Conscious Boundaries: Develop More Choice About Your Emotional, Mental and Energetic Boundaries

By Astra Niedra

We're often told we should set better boundaries but that’s difficult if we don't know how.

If you find it challenging setting boundaries, such as being unable to say 'no' and letting things go when deep down you know you shouldn’t, or you over-react when pushed, then you are probably a kind, warm and accepting person.

When you manage to set a strong boundary you likely feel guilty, as if you’ve been selfish or rude and have hurt the other person’s feelings.

On the other hand, if you have no problem saying 'no' and keeping people at arms length, you might want to learn how to connect more intimately with others while maintaining the ability to keep yourself protected.

This little ebook explains what boundaries are and how to set them with greater consciousness - or choice. Using concepts from Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves you’ll learn how to recognise your primary, or default, way of setting boundaries and then how to draw on both new and hidden facets of yourself to balance and add options to your default reaction.

You’ll discover how your inner rule system, your inner critic and your vulnerable inner child all affect your boundary-setting style and you’ll gain tools to empower your boundary-setting ability.

About the author: Astra Niedra is an internationally-renowned teacher of the personal growth work Voice Dialogue, and is author of The Perfect Relationship, Which Self Are You? and Enlightenment Through Motherhood.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Astra Niedra
• Release date: May 18, 2023
• ISBN: 9798215709566

Astra Niedra

Astra Niedra is a facilitator and teacher of Voice Dialogue and the Psychology of Selves, a unique approach to personal growth that involves working with the parts, or inner selves, of the psyche.Voice Dialogue leads to greater awareness, understanding and compassion (for oneself and others), inner balance and wholeness, and ultimately more conscious choice in how we express ourselves and lead our lives.Through her website and books Astra shares how to use the life-transforming ideas from Voice Dialogue in day-to-day living.You'll find help with relationships of all types, decision-making, stress-relief, balancing competing needs, perfectionism and inner criticism, creative expression, parenting, and more.The founders of Voice Dialogue, Drs Hal and Sidra Stone, highly recommend Astra's work, and the late Shakti Gawain considered Voice Dialogue one of the most powerful tools she had ever discovered.

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A Voice Dialogue in Daily Life Short Read

Conscious Boundaries

Develop More Choice About Your Emotional, Mental and Energetic Boundaries

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Astra Niedra

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Copyright 2023 Astra Niedra

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Contents

Introduction

What is a Boundary?

The Make-Up of Our Personality and Boundaries

The First Step to Setting Effective Boundaries

Your Inner Critic

Which Selves will Help with Setting Boundaries?

Your Inner Child

Energetic Boundaries

Boundaries with Family Members

Which Boundary-Type Are You at Family Gatherings?

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Introduction

Setting boundaries is an essential part of living a healthy, comfortable and safe life. Boundaries help us protect ourselves and others. They enable us to maintain healthy relationships, respect ourselves and others, and maintain a sense of autonomy and control over our lives.

However, many people struggle with setting boundaries. Often they don't know how to set boundaries, or they feel guilty or uncomfortable doing so. They may worry about hurting others' feelings or being seen as selfish or rude. In some cases, people may not even realise they need to set boundaries until they've already been pushed so far that they over-react or something terrible happens and they start to see the situation more clearly.

But what exactly are boundaries? And how do you set them in such a way that they work for you and the other person or people in the situation?

This little ebook explains what boundaries are and how to set them with greater