger Woods and Michael Jordan in their respective sports.

After viewing the DVD on the Williams family, I became a little curious to know if we were related in anyway. Our last names are the same, we both have prematurely gray hair, and we both love tennis. So, I called my Dad. I wasn’t entirely sure if his last name was really Williams, and soon my suspicion was confirmed. Not only was I not related to the Williams sisters, but also my last name only came to be from my father’s mother. I can’t even remember what he said it was before it was changed. My mom’s family wasn’t much different in terms of ancestry. To my parents’ credit, they have done an awesome job in raising us. I believe that whatever you lacked as a child you will tend to give more to your own children. For example, my dad lacked education; therefore, he stressed education. My mom loves family because she had only a few whole relatives in her life. We, as black people born in America, are bits and pieces of a whole lot of things.

As I was talking with my Dad, whom I love and honor, he told me to leave the past in the past and to start from the present to make something of it now. This was not the first time I had received this advice from him.

I wanted to know where I came from and about the past, so I will know how it affects my future. Without it, I have nothing to share with my kids, and the knowledge of my ancestry could perish with my parents. I wanted to understand why I have been drawn to lustful sin, when I have the love of God in my heart. Why does my pride still get in the way? Why is intimacy and harmony with my wife so difficult at times? Other than my brother, sisters, my mom and my dad, I don’t know if I have any full blood relatives alive. I’m afraid to ask. With all of the heartaches and frustrations, I still believe the truth is best. I would rather know the truth than live with an unknown heritage that implies something different.

My parents did their best to raise me right and to prepare me for manhood. I love them deeply and will always be grateful for their love and devotion to our family. Soon they will be celebrating 50 years of marriage, to which all of us are looking forward.

My maternal grandmother on my mother’s side was one of the pillars of the Church in the 1940’s. She served tirelessly in all aspects of the church ministry. Her love of people and the Church was the legacy that has fed our family. It was this legacy that changed my father’s life when he met my mother.

My Dad kept a picture of a young girl in his truck for as long as I can remember. We all wondered who she was, but we never asked. He didn’t offer an explanation of who she was, so we thought she was family; she looked unmistakably like my Dad. It wasn’t until I was in my teens that I learned that she was my half-sister. My older sister already knew that we had other siblings and threatened to tell us if my Dad did not confront the issue. Dad finally told us the truth about them. At