What Is Love Really?: A Practical Guide to Universal Love

By Dr. Mary Ann Pellegrino

Have you ever felt that love can be a mystery? What does it all mean? How come we love a particular person? Why are we in difficult relationships? Have you ever been confused by what is love, really? For some, it has been confusing and sometimes a foreign concept. It takes courage to look at love in a diverse way that can form new paradigms of thought.

In this groundbreaking book, Dr. Mary Ann Pellegrino challenges us to look at our thoughts and perspectives on love in a unique and challenging way. She guides us through experiences that we may have encountered with relationships or love that have been stressful and non-rewarding. Join Mary Ann in understanding why we choose the relationships that we are in and the patterns we create in our life so that we can begin to experience a more expansive perspective toward a freeing and happier existence. Dr. Pellegrino helps others understand the true concept of love and how it can improve our life by the simple practices of utilizing perspectives that embrace love in a different way. Take the leap and begin to understand what love is, really.

• Language: English
• Publisher: Balboa Press
• Release date: Jun 30, 2016
• ISBN: 9781504361033

Dr. Mary Ann Pellegrino

Dr. Mary Ann Pellegrino has been a lifelong learner and educator. Her extensive background for the past 30 years includes counseling, sales consulting, collegiate educational training, and motivational speaking and project training along with coaching for optimal transforming outcomes. Dr. Pellegrino’s formal education is extensive with five degrees including Electronic Computer Engineering, Psychology, Rehabilitative Counseling & Mental Health Therapy, and a Doctoral degree in Education Leadership and Counseling. Her experience and certifications cover a wide range that includes being an Educator, Consultant for Institutional Effectiveness, Psychotherapist, and Supreme Court Certified Mediator for families, and Intuitive Healer. She has also studied with Shamans throughout the world from the Peruvian Amazon in South America to a Taoist Master Priest from Wudang, China.

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Balboa Press rev. date: 11/07/2016

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction

Perspective

What about love and our behavior?

Love and Freedom

Action versus Non-Action and Love

Being Authentic and Love

Love and Responsibility

Love and Purpose

Attachment, Detachment and Love

Attraction and Love

The Highs and Lows

Our Unexamined Life?

Trusting the Process

What does Unconditional love really mean?

How Do We Cultivate Love?

Conscious and Un-conscious Love

How is one’s Wisdom Crucial to Authentic Love?

How does one practice Loving Oneself?

Love, Science and Frequency

Service to Others

Simple Loving Practices

Bibliography

Have you ever felt that love can be confusing? What does it all mean? How come we love a particular person? Why are we in difficult relationships?

Dr. Mary Ann Pellegrino challenges us to look at our thoughts and perspectives on love in a unique and challenging way. She guides us through experiences that we may have encountered with relationships or love that have been stressful and non-rewarding. Join Mary Ann in understanding why we choose the relationships that we are in and the patterns we create in our life so that we can begin to experience a more expansive perspective toward a freeing and happier existence.

A special thank you to my dear friend, Jodi Gregory for the time given to assist me with this love project.

To my husband, Rigo Martinez for all his loving support.

To my siblings, Michael, Johnny and Norma for all their loving inspiration.

To my parents who taught me about love.

On behalf of my dear mother who was my spiritual guide of divine love.

To all my dear friends that have given me words of loving encouragement along the way.

INTRODUCTION

What is love? The concept of love is much greater than many of us think. Often times we perceive it as a relationship; it may be with a spouse, mother, father, children or friends. Love is actually much greater. I am not saying that love does not involve these aspects but there is a greater perspective to consider regarding love. When we learn the greater concept, all else becomes an understanding and broader view of acceptance within our reality. For me to share more about love, I want to first share that I was born with an understanding about love. I am going to share with you information about myself so that you can have a better understanding of why I am writing this book. These experiences and my awareness are not typical and can even be construed as bizarre but it is my truth and it is time for me to share. You may gravitate to this information either because you have had similar experiences or you find it fascinating. Either way, it is likely because it is time for you to honor what you know or explore more of what you may need to remember that has been forgotten on a cellular level. In this introduction, I am taking you to my personal understanding about love at a very early age in this life so that I can share this different viewpoint.

My first recollection on this earth was being a newborn in a crib with my mother and father in their bed next to me. I actually recalled my thoughts as I looked at both of them and thought how interesting that they are considered loving but I did not feel it permeate the bedroom. Then I dosed off to another adventure. Another memory I have was of being bathed in the kitchen sink at about four months old and thinking that the faucet was going to hit my head. I was trying to reach it to move it away from me; however, I was too small to reach it. Each time I tried, I would splash the water. I looked over to the woman called my mom and thought oh my, this body of mine is so clumsy and how in the world am I going to communicate with this gentle woman. Of course, my mother kept thinking that I was just exploring the water. I felt a compassionate love for this woman (my mother) but was not attached at that time to having a heartfelt relationship. I knew I had chosen her as a parent and that we came to an agreement before I was born for this experience to occur. What I realized later in life is that not everyone experiences childhood with adult thought processes. I could see, feel and intuit with amazing accuracy at a very young age. Even though as an infant, I could not talk, all my thoughts were like that of a logical adult. I could also see the imprints of many frequencies from the past that overlay the present. What I mean is that I was able to tell when someone had some past emotional conflict or issues because the energy would overlay on their body as an imprint. In fact, all of these energies are occurring concurrently. I could see how these energies influenced the current happenings. For example, if there were many arguments that occurred in a particular room, I could feel and see the energy and how it was influencing those that entered the room and their behavior.

As I grew older, I started to understand other worldly experiences because I was escorted to other realities from beings that were my guides to other dimensional worlds. This may seem difficult to comprehend but it happened often and with such detail and knowledge that it was impossible for me to have gathered on this earth especially since I was not yet reading. I would be shown music and inventions of past and future, and other levels of existence. I would go to classes with other intellectual beings. They would show me different experiences and dimensions to help me with coping on this earthly dimension. I was always being reminded of the bigger picture of our existence. I realized that I had contracted to know and remember this information so that I could pass it on to others. By the age of sixteen I had reviewed and had full recall of all my earthly lifetimes. I became aware of what I had experienced in those lifetimes. Some were very painful and some were joyful. I could also see certain patterns that I kept repeating from lifetime to lifetime. By being exposed to these repeated life behavior patterns, I was able to see what I do in this one that needs correcting. These experiences made me realize what I wanted to experience and learn in this lifetime. The bottom line for humanity, and myself included, is to experience and recognize love. We are here to open our hearts so we actually feel the opening happening. We need to really understand the multifacets of what love is and what it means to love our self in totality. I finally