Summary of Rick Hanson & Forrest Hanson's Resilient

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#1 Compassion is the ability to feel pain with the desire to relieve it. It is both soft and muscular. When people feel compassion, motor planning areas in the brain begin preparing for action.

#2 When we treat others with respect and care, the best in them usually comes out. We can also treat ourselves the same way. But most of us are a better friend to others than we are to ourselves.

#3 It’s important to understand the reasons it’s both fair and important to be on your own side. Otherwise, beliefs like these can take over: It’s selfish to think about what you want. You don’t deserve love.

#4 The process of positive brain change is simple: first, experience what you want to develop in yourself, and second, focus on it and keep it going to increase its consolidation in your nervous system.

• Language: English
• Publisher: IRB Media
• Release date: Aug 18, 2022
• ISBN: 9798350015928

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#1

Compassion is the ability to feel pain with the desire to relieve it. It is both soft and muscular. When people feel compassion, motor planning areas in the brain begin preparing for action.

#2

When we treat others with respect and care, the best in them usually comes out. We can also treat ourselves the same way. But most of us are a better friend to others than we are to ourselves.

#3

It’s important to understand the reasons it’s both fair and important to be on your own side. Otherwise, beliefs like these can take over: It’s selfish to think about what you want. You don’t deserve love.

#4

The process of positive brain change is simple: first, experience what you want to develop in yourself, and second, focus on it and keep it going to increase its consolidation in your nervous system.

#5

When you are on someone’s side, you are committed to their well-being. When you are on your own side, you are committed to your well-being. It’s normal to feel unworthy when you are on someone’s side, and to feel committed when you are on your own side.

#6

Compassion is a warmhearted sensitivity to suffering, from subtle mental or physical discomfort to agonizing pain, along with the desire to help if you can. You get the benefits of both giving and receiving compassion when you offer it to yourself.

#7

Self-compassion is the act of treating yourself with kindness and understanding, even when you’re not feeling it. It’s a difficult concept for many people to grasp, as the brain is designed to be changed by our experiences, and it’s normal to internalize the ways that our parents and others have treated us.

#8

To grow your compassion muscle, you must first learn how to bring it to your own suffering. You can do this by simply noticing when you’re already experiencing something enjoyable or useful, and then deliberately creating an experience of something you want to develop.

#9

Compassion is the act of caring for someone else. It is a warmheartedness, a sympathetic concern for someone else’s pain. It is applied to others, but also applied to ourselves.

#10

We can’t avoid or push away our reactions. We must accept them. Otherwise, our nudging will have little traction and we’ll be just putting a false face on how we really feel.

#11

Acceptance is the act of accepting something as it is, without adding anything to it. It is the opposite of judgment, which is adding something to your experience. It can be difficult to accept certain parts of your experience, but that’s all right.

#12

The most important minute in life is the