A Holy Marriage: A Guidebook on Marriage & Relationships

By Dr. Gerri Savala Gold

A HOLY MARRIAGE IS A HELPER AND GUIDEBOOK FOR THE PEOPLE THAT ARE BLINDLY FEELING THEIR WAY THROUGH A RELATIONSHIP AND/OR MARRIAGE. READ THIS BOOK FIRST BEFORE YOU DECIDE TO GO ANY FURTHER WITH THE PERSON YOU ARE DATING OR EVEN THINKING ABOUT MARRYING.

A Holy Marriage explains the true meaning of a righteous and sacred co

• Language: English
• Publisher: Trilogy Christian Publishing
• Release date: Oct 6, 2023
• ISBN: 9798887387475

Dr. Gerri Savala Gold

Dr. Gerri Savala Gold is a humanitarian who grew up in the southern state of Texas. A divorced mother of four biological sons and a foster mom of four other children, she is inspired by the love she shares with them. With experience in philosophy, psychology, sociology, anger management counseling, and pastoral leadership, Dr. Gerri Savala Gold feels honored to share with the readers her spiritual and natural take on what is needed and required of us to achieve and maintain a holy relationship and/or marriage. A special thank you to the readers and blessings to you always.

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A Holy Marriage

A GUIDEBOOK on Marriage

& Relationships

Dr. Gerri Savala Gold

Trilogy Christian Publishers

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A Holy Marriage: A Guidebook on Marriage & Relationships

Copyright © 2023 by Dr. Gerri Savala Gold

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Sneak Peek

Well, it’s about time you got home. I’ve been waiting for you all day. You could have at least called or texted. We had dinner two hours ago. Yours is still on the table. You can heat it up in the microwave if you want it. Good night, I’m going to bed. He said nothing, passed by the table, ate a slice of bread, and went straight to the shower. I’m not sure if he even looked at me.

Note: Some of the names in this book have been changed for privacy’s sake.

Dedication

In loving memory of my late father and mother.

Sylvester and his loving wife, Lauretta.

A true example of A Holy Marriage.

Acknowledgments

I would like to thank all the people that helped to make this book possible.

First, I give all praises and honor to God, Jesus, the Holy Ghost, and the Holy Trinity.

To TBN in all of its wonder and glory. Mark, all the staff that helped with this book, thanks. To my gold hearts on social media, I could not have done this without your encouragement.

To my boys: Jay, Chris, Drayson, and Juran. To God be the glory for all He has done for you. To my sisters: Jacquelyn, Antoinetta, Cynthia, Laura, Marlene, Pamala, and the Monroes. To my brothers: George, Michael, Paul, and Timothy. To Presley and Dianne, the Obamas.

To Nichole, Cynthia, Laura, Wanda, Vonda, Renea, Marlene, the Askews, Carolynn, Anita, VP Harris, Felicia, Lacy, Anaijah, Jaylin, Melody, Pink, Granny Martin, and Rick, my heart.

Amber, Kimberly, Nichole, Christina, Germani, Jamyuia, Jernovia, Ashley, Kandice.

Nephews & prayer warriors: Big Derrick, Warren, Zavier, Marlon, Brandon, Conrad, DJ.

To Harvest Christian University, my alumni, Dr. Carl Robertson, Jonathan, Judy, and the Girls.

To Pastor Joan Osborn and The Temple of God: Jacquelyn Craven, Barbra Coleman.

To Burrell Lane, Marietta, Rita, Ron, Mr. Reynolds, Sandra, Ashura, Marsha, Wilma, and Cynthia.

To my sons: Christopher, Drayson, Juran, Toni Jay Germon, Dylan Bubba, Demond, and Shun. To nephews & nieces (Sylvia, 19), Marlon, Derrick, Conrad, Brandon, and George Jr. Desmond.

To CJ Bro Bro and Amir, Amber, DJ & Pink, Hi’ C, Kye, Gray, Angelica, Daniel, Tenna, and John.

To my little girls, the loves of my life: Lacy, Pretty Princess, Germani, Jamayia, Janovia, Joy, Christina, Breshonna, Maranda, Precious, Kandice, Daniell, PaPa, Page, Precious, Rayah.

Special note: Thanks to editor and friend Dr. Terrence Huberty, Iris & George, and Pepper.

To Pastor Timothy and Arzetta Henderson, Aunt Rose, Way of Life family ministry, Mildred. To Pastor Charles and Lesley Beard, Lady, Charles Jr., Willie Steward, Abaration, and Jeffery.

To my daughter, Sugar Nichole! And Najil, thank y’all for your support and inspiration.

Again: I love you. All of you have been instrumental, encouraging, and inspiring to me.

This book was inspired by: God the Father, Jesus the Son, and the Holy Spirit.

Contents

Preface

A Holy Marriage

Introduction

The Holy Trinity

The Love of Jesus

A Holy Marriage: A Spiritual Guide, A Relationship Tool

The Five Different Types of Marriages

A Spiritual Guide to a Holy Marriage

This Is My Story

How Did I Marry the Wrong Person? Dr. Gerri Gold’s Story

Taking Emotional Responsibility for What We Must Do

How Do We Find Healing for a Sick Marriage?

The Love of God

A Holy Marriage (Part 2)

A Holy Life

This Is Our Story

The Brokenness and Struggles of Life

How to Live a Holy Life: Let’s Review

Take Care of the Spirit Mind: The Holy Mind

Falling Short in Giving—Oh, No...

Preface

A H0ly Marriage: A Spiritual Guide on Marriage and Relationships includes the breakdown of the trinity within the divine covenant between man, woman, and God. The most important of all things is that we love God truly because He certainly loves us unconditionally. Also, in this guide, I have given you a very down-to-earth and spiritual approach to marriage. When viewing the marriages of a few of my personal friends and family members, I noticed that very few of them have achieved the spirituality needed to survive their own marriages. As I sit back and watch myself included and many of my friends and family members make countless mistakes in their approach to marriage. I could no longer observe this and do nothing. I began to analyze the different relationships and marital situations of my friends and loved ones. I also begin to seek God for answers. In doing so, I discovered that we were all living beneath our spiritual privileges. God’s Word said He had so much more to share with us. Because of God’s voice. I was inspired to write this book and try to challenge the high levels of divorces with the power of knowledge. As I’m writing right now, the rate seems to be doubling. By the time I publish this book, the divorce rate will be even higher. I can’t give you a real-time percentage of divorces in my city, state, country, or even the world. The numbers of separations, break ups, and divorces are simply too devastatingly high. We are now experiencing an alarming rate so extreme that statistics are no longer capable of keeping up. But what we do know now is that we have hope in glory, and His name is Jesus. He is our Savior and our blessed source to cancel the enemy’s assignment. Yes, the enemy wants to destroy the family. He believes if he disconnects the family, he can disconnect the church. But God says no. He inspired me to write this book so that I could petition the family and encourage them. Family, hold on, don’t give up, your blessings are here, keep the faith, love and support each other, and most of all, don’t forget the family prayer. God will always meet you there. When times get rough and hard to bear, don’t forget the family prayer. In writing this guide, my references came from God, Webster, my editors, Bible.com, Google, and Siri. I consulted with Siri for scriptures and topic information. I observed my friends and family. The Holy Bible—the King James Version. I refrained from reading any other books. I only wanted to hear the voice. I listened to many different gospel songs to inspire me and set my spiritual atmosphere.

A Holy Marriage

The Holy Spirit did not give me the information for the complete contents of this book until I started to fast, pray, and seek His face. The first thing He gave me was this powerful title, A Holy Marriage. Once, the Lord received me and consecrated me. I just started to write, and the words began to flow like rivers of living water. I knew for me to truly hear His voice, I had to sacrifice and set aside some quiet time just for Him and me. This was when I decided to go on a spiritual consecration. The next thing I did was sit down, and He just told me what to write. These words are straight from God’s mouth, my heart, and into your soul. There was nothing I could do that was more important than writing this book. I had a lot of challenges and setbacks, but that was okay; however, look at us now. I was determined to write this book no matter what I was going through, and it was a lot. I prayed and said to Him, I’m available to You as Your vessel; use me, Lord, to show Your people the way. He wants to love and encourage you, and most of all, He desires to mend your broken heart with the words from this book.

Now that I have written this book, my soul is full, and it is time to rejoice. I pray that your soul will be set free to rejoice with me.

According to Leviticus 25:13 (KJV), In the year of this jubile ye shall return every man unto his possession.

I have had many disappointments in life. I have lost many things naturally and spiritually. Things that were very dear and valuable to me. Although I experienced a lot of inner pain and disappointments, I held on to my faith and yet loved God. Once you hear my testimony, you will understand the reasons why God chose me to write this book. You will understand why I now have the victory. I feel that God has given me an interesting yet unique view concerning the Bible and its principles concerning you, your relationship, and your marriage.

God has an intense desire to be a part of your covenant life. I believe this is the true foundation supporting the concept of this book. In this book, we will go from the natural to the spiritual and on into the supernatural. If you are looking for some answers from God concerning holiness as a lifestyle, you are going to love and enjoy this guide.

There are many serious misconceptions in life relating to a loving relationship, marriage, and divorce. These misconceptions are:

You should live together first to see if it is going to work first.

You know, test the car before you buy it.

It doesn’t matter who, what, or where you marry if you are happy.

Marriage is a permit to have all the intimacy you want.

Marriage is a way to have somebody take care of you.

I can get financial support if I get married.

I need someone to help me take care of my kids.

I do not want to be lonely.

It really does not matter to God who I date.

Who I marry is my business, not God’s.

It is okay with God to get a divorce if it is legal.

Once you are married, you are trapped for life.

These misconceptions are some of the main reasons why our marriages are short-lived and are constantly being recycled.

Within this book, you will find the real and true reasons for how and why God has ordained marriage as an act of holiness. You will find out the different approaches to marriage.

You will look at the positive effects a spiritual and holy marriage can have in your own personal lives. You will see how God made a spiritual change in my own personal life, a transition spiritually from death to life.

By purchasing this book, you have paid a small price to learn a huge and valuable lesson. Your first lesson is to learn and understand where the key is: A spiritual and holy marriage can be found. The key being the Word of God.

We find out who the spiritual guide really is. God the Father, Jesus Christ, through the power and the anointing of the Holy Ghost, all being one.

The Holy Trinity within the divine covenant, man, woman, and God. All should be one.

The most important of all things is the love of God that gives us that oneness. You will discover who has orchestrated your life. God. We find out who is assigned to escort us through our narrow paths (Jesus). Most of all, we hear other stories like our own. They share the pain and the laughter of their spiritual endeavors with us. I will introduce to you some of my own personal and unorthodox views concerning men and women in relationships to pre-marriage and post-marriage. I also will share with you my personal five universally recognized and pronounced approaches to marriage. The methodology I present to you is simply man’s outlook and then the God-given and theological approach. I share with you some of the most intimate and compelling love stories you will ever want to read. I will give you a prime example and first hands investigate my own mother and father’s emotional and spiritual battles. You will be able to read their before and happily ever after a successful marriage story.

You will witness in this book how a supernatural marriage is created by the powerful hands of God. I will expose the negative influences of the enemy to the world with the Word of God. I will map out the enemy’s plot to destroy every relationship, family, and marriage he possibly can. Best of all, I will give you in writing a booklet to carry with you everywhere you go to maintain your life and to present it as holy and acceptable unto God.

The purpose of this book is to allow you a look at what God has given me for us as a word, an eye-opener concerning relationships and marriage. This book is also a fresh look and hands-on, real-life experience of my own personal perspectives and struggles as I navigated life in my own personal marriage. I will try my best to open up and become as transparent as I can. This is mainly to expose my truth to you; this is all for the sake of my love of the cross. I sacrifice my own embarrassment so that you can see that there is room at the cross for all our relationships, courtships, friendships, and or our marriages.

As you read and I write, I am putting my life under the brightest microscope so that you and this world will know that if God can make me over despite who and what I was, what more can He do for someone wonderful like you? Then if that is not enough, He changes me and makes me over, creating in me a new life.

A step-by-step guide: how do we go from a stressed-out relationship to a spiritual and holy marriage? If nothing else, this guide will provide you with quick and easy answers to questions like how to establish a better walk with God, how to better your relationship with the person you love and care about, how to strengthen and rekindle your personal relationship with that someone special, and/or how do I add some vitality and fragrance to my marriage. What do you do when you need guidance while living a single life? What do you do when you need help in your struggling relationship, marriage, or divorce? This guide breaks down into small and easy terms; what it is that we need to do to maintain a spiritual life inside a holy marriage. For many of my close friends and loved ones, this guide is targeted to and for you. I want our families to stay together and love together. I hope that this guide will encourage you to take spiritual charge and change your life for the better, your relationships, your marriages, and, oh, yes, your divorces, too.

This guide also pinpoints salvation as our hope and glory for today and tomorrow. It points out why it is so important to live a life in Christ Jesus. We find out the relevance of becoming one in spirit while within your relationship as a partaker while sharing the body of Christ. I pray that you enjoy this book enough to carry it around with you. I hope you enjoy it enough to share it with someone you so dearly care about.

I pray that God’s passionate words will encourage you and be a lamp unto your feet and a light unto your pathway. A lot of the information in this book is my own spiritual interpretation and has not been influenced by anyone else, so I charge all controversy to my head and not my heart. May the Lord add a blessing to the readers and hearers of His Word.

In this book, we visit love, happiness, fear, anger, pain, frustration, bitterness, forgiveness, and so much more. Before you embrace the concept of a holy marriage, you have to borrow from the likes of, A Holy Life; this is a lifestyle we live supporting the words of Christ.

Be ye holy; for I am holy (1 Peter 1:16, KJV). What I want you to understand is that you do not have to keep giving birth to sorrow and pain. The seeds of anger can only manifest darkness unto death. You kill a relationship or a marriage by not allowing it nourishment and yielding it lightly. Consider these words nourishment, food for the heart and soul.

By allowing God to divinely reinvent us, yes, we are humbly submitting and surrendering ourselves to His power. We allow Him to empower our situations and aid our emotional battles.

It is like asking God for a spiritual and emotional makeover. He changes your heart, and then He creates calmness within your spirit. The way you normally handled an uncontrollable situation in the past is not the way that you handle it now that you are made over. You handle it in a more spiritual and forgiving way. You respond and act differently now, and your feelings are under control by a higher calling. When you have a problem now, you ask God for guidance and to help you to resolve and work things out according to His will.

Most of all, you face your fears and deal with them head-on. You no longer allow your problems to build up inside of you and blow up. You learn how to let go of your baggage and things that weigh you down. You look at the solution and not the problem. You follow the signs that lead you to peace of mind. You absolutely should not allow the enemy to manipulate you anymore and provoke you to anger. You, instead, are prepared with the loving Word of God. You learn how to forgive and forget by denouncing and forfeiting your rights to fester and waddle in your hurtful pain.

I woke up one morning and made an executive decision in my life. I will no longer let this fear, hatred, pain, anger, and begrudges rest and rule over portions of my life anymore. I ask God to carry it all away from me and give me my freedom. I decided to cut down and cut off anybody or anything that was going to separate me from the love of God. This was so much bigger, greater, and heart-reaching than what I had been taught to do in the past. I had to live, so I needed to take back my life by force. I was in too deep and could not see my way out. This became spiritual warfare; it was an operation of amputation, my God, today. I needed His help more than ever before. The bitterness and anger I struggled with had to be gutted out at the roots and cut out from its cores.

It had to be denounced and abandoned, left in an isolated wilderness, and simply detached from anything that would generate life. Kill it and leave it to rot and decay. Soon, it will wither away, turning into the very thing it longs to be, dirt.

Introduction

I want you to know that God is love, and Jesus loves us all. Jesus proved that love when He died for us on the cross. Some people want to pick and choose who should be loved and who should not be loved. Everyone has a chance and an opportunity to be loved by the holy one. However, until you open your heart to the Holy Spirit, it can’t come into your life. The Holy Spirit has heavenly standards, beliefs, and policies. God does not discriminate, and I don’t discriminate, either. It doesn’t matter what your race, color, national origin, sex, pride, religion, age, what church you go to, who your family is, what you eat, what you wear, what you drive, where you live, how much money you have or don’t have, where you work, who you work for, what your voting choice is. It doesn’t matter what your mental state is, what your values are, what your disability or ability is, your size, your shape, who you married, who you are dating, or what your past is. Finally, it doesn’t matter who you are; God loves you and wants you to be part of the life of Jesus Christ. The Holy Spirit wants and desires to have a holy covenant relationship with you.

What is it that the Holy Spirit of God wants you to know? He wants you to know that He is no respecter of a particular person. He is saying He loves us all, no matter who we are or where we are, and it does not matter what we have done.

He wants us to know that if you are willing and obedient to receive Jesus Christ as your personal