LIFE LESSONS:

By James Miller

There are thousands of self-help books that have inspired many people. We can all recommend our favorite book to our friends and family, but what happens if we struggle and can't find our favorite self-help book or have the time or energy to research a new book title to help us?

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• Language: English
• Publisher: LIFEOLOGY®, LLC Publishing
• Release date: Jun 14, 2022
• ISBN: 9798986329314

James Miller

James Miller is Professor of Liberal Studies and Politics and Special Advisor to the Provost at The New School for Social Research.

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Overview

Acknowledgments                                                   

Book Overview                                                               

When Your Emotions Overwhelm You

Radical Acceptance                                               

accepting the facts as they  6 are without any

judgment

Faith Versus Fear

They both ask us to do the same thing, to believe in

something that may or not be true.

The Sky is Falling

Fearing your worst-case scenario coming true

The Importance of Expressing Your Emotions    Emotions have a physiological impact on your body

Why am I so Angry?

Five anger payoffs we experience when anger is

used as a coping mechanism

Emotional Forecasting

If you project your current circumstances into the

future, your future will feel hopeless

Thinking Errors                                                       

Dysfunctional thinking patterns we use that cause

    conflict in our lives

Developing Self-Soothing Behaviors                   

All self-soothing behaviors derive from your five

senses

Blindsided by Life

Finding your Resilience

When life happens, what do you do?

When all Hope is Lost                                           

There is always hope regardless of how you feel

Overcoming your Season of Crisis                     

How do you handle adversity?

Defining your Life Story

Your circumstances don’t determine who you are; your

mindset does.

Closed Doors                                                         

Missed opportunities are not always what they seem 

Improving your Relationships

Making Excuses for Others                                 

Even though it makes sense why people act a certain

way, it does not release them of their responsibility.

Who are you in your Relationship?

Ways to improve your relationship

Preventing Backstabbing Friends

Practical tools to weed out toxic people from your life.

Four Categories of People in Your Life             

Learning how to invest energy in healthy relationships

Compromising in Dating Relationships             

Dating people, we were never meant to date.

Moving on with your Life

Forgiving Yourself                                               

Letting go of past situations

But, I Need Closure…                                           

You are the one who decides when you get closure

Too Much Baggage                                             

Your self-perception determines how others see you

Life Lessons

What’s the lesson?

Reframing a situation to learn more about yourself

Who am I?

Whatever you believe about yourself becomes

your reality

You Can’t Reject Me

People don’t reject us, we reject ourselves

Identifying Self-Sabotage

Mediocrity: The Dream Killer                             

Doing what you’ve always done is a sign of

mediocrity

Creating Self-Acceptance

Your core beliefs are often based on things that

aren't true

Just Stand Up                                                                 

Just focus on the first 30 seconds of a task

Creating your Future

Getting Your Life Back on Track                         

Refocusing on who you are and whom you want to

become

Wait with expectancy                                           

When you wait with expectancy you are preparing

yourself for when a fortuitous opportunity arises.

Soaring with Eagle                                               

You can’t spend time with chickens and expect

to soar with eagles

Living a fulfilled life                                             

Analyzing all areas in your life

Improving your Communication

Healthy Conversation                                         

Three criteria to use in order to create effective

communication

Setting Healthy Boundaries

Being assertive internally and externally will keep you

safe

Steps for Effective Communication

Practice these steps for improved communication

Reactive or Proactive Responses

Learning how to be in control of your responses

Tackling the Holidays

Dysfunctional Family Holiday Reunions         

Setting limits and expectations during the holiday

season.

Overcoming the Holiday Blues

Ways to be proactive during your holiday season

Why Your Year’s Resolutions Typically Fail

Without proper planning and measurable goals,

people will fail

About the Author

Who is James Miller?                                                                                     

Acknowledgments



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Ihave been blessed to meet many amazing people like you. Like all of us, I have people who encouraged and pushed me when I had self-doubt. I want to acknowledge them.

For those who know me, I have a pretty strong faith in my higher power. For me, He is God. For you, it may be something else. But, without the gifts, talents, and opportunities He has given me, I’d not have put in all the handwork that has gotten me to where I am today. I am so grateful and humbled by all He has done for me. My heart cannot express how thankful I am.

My mother, Ida, is my biggest supporter and one of my closest friends. She had always stood by me, even when my life imploded. I love you, mom. 

My family is important and has always been a strong support to me. I love being Uncle James, The Great.

To my close friends, my biggest cheerleaders, thank you for bringing me joy and allowing me to be me. You guys are in my 4th category! (Read chapter 17.)

To the one I love, you know who you are. I’m not going anywhere. 

Thank you to my fellow broadcasters, authors, clinicians, and friends who stood beside me and allowed me to use their platforms to promote this book. Thank you so much!!

Thanks to Christopher Gillispie and Kyle Ankney from Red Heifer Media (I love the name of their company). Thank you for being the best CEO and Publicist a guy like me could ever have. I highly endorse you. RedHeiferMedia.com

Many more people have influenced me and taught me valuable life lessons. Thank you!

I also want to thank all the neigh sayers. Without your criticism and laughter, I’d probably not be this James Miller…, and I’m pretty cool, so thank you!

Lastly, thanks to all the readers. I am truly humbled and honored that you’d entrust me when you are struggling. You are not alone. Never alone. 

Enjoy this book! I know it’ll help you as it has helped