The Self-Love Project: how to finally fall in love with yourself

By Gabrielle G.

"Once upon a time, I did everything for others to love me while not loving myself unconditionally. The result was heartbreakingly painful. But I don't regret anything; I've learned, I've grown, and now I love myself." -Gabrielle G.



Through her personal story, poetry, meditation and jou

• Language: English
• Publisher: Gabrielle Guillon
• Release date: Oct 26, 2022
• ISBN: 9781777488260

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The Self-Love Project

The Self-Love Project

How to finally fall in love wtih yourself

Gabrielle G.

Gabrielle G.

The Self-Love Project Copyright ©2022 by Gabrielle G.

All rights reserved.

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No part of this book may be reproduced, distributed, or transmitted in any form or by any means including electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise without the prior written consent of the author.

Disclaimer: This book contains explicit mature content and language and is intended for adults ages 18+.

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Cover by Gabrielle G.

Poems and Formatting by Gabrielle G.

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First Printing, 2022

ISBN: 978-1-7774882-5-3

Ebook: 978-1-7774882-6-0

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Contents

Introduction

Foreword

1. Unbuilding Your House of Lies

Exercise 1: Introduce yourself

2. Rebuilding Yourself One Truth at a Time

Exercise 2: Mirror Talk

Poem

3. Keep Your Eyes on the Prize

Exercise 3: Text your best friend

Poem

4. Stopping Your Monster

5. Your First Cup of Self-Love

Exercise 4: Dream big. Be selfish.

6. For-Give

Exercise 5: Forgiving yourself

Exercise 6: Forgiving others

Poem

7. Clean Up Your Mess

Exercise 7: Create your routine

8. Be Smart

Exercise 8: Spend time with yourself

9. Boundawhat?

Exercise 9: Hold yourself accountable

Chapter 10

Exercise 10: Final meditation for self-love

Merci, etc.…

About the Author

By the same author

Introduction

The Self-Love Project: How To Finally Fall In Love With Yourself

By Gabrielle G.

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Once upon a time, I did everything for others to love me while not loving myself unconditionally. The result was heartbreakingly painful. But I don’t regret anything; I’ve learned, I’ve grown, and now I love myself. –Gabrielle G.

Through her personal story, poetry, meditation and journaling exercises, Gabrielle G. brings you on a journey of self-love, so you never feel rejected, abandoned, unlovable, or unworthy ever again. In ten chapters, you will discover who you are, change the narrative of your story, fall in love with yourself and be who you always wanted to be. So, grab a pen and a journal, sit comfortably, and take a leap of faith. This book is only the beginning of your most beautiful love story.

When you love yourself

Everything falls around you

Exactly where it’s meant to be

And you don’t need to push

Rose thorns down others’ throats

To finally feel loved and worthy

Of the petals you carry.

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Gabrielle G.

Foreword

Before you start this self-love journey with me, let me tell you who I am. Once upon a time, I did everything for others to love me while not loving myself unconditionally. The result was heartbreakingly painful. But I don’t regret anything; I’ve learned, I’ve grown, and now I love who I am.

The truth is, I am no one and I am everyone.

I am not a psychotherapist, a psychologist, or a doctor. I am not a self-help leader who has been giving conferences about loving yourself for years. I am a woman who didn’t love herself for about forty years, who found a way to do so through therapy, and also through rewriting the narrative of her own life.

I am a mother, a poet, an author, a survivor, a friend, and a lover, and I want to share my journey to help others in their healing recovery. I am no one and everyone, and in finding love, I found peace. I found a way to love myself and to stop my demons ruling my life.

Here is my first advice: take this book with a grain of salt. Take what resonates and leave what doesn’t, or come back to it later.

Loving yourself is not an easy path to choose, but such a rewarding one to walk down.

Whatever you need healing from, know that the answer is mostly in loving yourself more. I want to help you see your own worth.

Nonetheless, let me tell you something important before we start. If you are suffering, if you are depressed or in an extremely dark place, if you need support, I urge you to talk to someone in the medical field.

I have tried many, many, many alternative ways of healing on my journey, but nothing has replaced psychotherapy.

Now, let’s begin our journey.

Through poetry, meditation, journaling, and sharing my own story, I will try to guide you in discovering your awesomeness. There is no right or wrong way to do this; there is only pride in meeting ourselves for the first time and finally falling in love with who we truly are.

So, take a pen and a journal, sit down comfortably, calm your mind, and take a step towards what might be the best love story of your life.

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XO,

Gabrielle

Very little grows on jagged rock. Be ground, be crumbled, so wildflowers will come up where you are.

—Rumi

Chapter 1

Unbuilding Your House of Lies

Hi, my name is Gabrielle, and I am an addict.

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This is not

how I thought I would introduce myself. I generally start by saying that I am an author, a poet, a mother and that I truly believe me telling my journey can help you walk yours.

Being an addict is not what defines me, but through the months I worked on loving myself I accepted that it is part of who I am.

I already knew I have an addictive personality, and I never drank to profusion and never used drugs to the point of losing touch with reality because I saw the damages of this kind of addiction on friends and family. And, to be honest, because I was always too scared to lose control. Despite this, I recognize that I am an addict and I work daily on keeping balance and peace centered in my life.

What was I addicted to? The most addictive drug humans will ever try to get sober from: Love.

And, to be honest, I still am.

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For as long as

I can remember, I looked for the high of being loved in every relationship I entered. I looked for unconditional love, with no other care in the world. I searched under the piles of frogs I kissed, wanting to become their princess. I jumped from friendship to friendship, held on to people I shouldn’t be holding on to, begged, sobbed, and pushed so I could feel the rush of the dose. The highs were magical, but the lows? Oh, the lows were hard and always made me question my worth. If someone didn’t love me, I took it to mean that I was not worth of love. I thought I was the one at fault. I found everything I did wrong and continued blaming myself until I had shattered my own heart.

As you can imagine, this was a major problem.

I truly thought that for me to be worthy of living, I needed to be loved by others.

I fully believed that if others loved me, I wouldn’t feel like a failure.

I utterly assumed that another loving me was my only salvation.

Over the years, I hid this deep insecurity under sarcasm, humor, confidence, and a certain coldness that I explained as "being guarded. I was the first one to say that I didn’t easily open to people when, in fact, I was dying for them to dig into my story, to show me love and attention.

I accepted bad love and put myself in disrespectful situations because I thought that was all I was worthy of.

I built a wall around myself, complete with fiery hoops at the top that climbers had to jump through. I made it so hard to break in to see the real me that I wouldn’t feel disappointed if no one succeeded or even tried. But then, I kept giving the climbers water to quench the fire, so that I wouldn’t end up alone.

As you can imagine, I was a mess.

You accept the love you think you deserve, my best friend said one day, quoting The